Guy swears he is into me but doesn't see me often

[Charmed22]

Has he tried to make plans to see you in the past nine days? Why has it been so long since you've gotten together?

 

No he has not tried to make a single plan to see me. The last time he made a plan to see me was last monday and it was in a group setting with my cousin who is a good friend of his to see a movie they wanted to see. I hardly even count that as a date. I have been over to his house which is only 15 mins away from mine and as far as I can tell there isn't a woman living there or evidence of another relationship. Like I said, he is a family friend.

 

The reason why I am worried is cause he DID come on strong during the trip. We hooked up on the trip and spent the entire time together and decided to take it home and see where it goes. He asked my cousin and my brother for blessing to continue to see me after we get home. Since we have been back he has backtracked. He said he has jumped into relationships before and it never turn out well for him cause he didnt know these girls as friends beforehand. He said he eventually finds out they aren't compatible and when its over they never speak again and says he dosent want that with me. He said he wants to take the time to get to know me without sex and being physical which I was perfectly okay with and haven't had sex with him since the trip.

 

Its the complete back track thats freaking me out and making me think something is up. We were literally coupled up the entire time on the trip and now that we are back home he wants to go snail slow. In my mind I get that it was a trip and we were two people in the moment and just having fun but somehow its hard for me not to get into overthinking mode when a complete 180 has been done. How could someone go from wanting to see me the entire trip to now not wanting to see me at all? Yet he swears he is still into me? I understand the circumstances yet for some reason my gut feeling doesn't

Edited August 18, 2016 by Charmed22

[angel.eyes]

Again, does it matter why?

 

Bottom line, he won't date you, see you, or even finish a conversation with you. What more hint do you need to accept that he's lost interest. The Goodyear blimp flying a message in the sky? Let it go and move on!

[aries85]

Maybe this is just me, but I would give him a piece of your mind. It's pretty ****ty that he's leading you on and still saying that he's interested.

 

It's so annoying that people nowadays can't be upfront and sincere. People are so afraid of getting hurt that they play all these games.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I'm one of those women who would rather whip a shoe at his head then sit around waiting for it to drop.

 

I have way too much self respect and self worth to wait on anyone who only delivers lip service. NEXT!

[Charmed22]

I get that there is a very high chance he isn't interested. If it wasn't for him promising to me that his intentions are good I would have been done with this by now. I like to see the best in situations and people but I know I can be a little gullible. I'm aware I have been coming on strong for only 3 weeks and I need to fall back and leave the ball in his court. The question is how?

 

 

He is still initiating text with me. I purposely haven't been as responsive these past 2 days which is causing him to ask me if everything is okay. (again why would he care if he wasn't interested?). I told him yeah I have just been busy. I don't want to come across as blowing him off in return or seem like I'm uninterested. I don't want to start playing childish games with him. Should I delete and block his number? Should I upfront tell him I'm no longer interested like we promised or should I put my guard back up and see where it goes without expecting much and maybe he will come around after I give him enough space

Edited August 18, 2016 by Charmed22

[h0000]

I get that there is a very high chance he isn't interested. If it wasn't for him promising to me that his intentions are good I would have been done with this by now. I like to see the best in situations and people but I know I can be a little gullible. I'm aware I have been coming on strong for only 3 weeks and I need to fall back and leave the ball in his court. The question is how?

 

 

He is still initiating text with me. I purposely haven't been as responsive these past 2 days which is causing him to ask me if everything is okay. (again why would he care if he wasn't interested?). I told him yeah I have just been busy. Should I delete and block his number? Should I upfront tell him I'm no longer interested like we promised or should I put my guard back up and see where it goes without expecting much?

 

If I were you I would just have an honest conversation with him. Either Ask him if he were put off because you've come on too strong. And if you are willing to adjust that can he step up as well. Or tell him his reluctance or lack of interest to spend time with you has turned you off and you no longer wish to continue if he isn't going to change.

[Kamille]

I get that there is a very high chance he isn't interested. If it wasn't for him promising to me that his intentions are good I would have been done with this by now. I like to see the best in situations and people but I know I can be a little gullible. I'm aware I have been coming on strong for only 3 weeks and I need to fall back and leave the ball in his court. The question is how?

