BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 Maybe you and I would have better luck in India because they have arranged marriages over there
Author Naveen2016 Posted August 23, 2016 Author Posted August 23, 2016 OP, you have been in Australia for 2 months? You sound rather impatient about finding someone. Have you decided you only want a white girl? You're painting yourself into a corner with that outlook, is it white girls looks that you are only attracted to? (Because us white girls come in so many variations, it's not just one look) If I were you I'd relax, make friends at work, be a good man. Odd are, if you work with white people, they know some white women they can introduce you to, but honestly, I think you should keep your options open. In addition, please stop trying to give props to "asians" as if they are one race. They are not. Asian men from different countries and cultures look different and behave quite differently from each other. Are you Hindu or Muslim ? I'm assuming you are not religious, since not many white people are either of those religions. Do you attend worship at all? That may be a place to find a like minded woman. Bars are a terrible place to meet people for any kind of relationship, do things that you enjoy doing, a woman doing those same things may be there for the finding. Good luck! yes. i want to date a white girl just to know what it feels like to date one. After all in Australia there are lots of them so why not. I don't know what the big deal is but not many people feel that way. Your idea of white people introducing me to white girls is funny...yea maybe just for introduction sake but not dating. They are fiercely protective of their women. Their women are also raised from an early age to be suspicious of people who look different from them. So its a lot more crap I have to cut through compared to a white guy getting a chinese girl. They don't have all this garbage stored in their heads about other cultures compared to people here. Its a lot easier.
Romantic Gentleman Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 There must be a sport, or hobby you like! Be yourself, be social, and meet people with the same interests as you. When you surround yourself with the right people, everything else seems to fall in place.
Author Naveen2016 Posted March 13, 2017 Author Posted March 13, 2017 There must be a sport, or hobby you like! Be yourself, be social, and meet people with the same interests as you. When you surround yourself with the right people, everything else seems to fall in place. After having lived here for sometime I can clearly say that most of these women are quite disgusting when it comes to their behavior. I have had plenty of incidents when they don't even look at you when you are talking to them or they refuse to even shake your hand. I wouldn't do that to a dog on the street if it came up to me. It's quite abhorrent behavior coming from women in a supposedly cultured first world country. I would say at the most 2-3 % of women are even open to a non business related casual conversation with an Indian/brown looking guy in a bar or a coffee shop. The rest of them don't even want to see you or talk to you. I don't know what programming these people use in their households with their kids but its surely very effective. Their women are raised to be very xenophobic. I don't really see the big difference between middle eastern women and western women because the chances with both are virtually nil. They are all just taught to hate infidels and heathens like me.
Imported Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 Maybe it's not an Indian guy problem and more of a Naveen2016 problem. Not saying Indian guys as a whole have it easy dating in a multi-cultural country compared to ethnicities that have had a longer history in the area or look similar, but no doubt there are some full Indian dudes that have no problems hooking up with white chicks. It's just not you. All the problems you're having with women not even wanting to interact with you, plenty of white dudes have as well. Many even post here. 3
normal person Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 After having lived here for sometime I can clearly say that most of these women are quite disgusting when it comes to their behavior. I have had plenty of incidents when they don't even look at you when you are talking to them or they refuse to even shake your hand. If you're walking up to women randomly and expecting them to shake your hand, that's your problem. It's creepy and invasive. You need to stop, it will only make you look worse. I wouldn't do that to a dog on the street if it came up to me. It's quite abhorrent behavior coming from women in a supposedly cultured first world country. Just because customs are different and western women are suspicious of men they don't know trying to shake their hands for unknown reasons doesn't mean it's less cultured, or abhorrent behavior. Maybe they think you're abhorrent for inserting yourself into their personal space and trying to take their hands and start conversations with them without invitation. I would say at the most 2-3 % of women are even open to a non business related casual conversation with an Indian/brown looking guy in a bar or a coffee shop. The rest of them don't even want to see you or talk to you. Most women (people, even) aren't open to non business related casual conversations period. If some stranger approaches me on the street and outstretches his hand, I'm worried he's trying to trick me or rob somehow, or sell me something I have no need for, or guilt me into donating money to some cause I don't care about which may or may not be a scam, and I tell him to get the hell out of my face. Regardless of what he looks like. If he remained stationary as I passed and merely inquired for a second of my time without getting in my path, or assuming I owed him a conversation, or a handshake, or anything at all, rather than outstretch his hand as if to demand it, then I might be more responsive. I don't know what programming these people use in their households with their kids but its surely very effective. Their women are raised to be very xenophobic. I don't really see the big difference between middle eastern women and western women because the chances with both are virtually nil. They are all just taught to hate infidels and heathens like me. Maybe it's not because you're Indian. Maybe it's because approaching people randomly and expecting them to shake your hand can make you seem threatening rather than agreeable. I know Indian guys who do just fine with western women. They understand and adapt to western culture and nuances rather than trying to subvert or dismiss it. 2
Whodatdog Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 Australia is a big place. Is there a place where Indian people hang out, shop, churches? I know in the US, ethnics seems to live in the same general areas, where they are familiar with their neighbors, their shopping, their cultures. Maybe try and find that area, if for no other reason than to just meet some people. The more people you meet, the more of a chance you will have to find someone to date. And get some interests. Be a charming person, be nice, be interesting. Your personality will have a much greater impact on your dating ability than your ethnicity. In wanting to date white Australian girls, you might have a more difficult time, since Im sure you were raised and have different ideals than people from Australia. The cultures are very different.
