Is he into me or not?

[sk1977]

Hi all,

I'm back into dating scene after ending 16 year marriage and not sure how to navigate the waters of dating, specifically online dating. Both female and male perspective on this would be greatly appreciated. He is sending mixed signals, and I can't figure out if he is just really guarded or maybe just not that into me. A little background info. We met online. Had 2 dates: dinner & met up for coffee. I thought they both went great: nice conversation, similar interests and I felt attracted to him. Then he never asked me out for another date. I thought, fine, he just didn't like me. Then, three weeks later, he texted me out of nowhere and invited me for dinner. Again, nice conversation, but he is very physically reserved- no touching and a little "good night" peck on the lips at the end. On one hand, it's very refreshing that they guy isn't jumping on me by the third date, on the other hand makes me wonder if he is even attracted to me. Our forth date is the movie date. He did take my hand in his by the end of the movie, then a few little kisses before we said good night. He is not texting me much between the dates. No flirting. I think he mentioned once that he thought i was pretty, but that's about it. We didn't see each other for two weeks, because we both have kids, and kid-free time is scarce. We exchanged a few texts in those two weeks, and he said while he is enjoying my company, he was feeling a little uneasy about me being freshly separated from my husband, that he doesn't want to be a re-bound. He also mentioned he's been hurt by women before and "tired of the game". At that point I asked him if he'd like to stop seeing me or continue to see me and proceed slowly. He said he wanted to continue slowly and see how it goes. At that point I had a feeling that although he thinks I'm not ready for a relationship, he might be the one who is not ready after having his heart broken a few times. Also, he mentioned he was a hopeless romantic, yet his behavior towards me felt very much platonic So, last weekend we spent the whole day hiking ( he initiated it). It was a great day, but again no touching, no kissing the whole time we hiked. I'm usually a very affectionate person, but because he's been so reserved, I didn't want to initiate. When we got back, he invited me to stay at his house for dinner. After dinner we set on the couch, and I was the first one to touch his hand. We ended up making out and rolling around on the couch. It was hot, at least in my opinion. We didn't have sex. Just ended up cuddling and I went home later. He took my face in his hands and gave me a nice kiss and a hug before I left. There is no next date set at this point. He was the first one to text me in the late afternoon the following date, saying he was hoping i enjoyed our day together. I told him I did. I wanted to add some flirting and romance and said I couldn't stop thinking of him kissing me and that he is a really great kisser. He thanked me and said that it takes two. So, we exchanged maybe four text messages that day. The next day I wanted to see if he would text me first, but he didn't. So, I texted him first and asked him how his day was. He said, good, but didn't elaborate. Again, trying to bring some spark into conversation, I told him it was really nice to cuddle with him and that I really liked him. He responded, saying yes, it was nice to cuddle. Then said he was going to bed. Nothing else. Today the whole day passed and he hasn't texted me yet. I don't think I'm needy and not expecting the guy to text me all the time, but I feel like if he liked me, he could at least say something short and sweet, like he is thinking of me, or can't wait to see me again. Considering that he said he was a hopeless romantic, it's strange that he is a complete opposite with me. I'm really attracted to him physically, but also to his personality. He is very intelligent. We have a lot in common. I'm finding myself wanting more-spending more time together, wanting him to be more affectionate with me. So far I feel like I'm the only one interested in the romantic relationship with him and the one pursuing him. Is he not interested, and I just refuse to admit it for myself? Or is he really just want to take it slow because he doesn't want to get hurt? At this point I decided not to make any efforts to connect with him and see if he initiates something. I think I'm starting to fall for him, hoping he actually likes me, but just afraid to proceed, because he's been hurt. But on the other hand, I want to hear the outside perspective on this. What do you guys think? Should I just move on?

Sorry this is long. Thank you!!

[DramaInPajamas]

I cannot read that without paragraphs. Try and read it yourself and you will see how hard it is.

 

But if you have to ask, no, they arent into you.

Edited August 16, 2016 by DramaInPajamas

[Grisho]

Please can you edit your post adding paragraphs? It's really important to be considerate of how we are going to be able to read anything you post. A wall of text is not helpful to anyone.