 

 

He is still initiating text with me. I purposely haven't been as responsive these past 2 days which is causing him to ask me if everything is okay. (again why would he care if he wasn't interested?). I told him yeah I have just been busy. I don't want to come across as blowing him off in return or seem like I'm uninterested. I don't want to start playing childish games with him. Should I delete and block his number? Should I upfront tell him I'm no longer interested like we promised or should I put my guard back up and see where it goes without expecting much and maybe he will come around after I give him enough space

 

What do you want to do?

[Gaeta]

Tell him when he said you'd take things slow you didn't think it would be at the speed of a snail and you had something else in mind. If this is the speed he wishes to pursue with you than you prefer to let it go and find someone with more time on his hands.

[mbee]

I get that there is a very high chance he isn't interested. If it wasn't for him promising to me that his intentions are good I would have been done with this by now. I like to see the best in situations and people but I know I can be a little gullible. I'm aware I have been coming on strong for only 3 weeks and I need to fall back and leave the ball in his court. The question is how?

 

 

He is still initiating text with me. I purposely haven't been as responsive these past 2 days which is causing him to ask me if everything is okay. (again why would he care if he wasn't interested?). I told him yeah I have just been busy. I don't want to come across as blowing him off in return or seem like I'm uninterested. I don't want to start playing childish games with him. Should I delete and block his number? Should I upfront tell him I'm no longer interested like we promised or should I put my guard back up and see where it goes without expecting much and maybe he will come around after I give him enough space

 

Your best chance at salvaging this situation is to keep it cool, be responsive and give him some space. Until he plans a date, there's no reason to talk things out or give him much of your attention. If he does organize a date, I think that's a great opportunity to let him know that you like to see guys more frequently. You can do this in a very subtle and friendly way too.

 

For instance a guy a couple of weeks ago tried to lock me in for a date 2 weeks from our last date. I wrote via text, "yeah that sounds great, but next Sunday seems far off from our last date. Are you interested in meeting earlier?"

 

Anyway find ways to communicate what you'd like but also work through a compromise. If he's happy with a date once a week and you are cool with that too, set that as the expectation. Don't try to force him to be okay with seeing you several times a week and don't accept seeing a guy once a fortnight if it's too long. Find a happy medium. If he can't work around figuring out times that suit both of you, then that shows you aren't compatible in the long-run. I'm introverted but I'd still like to see a guy I like at least once a week.

 

Remember you've been on 4 dates. If he's not interested or there's comp ability issues, walk away. He's not a jerk and neither are you. You are just 2 people figuring out if a relationship could potentially work.

[Redhead14]

I get that there is a very high chance he isn't interested. If it wasn't for him promising to me that his intentions are good I would have been done with this by now. I like to see the best in situations and people but I know I can be a little gullible. I'm aware I have been coming on strong for only 3 weeks and I need to fall back and leave the ball in his court. The question is how?

 

 

He is still initiating text with me. I purposely haven't been as responsive these past 2 days which is causing him to ask me if everything is okay. (again why would he care if he wasn't interested?). I told him yeah I have just been busy. I don't want to come across as blowing him off in return or seem like I'm uninterested. I don't want to start playing childish games with him. Should I delete and block his number? Should I upfront tell him I'm no longer interested like we promised or should I put my guard back up and see where it goes without expecting much and maybe he will come around after I give him enough space

 

I purposely haven't been as responsive these past 2 days

 

I don't want to start playing childish games with him

-- you already have done that . . .

 

 

Get out of his head and into yours. You're playing games because you're trying to figure out what will work to get him to do what you want.

 

The fact is that someone may very well care for and want another person very much but they have different needs in terms of how often they need to see that person or different styles in terms of communication, etc.

 

It is up to you to determine whether that persons needs and style work for YOU. If things don't match up organically, and you aren't satisfied, you should move on.

 

You have two choices, tell him you don't think it's going to work for you or tell him what you need/expect and see if he makes the adjustment.

Edited August 19, 2016 by Redhead14

[Charmed22]

I just wanted to ask again - because I don't see a response to this.

 

If YOU'VE been asking HIM out and he's said no that many times - do not ask him again.

 

Start dating several other guys - this one isn't interested ENOUGH to make effort!

 

Come on - doing laundry? No to tacos! He's not interested. At this point he's staying in touch when he wants a booty call late at night.

 

A guy who wants to date you ASKS YOU OUT at least a few times a week for an outing he HAS planned and made effort for.

 

Heck, you're not even an afterthought - if his laundry comes before seeing you.

 

Don't beg to see him - you deserve to be treated better than this!