Springsummer Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 It all depends on the individual. It doesn't necessary has anything to do with race. I have an Indian friend, who is a white women magnet. Had a white model gf and now marrying a white woman. I had a German phd gf who was very physically attracted to him. He was a model though and socially smart as hell. so don't blame your race, blame yourself.
Sweetfish Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 Once you gain access to pm's on the site... (there are various ways) I can explain and help you on your issue.
jay1983 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 My friend had the same problem, only he was an Indian Muslim so even the majority of Indian women weren't a match for him. He ended up going back to India and came back married. I never questioned whether it was arranged or whether or not they had a relationship prior to getting hitched. All I can tell you is although she's noticeably taller than him that shes cute, maybe 100X cuter than the white girls who took a liking to him. Regarding your situation, some of what the crowd is telling is right. Walking up to random girls in public isn't a great way to go about it, your approach is all wrong. but regardless of that even Indian men who were born and raised in the same country have problems gaining interest from white girls. You just look around you and see for yourself how many white girls with Indian men you come across.
Author Naveen2016 Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 Australia is a big place. Is there a place where Indian people hang out, shop, churches? I know in the US, ethnics seems to live in the same general areas, where they are familiar with their neighbors, their shopping, their cultures. Maybe try and find that area, if for no other reason than to just meet some people. The more people you meet, the more of a chance you will have to find someone to date. And get some interests. Be a charming person, be nice, be interesting. Your personality will have a much greater impact on your dating ability than your ethnicity. In wanting to date white Australian girls, you might have a more difficult time, since Im sure you were raised and have different ideals than people from Australia. The cultures are very different. Your last two lines is bunch of BS. I don't see a problem with cultures being different when it comes to white men dating asian women. But when its reverse that's the excuse people come up with to justify your women being programmed to hate the heathens.
Author Naveen2016 Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 (edited) And you wonder why no one wants to date you. Nothing wrong with what I said. It makes sense and its real. You see it all around you...the patterns of dating. I'm not here to be the nice guy. I'm just telling the truth. Edited March 16, 2017 by Naveen2016
stillafool Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 It all depends on the individual. It doesn't necessary has anything to do with race. I have an Indian friend, who is a white women magnet. Had a white model gf and now marrying a white woman. I had a German phd gf who was very physically attracted to him. He was a model though and socially smart as hell. so don't blame your race, blame yourself. My ex dentist was not only a white girl magnet but a girl magnet. He is Indian, 6'4, slim and gorgeous. He owns 3 dental practices. He's so gorgeous you practically don't need anesthesia as you could look at him and become numb. The same goes for any man of any race as well as women. If you are good looking and have your **** together people will want you. If you look below average you will struggle no matter your race. OP, are you good looking?
Author Naveen2016 Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 My ex dentist was not only a white girl magnet but a girl magnet. He is Indian, 6'4, slim and gorgeous. He owns 3 dental practices. He's so gorgeous you practically don't need anesthesia as you could look at him and become numb. The same goes for any man of any race as well as women. If you are good looking and have your **** together people will want you. If you look below average you will struggle no matter your race. OP, are you good looking? ofcourse not. I know that if I look like one of those bollywood stars like dev patel or hrithik roshan I can get all kinds of women. That doesn't count. I just look like an average Indian guy. But I do have my **** together. Life is good. If women don't want me that's ok. I will live. I just didn't want to be old and look back at my younger years thinking maybe I should have tried harder to be with someone. That's the only reason I make these attempts to have conversations with them. I was never rude to any of them or disrespectful. I tried to be funny and playful. But it is a cold world. That's all I can say.