[preraph]

Please don't be offended, but I think you're operating on high school rules, probably because you've been married so long in between dating. Older people don't usually even have time for a lot of texting and they're not always comfortable saying "cutesy" things. He's fitting dating you in around his already full life. I'm actually liking him better because he isn't sexting you. If you spend too much time texting, what will you have fresh to talk about when you see each other?

 

Obviously, he likes you or he wouldn't be dating you. But I do think you're needy in an immature kind of way and that you need to curb that. Flirt when you're with him and can do something about it!

[Redhead14]

Hi all,

I'm back into dating scene after ending 16 year marriage and not sure how to navigate the waters of dating, specifically online dating. Both female and male perspective on this would be greatly appreciated. He is sending mixed signals, and I can't figure out if he is just really guarded or maybe just not that into me. A little background info. We met online. Had 2 dates: dinner & met up for coffee. I thought they both went great: nice conversation, similar interests and I felt attracted to him. Then he never asked me out for another date. I thought, fine, he just didn't like me. Then, three weeks later, he texted me out of nowhere and invited me for dinner. Again, nice conversation, but he is very physically reserved- no touching and a little "good night" peck on the lips at the end. On one hand, it's very refreshing that they guy isn't jumping on me by the third date, on the other hand makes me wonder if he is even attracted to me. Our forth date is the movie date. He did take my hand in his by the end of the movie, then a few little kisses before we said good night. He is not texting me much between the dates. No flirting. I think he mentioned once that he thought i was pretty, but that's about it. We didn't see each other for two weeks, because we both have kids, and kid-free time is scarce. We exchanged a few texts in those two weeks, and he said while he is enjoying my company, he was feeling a little uneasy about me being freshly separated from my husband, that he doesn't want to be a re-bound. He also mentioned he's been hurt by women before and "tired of the game". At that point I asked him if he'd like to stop seeing me or continue to see me and proceed slowly. He said he wanted to continue slowly and see how it goes. At that point I had a feeling that although he thinks I'm not ready for a relationship, he might be the one who is not ready after having his heart broken a few times. Also, he mentioned he was a hopeless romantic, yet his behavior towards me felt very much platonic So, last weekend we spent the whole day hiking ( he initiated it). It was a great day, but again no touching, no kissing the whole time we hiked. I'm usually a very affectionate person, but because he's been so reserved, I didn't want to initiate. When we got back, he invited me to stay at his house for dinner. After dinner we set on the couch, and I was the first one to touch his hand. We ended up making out and rolling around on the couch. It was hot, at least in my opinion. We didn't have sex. Just ended up cuddling and I went home later. He took my face in his hands and gave me a nice kiss and a hug before I left. There is no next date set at this point. He was the first one to text me in the late afternoon the following date, saying he was hoping i enjoyed our day together. I told him I did. I wanted to add some flirting and romance and said I couldn't stop thinking of him kissing me and that he is a really great kisser. He thanked me and said that it takes two. So, we exchanged maybe four text messages that day. The next day I wanted to see if he would text me first, but he didn't. So, I texted him first and asked him how his day was. He said, good, but didn't elaborate. Again, trying to bring some spark into conversation, I told him it was really nice to cuddle with him and that I really liked him. He responded, saying yes, it was nice to cuddle. Then said he was going to bed. Nothing else. Today the whole day passed and he hasn't texted me yet. I don't think I'm needy and not expecting the guy to text me all the time, but I feel like if he liked me, he could at least say something short and sweet, like he is thinking of me, or can't wait to see me again. Considering that he said he was a hopeless romantic, it's strange that he is a complete opposite with me. I'm really attracted to him physically, but also to his personality. He is very intelligent. We have a lot in common. I'm finding myself wanting more-spending more time together, wanting him to be more affectionate with me. So far I feel like I'm the only one interested in the romantic relationship with him and the one pursuing him. Is he not interested, and I just refuse to admit it for myself? Or is he really just want to take it slow because he doesn't want to get hurt? At this point I decided not to make any efforts to connect with him and see if he initiates something. I think I'm starting to fall for him, hoping he actually likes me, but just afraid to proceed, because he's been hurt. But on the other hand, I want to hear the outside perspective on this. What do you guys think? Should I just move on?

Sorry this is long. Thank you!!