 

 

First date he asked me out to go to a bar and it was last minute. I accepted cause I had nothing else to do. Second date I was with friends and was bored. I was texting him and asked if he wanted to hang out so we met at a bar and went back to his place afterwards and I spent the night. He did not attempt to have sex with me. The next time I asked him if he wanted to stop by my place I was cooking so he came by for a few hours and left. The last time I saw him he invited me to see a movie with him and my cousin. We hung out alone for an hour after at his place then I went home.

[joyful]

i am very sorry to say this, but i think what you had was a hookup.

 

and, because he is a family friend and doesn't want to come off as the bad guy, he is acting like it was more than that.

 

he is doing the slowest slow fade in history. but, rest assured, a slow fade is indeed what is happening here.

[Gaeta]

First date he asked me out to go to a bar and it was last minute. I accepted cause I had nothing else to do. Second date I was with friends and was bored. I was texting him and asked if he wanted to hang out so we met at a bar and went back to his place afterwards and I spent the night. He did not attempt to have sex with me. The next time I asked him if he wanted to stop by my place I was cooking so he came by for a few hours and left. The last time I saw him he invited me to see a movie with him and my cousin. We hung out alone for an hour after at his place then I went home.

 

2 out of your 4 first date were with people, sorry to say but this is not dating, this is hanging out as friends.

[Charmed22]

I understand but now I just don't know what to do. Do I ignore his texts and calls or do I respond like normal and wait it out until I have no other option but to confront him?

 

I really like him and felt the connection with him. I have the tendency to overreact and create problems when there isn't any and Im scared that this is the case. Some of the comments telling me to relax and let him come to me makes sense. I regret some of my actions and may have already ruined it yet I don't want to completely ruin any chance that he is actually telling me the truth. I don't want to keep digging the whole deeper.

[joyful]

I understand but now I just don't know what to do. Do I ignore his texts and calls or do I respond like normal and wait it out until I have no other option but to confront him?

 

I really like him and felt the connection with him. I have the tendency to overreact and create problems when there isn't any and Im scared that this is the case. Some of the comments telling me to relax and let him come to me makes sense. I regret some of my actions and may have already ruined it yet I don't want to completely ruin any chance that he is actually telling me the truth. I don't want to keep digging the whole deeper.

 

i don't think you have done anything wrong really. it is not wrong to go after what you want, especially when the person you want encourages that reaction in you.

 

i just think that this guy hooked up with a family friend and doesn't want to seem like a jerk for cutting you off immediately after that. for whatever reason, he is not really interested in dating you, or in dating at all, and likely never was.

 

i honestly think the best thing you can do is just try to accept that you had a nice moment with this guy, but that is all it was and all it will ever be.

 

i am sorry. i know it will hurt, but it is better than twisting your mind and your emotions into knots over something that is just not there.

[Kamille]

I understand but now I just don't know what to do. Do I ignore his texts and calls or do I respond like normal and wait it out until I have no other option but to confront him?

 

I really like him and felt the connection with him. I have the tendency to overreact and create problems when there isn't any and Im scared that this is the case. Some of the comments telling me to relax and let him come to me makes sense. I regret some of my actions and may have already ruined it yet I don't want to completely ruin any chance that he is actually telling me the truth. I don't want to keep digging the whole deeper.

 

Then stop trying to "fix it". When he writes, try to connect with your non-anxious self and respond as yourself.

 

Focus on other things. Have faith that what is meant to be will be. If he is the right guy for you, he'll find a way to let you know. If he isn't, this will become clear to you.

 

 

Keep busy. See friends (but don't spend the whole time trying to figure this guy out). Go train extra hard at the gym. Treat yourself to a massage. Heck, date others (I can't recall if you are exclusive, but if you aren't, keep your options open).

 

It's 4 dates in now about 4 weeks with a guy who seems lukewarm. It doesn't deserve much attention just yet.

[Gaeta]

I understand but now I just don't know what to do. Do I ignore his texts and calls or do I respond like normal and wait it out until I have no other option but to confront him?

 

I really like him and felt the connection with him. I have the tendency to overreact and create problems when there isn't any and Im scared that this is the case. Some of the comments telling me to relax and let him come to me makes sense. I regret some of my actions and may have already ruined it yet I don't want to completely ruin any chance that he is actually telling me the truth. I don't want to keep digging the whole deeper.

 

There is no need to use words like 'ignore him' or 'confront him'. There is nothing to ignore and nothing to confront.

