Lonestar Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 It's drives me insane (btw, for those of you who know me, you can guess who my boyfriend is AGAIN ) anyway, he snores so friggin loud that the last time we were together, I was miserable throughout the entire relationship. I never got a good night's sleep. I wanted to whack him over the head in the middle of the night with a brick. No kidding. I can fall asleep with him when I'm drunk, but I can't get drunk every night. Then I'd have to go to AA. So tonight, he falls asleep here, dead asleep and the snoring starts. I felt real bad waking him up, but I had to. I told him he had to leave because I can't sleep with his snoring. We tried everything in the past, he would need some type of operation to stop, and that ain't happening anytime soon, seeing that he doesn't have insurance right now. So what do I do? Is it okay to send him home all the time? It's his problem, not mine, right? I mean, I got the sex, why do we have to sleep together? I feel so wretched right now.
BigB Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Make sure he doesn't have sleep apnia, does he ever stop breathing while he's snoring? I have sleep apnia and snore like a truck, I use a machine at night called a c-pap it helps treat the sleep apnia, and lessens the snoring. My EXGF use to wear ear plug's to bed, have you tried that?
shygurl Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Hi there, I can totally relate. I absolutely detest snoring, there's no way I can sleep when someone snores, even someone who BREATHES loudly, that drives me up the wall. Let's put it this way, when one of my cats snores (which pales in comparison to a man), I have to go give kitty a nudge :-) When I was married, my ex husband snored horribly. Short of spending all my time in the spare bedroom or kicking him in there, I started wearing earplugs to bed at night (good ones), and having a fan on in the bedroom all night........made a huge difference. Even though hubby's long gone, I STILL must have a fan going in my bedroom now (got so used to it, that the total silence kills me haha). I've known several people who found good success with those "breathe right strips": I've only ever had one boyfriend who DIDN'T snore and God, it was like being in heaven - I could actually sleep! People snore more when sleeping on their back. I also found that having 2 pillows helped me.........one to lay my head one, the other over my ear...(along w/ the ear plugs and fan). Get yourself some really good earplugs.......the kind guys wear in jobs with high noise levels and require them to protect their hearing.............there's definitely cheap, crappy ones and really good ones.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 I got used to wearing earplugs while sleeping next to my ex. Takes about a week to get used to having them in your ear, so try the small ones first. I don't recommend the squishy kind that roll up in a ball....get the cone shaped ones. Shygurl is right...a small fan really does help to squelch the noise.
BigB Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 My dad has a set of custom made ear plugs for shooting, they pour this foam rubber stuff in your ears and let it harden, he says they are super quiet, and very comfortable. The cheap throw-away ones always hurt my ears after a while. Another trick I heard, for the people who only snore when sleeping on their back's is to sew a tennis ball into the back of the shirt they wear to bed, it is supposed to make them sleep on their side.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Another tip.... put a couple of bricks or thick books under the legs of the head of bed to elevate it slightly. The slight angle won't bother your sleeping at all, but it helps to prevent the collapsing of the tissue in the throat and the uvula that causes snoring.
Author Lonestar Posted July 3, 2005 Author Posted July 3, 2005 Wow, lot's of god tips here. I see I'm not alone. I'm such a light sleeper and unlike you lucky people who can crawl into bed and go right out, it takes me an hour to drift off. I've no idea if he has sleep apnea, but it's very possible. It does seem that at times he actually stops breathing and then the loud snore comes. I thought about ear plugs but it just seems so uncomfortable. I can't even sleep with the whitening trays in my mouth, but if you guys say there are real good ones out there, I'll have to try to track some down. I'll call the pharmacist this week or my doctor. Not that I want him sleeping with me every night anyway. I really like sleeping alone, but sometimes it's nice to have a little sleepover. Snoring can definitely kill a relationship.
moimeme Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 I've no idea if he has sleep apnea, but it's very possible. It does seem that at times he actually stops breathing and then the loud snore comes. Then get him to a doctor. It's a dangerous condition.
Tony Posted July 3, 2005 Senior Moderators Posted July 3, 2005 I think if your lover snores while asleep it could be a very serious problem but if he snores while you're having sex it's probably the end of the relationship.
BigB Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Then get him to a doctor. It's a dangerous condition. Tell him to talk to his doctor about having a sleep test done, It can be very dangerous, I was told I'd probably have heart failure before 35 if I let it go un-treated. Is he tired a lot? Is he overweight? (Sleep apnia can cause weight gain, and be caused by being overweight) Does he sleep excessively? I used to sleep for 12 hours and wakeup feeling more tired than when I started. I also use to nob of at work all the time. Now it's SOOOOO much better. My sleep test results said that I woke up on average 3 times per minute. Not enough to know I was awake, but enough to keep from getting any good sleep. I was told once that hearing aid companies sell good custom ear plugs. I'd imagine that musicians also need good comfortable ear plugs from time to time.
BigB Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by Tony I think if your lover snores while asleep it could be a very serious problem but if he snores while you're having sex it's probably the end of the relationship. haha! I did that once.. fell asleep during sex , I got in trouble.
Rosalind Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by BigB I was told once that hearing aid companies sell good custom ear plugs. They also make customized hearing aids that produce a 'white noise'. This is along the same idea as : earplugs and a small fan...only it's even better because you can increase the volume....the white noise is similiar to listening to a waterfall - this is all you would hear as you gently drift into some zzzzzzz's.
CurvyGurl Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Then get him to a doctor. It's a dangerous condition. I second this. I have a friend who does that, stops breathing during sleep. It is the scariest thing to listen to!
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