Author sam123456 Posted August 18, 2016 Author Posted August 18, 2016 OP, did you even talk at all before the number move? The way your post reads, it was totally cold. If so that's a low percentage play and that's what you did wrong. Nope. I guess that must've been what I did wrong.
mortensorchid Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 I actually witnessed that happen to someone. I was standing in line for ice cream at an ice cream store, the guy ahead of me asked the girl behind the counter what her name was. She said "(Name)", he asked "Can I have your number?" She said "No." He left. I think she is/was thinking of safety, plus her job. If a customer asks for a phone number it's not exactly good to give it out for safety as well as "the sake of professionalism". If it was between two employees, also problematic as it could lead to an office romance. True, the one asking may never contact the giver, but consider the fact it's a complete stranger asking for your number. True, this happens with the internet, but ... Measure your surroundings. 1
SevenCity Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Nope. I guess that must've been what I did wrong. Yes, unless you are Brad Pitt your chances of a successful frozen approach are almost Nil. Next time, chat her up as suggested. Give her a reason to want to continue the conversation. I dated a girl for several years I met at a supermarket (when I was your age). We were a bunch of punks getting beer and she said "I could use one of those" so I pretty much jumped over to her register to chat her up. I met her after work that night and we hit it off. I've also been shot down by women at their jobs. Don't worry about coming off as a creep. If a woman doesn't like you, she will think you're a creep. If she does, she will think you are bold and alpha. Gauge the interest and ask for her number when you can see she is showing signs. Don't do it as your opener, but do it quick enough. What you want to do is pursue the women who are interested and move on from the ones who are not.
jen1447 Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Nope. I guess that must've been what I did wrong. It order to make a good no-dialog play you have to have some serious heavy subtext going on. If that's not there, like if the first time she ever saw you was 2 seconds before you asked for her number, well ....only the primos can pull that off.
preraph Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Even if it was out of the blue, you asking for her number, if she thought you were attractive and she was available, she'd have given you her number. 1
Shanex Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 What went wrong was the cold and abrupt approach. If she were your regular cashier and you were in your regular grocery, things could have worked out. Also maybe you are not her type at all. Cashier gets hit on a lot everyday. My friends even dated one.. After several purchase in a grocery and always choosing her line and this worked out. Hence you have to chat her up a bit before the cold approach and asking her number.. Its bold and if you try this 10 times a week (grocery, library, pool, bars) there's always one lady to say yes and exchange numbers. It's PUA maths.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 I cannot believe this is a serious question on the part of the OP. It's as if he was mystified that a woman, in the public eye, while working, whom he's never met would just say, "Well, of course! Here's my number!" What?!
joseb Posted August 19, 2016 Posted August 19, 2016 I cannot believe this is a serious question on the part of the OP. It's as if he was mystified that a woman, in the public eye, while working, whom he's never met would just say, "Well, of course! Here's my number!" What?! Yeah i would assume it's a total lost cause, but interestingly a couple of replies here indicate that some women will go for it if she is attracted, so i guess you never know!
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 19, 2016 Posted August 19, 2016 Yeah i would assume it's a total lost cause, but interestingly a couple of replies here indicate that some women will go for it if she is attracted, so i guess you never know! I hear you, but the OP's response was as though it SHOULD have been a sure thing and he was COMPLETELY lost to how it could ever have failed.
Author sam123456 Posted August 21, 2016 Author Posted August 21, 2016 I cannot believe this is a serious question on the part of the OP. It's as if he was mystified that a woman, in the public eye, while working, whom he's never met would just say, "Well, of course! Here's my number!" What?! I kind of figured I did something wrong. That's why I laughed after I said "Okay".
Author sam123456 Posted August 21, 2016 Author Posted August 21, 2016 Also, am I correct in believing that if they are wearing a ring, I shouldn't bother asking?
JDPT Posted August 21, 2016 Posted August 21, 2016 Now you just made going to that grocery store awkward.
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