 

There is 'compatibility'.

 

His 'taking it slow' is too slow for you. You are not compatible. You want something different than what he has to offer. He can swear on his mom's head you are dear to him - he is not delivering it so his words are bogus.

 

Don't you have a date with him tonight? Has he confirmed?

 

I would tell him that I like him but what he has to offer isn't enough for me. This way you are not accusing him of anything, you are simply making a statement. Then listen to what he has to say. If he says that is all he can give at this time than answer you understand and wish him luck with everything and move to a man better suited for you.

Edited August 19, 2016 by Gaeta

[Charmed22]

There is no need to use words like 'ignore him' or 'confront him'. There is nothing to ignore and nothing to confront.

 

There is 'compatibility'.

 

His 'taking it slow' is too slow for you. You are not compatible. You want something different than what he has to offer. He can swear on his mom's head you are dear to him - he is not delivering it so his words are bogus.

 

Don't you have a date with him tonight? Has he confirmed?

 

I would tell him that I like him but what he has to offer isn't enough for me. This way you are not accusing him of anything, you are simply making a statement. Then listen to what he has to say. If he says that is all he can give at this time than answer you understand and wish him luck with everything and move to a man better suited for you.

 

 

We have already talked about this a few days ago when I asked him if he was still interested and he promised that he was he has just been busy. I don't have a date currently planned but he has been working 12 hour shifts for the past 3 days since our conversation. (I know cause he works with my cousin). I was planning on seeing if he steps up over the weekend when he is off but I'm not holding my breath.

 

I have began pulling back with the text conversations to make it easier for me to let it go. Also to give him space in case that is what he wants from me. I am not ignoring him but my texts and vibe is essentially mirroring his. Im responding with the same effort he gives me. He is noticing this change and he asked me today if he did anything to upset me because he feels like I'm becoming increasingly distant. I don't get it

[Gaeta]

Why are you waiting after this guy? With everything that he has done, refusing to go out with you and then going out with his friends, giving you ridiculous excuses to refuse seeing you, not making plans, spending days and not demonstrating any desire to see you. Why are you putting your energy in this man? Is he the only man around for you to date?

 

I don't care what he says, he is a fast talker that is all. His actions show nothing tangible for you to hold on to.

 

When a man is interested in you everything is smooth and easy. You know it, you feel it, and you have no doubts in your mind that he likes you.

 

Men are being of actions. And when they are interested in a woman they won't let a mountain stand in the way, certainly not a long day at work. How old is he? If he is 65 I can understand he is too tired after a 10 h day to go see you but under 65 no excuses! My BF is 49 he works from 7 am to 9 pm and he finds energy to come to me after work.

[Versacehottie]

I understand but now I just don't know what to do. Do I ignore his texts and calls or do I respond like normal and wait it out until I have no other option but to confront him?

 

I really like him and felt the connection with him. I have the tendency to overreact and create problems when there isn't any and Im scared that this is the case. Some of the comments telling me to relax and let him come to me makes sense. I regret some of my actions and may have already ruined it yet I don't want to completely ruin any chance that he is actually telling me the truth. I don't want to keep digging the whole deeper.

 

You don't need to "do" anything. It's not an either/or of the choices you said above IMO. Both of those are still "aggressive" and active actions. Effectively you'd still be chasing him or stonewalling him in an effort to cause a reaction. Find a middle ground. You need to see this for what it is now (much more casual than you think it is) and let him have his chance to have feelings for you (indeed it may be too late because you pushed too hard). IMO, you need to put it in perspective: the ball is in his court now. You have made the last several efforts. Let him try some. No need to be ignoring or mad. Just respond to his efforts. Match him. Take down your expectations some. It doesn't necessarily mean he is dissing you and you need to get mad. Maybe you will realize that his level of effort just isn't the type of effort you find attractive. If you also give him a chance to put effort in without beating him to the punch every time, he may just step up.

 

It really is a shame that some people are letting you think it's all about this guy not being into you or using you for a hookup or now that you were crazy to think it's anything more than a hookup. Such black and white, anxious thinking. Most likely it was somewhere in the middle--where each of you was open to seeing where things went. However, a relationship is a fluid thing and each of your actions have a reaction/feeling from him and vice versa. So no one knows the end and for sure whatever he has done and whatever you have done have affected the point you are at today. Try to relax and be less anxious. Have more fun and be more in the moment. Work on this. Good luck

[LadyLike30]

He had sex. He's not into you.

