Meeting people in college was so much easier! Now I am 28, where do I meet people?

[smile95]

It was so much easier to meet people when I was in college! If I work with all old people and nto really wanting to meet people in bars, where do 28+ people meet other single people?

 

Would it offend a guy to just walk up to them and talk to them in the gym, mall, restaurant? Isa that ok? A guy friend of mine said it would be flattering.

 

Any thoughts? I hear all of these people on here who do NC or break up and their exes are with people already???? They must be in their early 20's? Everyone my age does not seem to jump around so quickly? At least my friends.

 

When you are older, maybe your relationships mean more? Maybe you take them more seriuosly than you did at 19-20?

 

Just thinking outloud. Not saying people in younger relationships are not in love, just wondering if it is a different kind of love?

[moimeme]

Go where there are people. Which is everyplace - festivals, clubs (as in hobby clubs, not bar clubs), volunteering, etc etc. Find activities you like and go there - are you into hiking? Join a hiking club. Or take up a new activity that you always wanted to take up - music or dance lessons, tai chi, etc etc. You find compatible folks often while doing activities you enjoy.

[RecordProducer]

I've always had a problem with meeting people. The ones I would meet I didn't like. So I tried the dating sites and that's how I met my two last BFs in the last two years. I liked it cuz I could see the things that interest me such as education, goals, writing skills, etc.

At least I don't have to deal with married guys who want some fun or younger boys who think I should be happy to sleep with some young meat.

[smile95]

I tried that once, but now I just cannot seem to bring myself to pay to join.....I am on a pretty strict budget trying to pay down some past debt.

 

If a guy does not start up conversation w/ you, does that mean they are not interested? Or is it ok to start one w/ them?

[Marshbear]

It does get harder to met quality people as you get older but 28 is not to old to find a guy. You can walk up to people in malls and stores but it is usually better to find them through friends or social settings. I would also suggest to join a club or activity that you like and see if there are people you may be interested in or someone who could introduce you to someone they know.

 

Just don't be to needy or obsessive, it is a turn-off. You can't force it. Just let things flow naturally. There is also on-line dating. I have not tried it but many people who are past 25 or so are using it to find a mate. Keep yourself busy and open to people and the chances are good for you.

[Lilyann]

I have tried online dating. I was unsure at first. I thought of it as my "little science experiment". Maybe you can think of it as your too. I meet the guy that I have been dating for a few months on there. I am in my mid-twenties as well. It is very hard to meet people. I wish you the best.

[Sexy Kitty]

I agree with Record Producer. I have met alot of great friends online. Just join a group of interest and find people in your area.

[VirginiaBob]

Met lots online. Also church is a good place, but maybe not your church - try out different ones all over town and find one with a large proportion with your demographics.

[smile95]

Everyone in my church is either married with 2.5 kids or old as can be! I tried online dating last year and IT WAS HORRIBLE!!!!The guy picked me up(mistake) and took me bowling, got kicked out for betting(he did, not me) asked how I felt about him casue he was attracted to me...I was honest and said no. He started playing music about "jesus loves you no matter what" and CRIED!!! He text me all night how he would have treated me like a queen....I guess I could give it one more chance-the online dating, not him. I was just scared after that!

[VirginiaBob]

yea, that's why you have to try different churches. we have one in my area with lots of single twenty and thirty somthings.