Need badly

[Friedpickles08]

Ok my bf and I have been together for 8 years and have a 6 year old as well. We've had a ups and downs but many downs than ups we now don't have sex but once a mth the want for me isn't there anymore due to resentment from past fights he used to call me names alot and I felt like he had to put me down to lift himself up and he never showed me how he feels but Everytime we fight it ends up who's leaving who's staying. I own our home and our cars but I can't make it on my own. We dont have much affection but it's like I love him but same time want more then he does in a relationship he's a good dad and good with making money and bills but there's been lies in the past and I can't get past those and the names I was called it's like I'm scared itll go back to that n I can't let go of it n move forward I also feel like I don't feel anything anymore when we kiss hug touch anything. He tells me it's normal after so many yrs everyone ends up this way but I feel we wouldn't be this way if the past didn't happen I even thought maybe something's wrong with me sexual wise so went to doctor but nothing's wrong. We don't have fun together we r super stressed in life and at each other that's been going on the whole time we've been together and now I have this guy that comes into my work who I am attracted to and I start thinking maybe I'm not happy maybe I could be happier with that guy maybe we'd have more fun then I go nooo bc I can't do bills alone at my house n I don't want the break up fight and the stress of that and what if things wouldn't work with that guy n i ruin the life with my child's father. I'm scared of staying or leaving. Can you help is this all normal is this a crush or a sign I should move on or is it just me over thinking

[preraph]

Your relationship is in the crapper, so instead of subjecting a kid to that, you need to move on and make him move out. You can find another single mother to move in and it will help you both out. Roommates.com is probably still around but I'm not sure.

 

Also, if he moves out and you take primary custody, he will have to pay some child support and maybe some of the mortgage, depending on what the judge agrees to. But my suggestion is always to insist they take joint custody and have the child half the time, which means less child support, but gives you time to work and also to have a life!