 

Sorry.

 

He's not shy, mean, evil or whatever. He didn't play you. You teo met, chemistry and lust and a man and woman do what a man and woman do. Now you're trying to date him and he's not feeling it. It's not yours or his fault.

 

Next.

[joyful]

OP, have you and this guy had the exclusivity talk but are not actually having sex now?

 

how do you understand being (romantically/sexually) exclusive but right now only being "friends first"?

 

when you have spent time together since returning from the trip, do you kiss, hold hands, act "couply" during the hangouts with other friends?

 

i don't think you have acted overzealously. you are acting like someone who is dating someone in a way that has a future. he seems to have backtracked considerably since returning from your trip. and i think the pacing of the slow fade has to do with his being friends with your cousin.

 

i agree that you shouldn't do anything. but i think that not doing anything extends to how much thought you give to this situation until this man shows more interest and care.

[Charmed22]

Well, did he make effort to plan a date for the weekend and ask you out?

 

I still havent seen him. Tomorrow will make 2 weeks. He was texting me Friday talking about his week being so stressful and overwhelming. I stupidly offered to stop by his place with some sweets to make him feel better and he turned me down cause he said he only had an hour and half to cook, do chores, shower and relax since he had to work early in the morning. I didnt want to be pushy so I left it at that and told him I understand he has had a stressful week and needs his rest. He told me hopefully we can see each other during the 3 days off he gets this week. (he is off until wendsday). I responded "yeah hopefully"

 

Yesterday his texting was very spaced. I went out with friends and realized he didnt let me know when he got off work like he usually does. I texted him asking if he was okay and he told me he has been very busy that day and he was out with friends. There was a point where he asked me what I was doing and it got my hopes up thinking he would invite me out but after I told him he stopped responding. I texted this morning and asked him to call me when he gets the chance. Im going to end it. I cant take it anymore.

 

I feel so stupid, needy and clingy. I cant believe I handled this in this matter. He is the first guy I felt a legitimate connection with and it sucks how this turned out this way. I cant help but feel like I ruined it. Like maybe if I kept things cool from the beginning this wouldnt of happened.

Edited August 21, 2016 by Charmed22

[Versacehottie]

I still havent seen him. Tomorrow will make 2 weeks. He was texting me Friday talking about his week being so stressful and overwhelming. I stupidly offered to stop by his place with some sweets to make him feel better and he turned me down cause he said he only had an hour and half to cook, do chores, shower and relax since he had to work early in the morning. I didnt want to be pushy so I left it at that and told him I understand he has had a stressful week and needs his rest. He told me hopefully we can see each other during the 3 days off he gets this week. (he is off until wendsday). I responded "yeah hopefully"

 

Yesterday his texting was very spaced. I went out with friends and realized he didnt let me know when he got off work like he usually does. I texted him asking if he was okay and he told me he has been very busy that day and he was out with friends. There was a point where he asked me what I was doing and it got my hopes up thinking he would invite me out but after I told him he stopped responding. I texted this morning and asked him to call me when he gets the chance. Im going to end it. I cant take it anymore.

 

I feel so stupid, needy and clingy. I cant believe I handled this in this matter. He is the first guy I felt a legitimate connection with and it sucks how this turned out this way. I cant help but feel like I ruined it. Like maybe if I kept things cool from the beginning this wouldnt of happened.

 

I'm sorry you are feeling bad. You did need to temper your expectations though. You did not let him pursue you. Thus you became just another obligation, looked like a girl who tries too hard. You were pushy: To offer to take him sweets when he hasn't made time for you is not smart. I don't get why you kept trying to push it and be impatient. (well I do because I have seen it before). He is not in the wrong for wanting things to not be 0-60 and have a full blown gf straight away. Not wanting to do that doesn't mean he doesn't like you or that you needed to end it or force the answer. It just means that you have different styles about falling in love, starting relationships. He probably was with you 24/7 on the vacation because "he was on vacation" and in a different mode.

 

I still think you are doing the wrong thing and haven't learned the "lesson" by breaking it off with him. It shows that you are still impatient and have unreasonable expectations. That said, with his actions now you may have just pushed it too far with him so there is probably nothing to salvage.