Sweetfish Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 ofcourse not. I know that if I look like one of those bollywood stars like dev patel or hrithik roshan I can get all kinds of women. That doesn't count. I just look like an average Indian guy. But I do have my **** together. Life is good. If women don't want me that's ok. I will live. I just didn't want to be old and look back at my younger years thinking maybe I should have tried harder to be with someone. That's the only reason I make these attempts to have conversations with them. I was never rude to any of them or disrespectful. I tried to be funny and playful. But it is a cold world. That's all I can say. Pm me if you can
loverboy69 Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 No offense to anyone here but there are some men of color who view getting a white woman as some form of trophy. You unfairly put them on a pedestal. This comes from a source of low self esteem for the most part. I know you hate hearing or reading this but let's be honest here. As a gay man who is half white / half latino I see the same thing in our dating circles particularly with the gay black and gay Asian males... they all want the white boy or Hispanic that looks white.... Some will automatically defend this as preference but when you dig deep you generally find a low sense of self worth and that is projected onto other men/women of color. This causes you to marginalize your dating pool into one that is already smaller to begin with. I say stop looking only for the "white girl," that may or may never come. There are so many beautiful, gorgeous, sexy women of all colors and ethnicities (white women included). You are really selling yourself short and missing out on some valuable dating experiences.
Author Naveen2016 Posted March 17, 2017 Author Posted March 17, 2017 No offense to anyone here but there are some men of color who view getting a white woman as some form of trophy. You unfairly put them on a pedestal. This comes from a source of low self esteem for the most part. I know you hate hearing or reading this but let's be honest here. As a gay man who is half white / half latino I see the same thing in our dating circles particularly with the gay black and gay Asian males... they all want the white boy or Hispanic that looks white.... Some will automatically defend this as preference but when you dig deep you generally find a low sense of self worth and that is projected onto other men/women of color. This causes you to marginalize your dating pool into one that is already smaller to begin with. I say stop looking only for the "white girl," that may or may never come. There are so many beautiful, gorgeous, sexy women of all colors and ethnicities (white women included). You are really selling yourself short and missing out on some valuable dating experiences. i know there are so many beautiful gorgeous women of all colors but just because I'm open to dating them doesn't mean that they are open to dating me. They are looking for their "white boy" too. Capiche?
Author Naveen2016 Posted March 17, 2017 Author Posted March 17, 2017 Pm me if you can thanks for trying to help me but sorry i don't have the rights for PMing.
SwordofFlame Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 (edited) Your last two lines is bunch of BS. I don't see a problem with cultures being different when it comes to white men dating asian women. But when its reverse that's the excuse people come up with to justify your women being programmed to hate the heathens. This is a very fair point. I'm an Asian American guy myself. A lot of Asian women are more than willing to assimilate into White-American culture. The problem that many Asian men (including Indian men) face when trying to date White-American women are overcoming negative stereotypes and Western physical and racial preferences for what's considered attractive. It's certainly a massive challenge. To get pass it, often times the Asian Men that do have success are usually tall, very good looking, very social and also have a very good career. If you're just an average Indian guy, you're going to struggle. Look, the world is not fair. You can certainly do things to improve yourself to give yourself the best possible chance, but at the end of the day, you're just not on an equivalent playing field as your "white male equal". It is what it is. I suggest you learn to accept that and find other things to excel at that make you truly happy. Edited March 17, 2017 by SwordofFlame 2
TheTraveler Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 yes. i want to date a white girl just to know what it feels like to date one. This might be the most cringeworthy sentence i've seen on here
Author Naveen2016 Posted March 17, 2017 Author Posted March 17, 2017 This might be the most cringeworthy sentence i've seen on here Like Donald Trump said to Bill Clinton "Mine were words and his was action..." I just said it openly and I don't see anything wrong with it. Whereas white guys who have yellow fever might not type it in a forum. Their actions prove it.
TheTraveler Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 Like Donald Trump said to Bill Clinton "Mine were words and his was action..." I just said it openly and I don't see anything wrong with it. Whereas white guys who have yellow fever might not type it in a forum. Their actions prove it. Quit talking about it and making excuses. Make some changes to yourself and your game, get a better attitude, and lets see some action. You are in a land with millions of white girls. Step your game up homey
Whodatdog Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 Homey has no game. He's just a whiner making excuses for himself. Does he really think any of that is attractive to any woman?
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