Feeling Like Maybe She's Seeing Someone Else

[tynoe93]

Hey

 

I need advise, I'm not sure what is going on.

 

My Ldr partner of 6 months has been somewhat acting different and it's really starting to bother me.

 

She hasn't called me in a week and a few days hasn't shown any affection within that period.We would talk late at night everyday but lately she doesn't call and I keep asking myself maybe she's found someone else to keep her ats where all the attention is goin now and I'm just a timepusher now.

 

I asked her about it why she doesn't answer my calls when I do call late at night because she would get upset if i dont call her or try

and she apologised tellin me she knows she's hasn't been herself but will make it up to me when we meet in 6 days time.hoping ilb the missing medicine she needs to be fully healed she blamed it on her being sick and tired of being pitied all the time cause she's been sick for a long time.

 

She did text me a day ago she was making fun of how my team had lost just playing around and that she had finally won me over cause to her my soccer team is an enemy

 

Maybe I'm bein paranoid or stupid, i love this girl so much I don't want to be cheated or played a fool and feel something is really wrong.

 

don't want to ask her because shel make it seem like I don't want her to come over I know her which would be so untrue

 

need advise on what may be up

[smackie9]

When someone pulls away doesn't always mean they are cheating. It's possible she is finding this LDR too much of a challenge and it's bring her down. She could be just tired of it and is at an impasse.

[smudge21]

Just see how it goes but be honest with yourself and her. If something is bothering you and it seems like it keeps getting worse (rather than just you over reacting) then bring it up.

 

For me in my LDR a while back, I could tell when the change happened. It went from her showing concern if I didn't stay in touch often, to nothing from her for a week and then no concern whatsoever. So it wasn't so much the lack of contact, but the lack of concern following the lack of contact. I had a few months of odd contact following that, but it was clear she was only keeping me sweet, as an option, and I didn't want that. She lost respect for me but I still had respect for myself, so goodbye.

 

Hope it's not the case for you, so just see what happens when you meet up. People, whether long distance or not, go through that honeymoon phase and things do calm down after a while, so maybe you're just coming down from that high and now the seas are settling a bit... but doesn't mean you're getting thrown off the boat.

[DramaInPajamas]

It may mean cheating. When I was in a LDR and they stopped contacting me as much: another had their attention.

[Grisho]

How far apart are you? Continents apart? Do you share a common language?

[Michelle ma Belle]

Having done LDR a couple times now, I will agree that pulling away doesn't always mean cheating but it isn't always a good sign either. If she's been ill, that could indeed throw a wrench into your daily dynamic but not so much that you should doubt her commitment either.

 

Depending on how far you are and especially how often you see each other, LDR can sometimes feel very daunting after a while. You NEED to physically together as often as possible.

 

Unfortunately, LDR can be very hard to maintain particularly if you go long periods without seeing one another. Loss of interest and even infidelity are often quite common.

 

I know I sound like a broken record but the best advice I have for you is COMMUNICATION. You HAVE to talk about these things especially when you're in a LDR because so much of your relationship is about exchanging words. If you can't talk openly and honestly about anything and everything then you put your relationship at risk.

 

At the same time you can't over think things and jump to conclusions at the drop of a hat. Trust is paramount in any relationship never mind a LDR so do your best to be the best and 'trust' that she is as well.

 

Good luck.

Edited August 17, 2016 by Michelle ma Belle

[NTV]

trust your gut.

[tynoe93]

Thank You For Your Thoughts And Opinions

 

@smudge21 like I get confused because she was the one that complained that she needs to hear from me often and when I do she doesn't pickup the phone usually I call at night because she lb back from her night shift and I try understand maybe shelb tired but every time she calls I always answer no matter how asleep I am, but I can only hope it's the honeymoon period now settling down.

 

@DramaInPajamas I also fear that being the case because when my last gf changed behaviour she was getting attention from another guy

 

@Grisho we are in the same country different cities about 15hours car drive apart and yes we do have a common language

 

@Michelle ma Belle I understand you I try be patient with her try be understanding because she's a single mom and has so many pressures, I trust her but all this sudden change makes me wonder and do fear for the worst she's the only woman Im currently inlove with and love her a lot cheating doesn't exist in my thoughts I have had so many opportunities to do so but been faithful.But when we text about us meeting she's excited and last Saturday she actually made conversation she was all over me because my team had lost because she says that's her competitor for my heart and finally won me over.but it's rare that we text call in is mostly are thing and now I fear she's getting her attention from someone else but ill try not to jump to conclusions

[Michelle ma Belle]

Have you actually met already or not?

[tynoe93]

Yes we have met a couple of times

[smackie9]

Yes we have met a couple of times

Ya after 6 months it get old when you can't be together. I bet she is thinking this over whether to continue or not.

[tynoe93]

I think so too,maybe I should just let go