 

In the future, the best advice I can offer you is to match the guy's pace and if it does not work for you then pull back. You should not try to act like a gf before you ARE one. I think you will interpret this still based on the conversation you had with him (which I have a feeling you pushed as well) but that conversation really didn't mean anything. Just words, not actions. Wait for the actions and be less concerned with trying to put yourself into gf label. This advice stands whether the guy is a good guy or a bad guy. That's what will weed out the good from the bad. Just because a guy (in this case) does not meet your expectation of immediacy and impatience doesn't make him a bad guy. Don't know if this guy was good or bad--BUT how you handled it played a part where even if he was a good guy he could have been turned off. A good guy is just as turned off by a girl trying too hard or pushing as a bad guy is. Please try to work on your insecurity. Good luck

[Charmed22]

I'm sorry you are feeling bad. You did need to temper your expectations though. You did not let him pursue you. Thus you became just another obligation, looked like a girl who tries too hard. You were pushy: To offer to take him sweets when he hasn't made time for you is not smart. I don't get why you kept trying to push it and be impatient. (well I do because I have seen it before). He is not in the wrong for wanting things to not be 0-60 and have a full blown gf straight away. Not wanting to do that doesn't mean he doesn't like you or that you needed to end it or force the answer. It just means that you have different styles about falling in love, starting relationships. He probably was with you 24/7 on the vacation because "he was on vacation" and in a different mode.

 

I still think you are doing the wrong thing and haven't learned the "lesson" by breaking it off with him. It shows that you are still impatient and have unreasonable expectations. That said, with his actions now you may have just pushed it too far with him so there is probably nothing to salvage.

 

In the future, the best advice I can offer you is to match the guy's pace and if it does not work for you then pull back. You should not try to act like a gf before you ARE one. I think you will interpret this still based on the conversation you had with him (which I have a feeling you pushed as well) but that conversation really didn't mean anything. Just words, not actions. Wait for the actions and be less concerned with trying to put yourself into gf label. This advice stands whether the guy is a good guy or a bad guy. That's what will weed out the good from the bad. Just because a guy (in this case) does not meet your expectation of immediacy and impatience doesn't make him a bad guy. Don't know if this guy was good or bad--BUT how you handled it played a part where even if he was a good guy he could have been turned off. A good guy is just as turned off by a girl trying too hard or pushing as a bad guy is. Please try to work on your insecurity. Good luck

 

I havent talked to him yet. So you dont think I should break things off? I understand that my actions have been pushy but even when I back up and try to match his efforts he thinks something is wrong. I cant seem to find the middle ground and I think its cause its too late. If I pull away and give him his space he questions me which makes me think he isnt trying to fade out on me. I feel like im giving off the vibe that im upset which isnt going to help anything. If I stay consistent than I feel like im being pushy.

 

I keep trying to relax and focus on other things but I cant seem to turn the switch off no matter how hard I try. The longer it goes with us not seeing eachother makes me want to push harder and the more everyone says im being used, he isnt into me, etc makes me freak out want to confront him for the truth. I dont know what im doing and I dont know why im acting like this. This is completely out of character for me to approach dating in this manner and I cant seem to get back to my usual approach.

 

I keep hoping that if I relax things will change but I also cant help but agree with most on here that says that if a guy is truly interested he will make consistent effort to see me from the start. I usually take the black and white approach to this so this gray area is completely new to me. If he is interested than i will know. If im interested in a guy I will respond to text timely, I will want to see him, i will make time despite how tired i am and busy my schedule is. Like I said all I really require to know there is interest is to see someone 1-2x a week (dosent have to be for long) and a quick phone call here and there. I dont feel like I have been asking for much. I have been in a 5yr relationship and dated someone for 2 months and both guys never made me question their interest. In these cases the guys get complacent after a while and the effort put in is less (honeymoon phase over).

 

The case with this guy is there doesn't seem to be a honeymoon phase at all. Isnt it all supposed to go downhill from here? Isnt this supposed to be the time we are excited and want to see eachother everyday relationship or not? Should I expect that if I wait and keep it cool that something will magically switch into his head that he wants a relationship with me and than he will start wanting to see me more? Thats what im being fed and the appoach I was willing to take but there is a side of me that screams that by doing so im settling for a maybe that will never happen. I know he is a good guy but im torn between being patient and relaxed vs pushing for effort I think I deserve and is reasonable and I keep switching between the two extremes. Honestly im well aware there are other guys out and I can probably do better than him but he is the first guy I have felt a general connection with in over a year and he came at a time when I was not expecting which is why I even care this much.

Edited August 21, 2016 by Charmed22