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Ending to a six year friendship/relationship


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I have just been "dumped" after almost a year relationship and a 6 year friendship. The person in question did this through their friends over a text message. My heart has completely shattered. I'm mentally ill and pretty severely antisocial and insecure. I tried to ask for closure and she began sending her friends after me telling me I'm abusive and treated her badly but won't tell me how or why. I've blocked two so far and am closing myself from communication with her but my heart hurts so unbelievably much. I'm embarrassed to say but I don't have any friends. How can I get through this??

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The only way to get through it is to respect her decision. I'm sure she had her reasons for breaking it off the way she did...maybe they were good reasons or maybe it was a cowardly way to do it. It's irrelevant. Here's what you should NOT do. Don't continue contact, don't beg for second chances, and don't try to argue whether you were good or bad. All of that falls on deaf ears at this point. You have your dignity at this point, and probably some good memories. By forcing more contact with her, you risk losing both of those things.

 

If you don't have friends to talk to...try seeing a therapist. A therapist can help you gain perspective about yourself. At this point, it's all about taking care of yourself and self improvement. Sorry this happened to you and I hope your strong enough to take my advice. I know it's hard. Very hard. And I know you're in pain. We've all felt the same pain you're feeling now. But listen to my advice. I wouldn't steer you wrong.

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