 

This guy disappeared for three weeks after two dates. He's lukewarm about you at best. At worst, he's keeping you on the back burner for when there isn't anything better going on.

 

But, based on his other behavior with you, I think you may be right about maybe protecting his heart because of past hurt. I would move on from him. Each time he starts to get a little close, he will pull away for a while and then come back. It's very difficult for a woman even if he decides to come close because she will never really feel loved. There will always be something a "little off" about it.

 

Don't reach out to him first anymore and observe. If he lets weeks go by and you hear from him, tell him you've moved on.

[sk1977]

Sorry guys. Here it is again in paragraphs. I'm new to this forum thing. Hope this reads better.

 

Hi all,

I'm back into dating scene after ending 16 year marriage and not sure how to navigate the waters of dating, specifically online dating. Both female and male perspective on this would be greatly appreciated. He is sending mixed signals, and I can't figure out if he is just really guarded or maybe just not that into me.

 

A little background info. We met online. Had 2 dates: dinner & met up for coffee. I thought they both went great: nice conversation, similar interests and I felt attracted to him. Then he never asked me out for another date. I thought, fine, he just didn't like me. Then, three weeks later, he texted me out of nowhere and invited me for dinner. Again, nice conversation, but he is very physically reserved- no touching and a little "good night" peck on the lips at the end. On one hand, it's very refreshing that they guy isn't jumping on me by the third date, on the other hand makes me wonder if he is even attracted to me. Our forth date is the movie date. He did take my hand in his by the end of the movie, then a few little kisses before we said good night.

 

He is not texting me much between the dates. No flirting. I think he mentioned once that he thought i was pretty, but that's about it. We didn't see each other for two weeks, because we both have kids, and kid-free time is scarce. We exchanged a few texts in those two weeks, and he said while he is enjoying my company, he was feeling a little uneasy about me being freshly separated from my husband, that he doesn't want to be a re-bound. He also mentioned he's been hurt by women before and "tired of the game". At that point I asked him if he'd like to stop seeing me or continue to see me and proceed slowly. He said he wanted to continue slowly and see how it goes. At that point I had a feeling that although he thinks I'm not ready for a relationship, he might be the one who is not ready after having his heart broken a few times. Also, he mentioned he was a hopeless romantic, yet his behavior towards me felt very much platonic.

 

So, last weekend we spent the whole day hiking ( he initiated it). It was a great day, but again no touching, no kissing the whole time we hiked. I'm usually a very affectionate person, but because he's been so reserved, I didn't want to initiate. When we got back, he invited me to stay at his house for dinner. After dinner we set on the couch, and I was the first one to touch his hand. We ended up making out and rolling around on the couch. It was hot, at least in my opinion. We didn't have sex. Just ended up cuddling and I went home later. He took my face in his hands and gave me a nice kiss and a hug before I left.

 

There is no next date set at this point. He was the first one to text me in the late afternoon the following date, saying he was hoping i enjoyed our day together. I told him I did. I wanted to add some flirting and romance and said I couldn't stop thinking of him kissing me and that he is a really great kisser. He thanked me and said that it takes two. So, we exchanged maybe four text messages that day. The next day I wanted to see if he would text me first, but he didn't. So, I texted him first and asked him how his day was. He said, good, but didn't elaborate. Again, trying to bring some spark into conversation, I told him it was really nice to cuddle with him and that I really liked him. He responded, saying yes, it was nice to cuddle. Then said he was going to bed. Nothing else.

 

Today the whole day passed and he hasn't texted me yet. I don't think I'm needy and not expecting the guy to text me all the time, but I feel like if he liked me, he could at least say something short and sweet, like he is thinking of me, or can't wait to see me again. Considering that he said he was a hopeless romantic, it's strange that he is a complete opposite with me. I'm really attracted to him physically, but also to his personality. He is very intelligent. We have a lot in common. I'm finding myself wanting more-spending more time together, wanting him to be more affectionate with me. So far I feel like I'm the only one interested in the romantic relationship with him and the one pursuing him.

 

Is he not interested, and I just refuse to admit it for myself? Or is he really just want to take it slow because he doesn't want to get hurt? At this point I decided not to make any efforts to connect with him and see if he initiates something. I think I'm starting to fall for him, hoping he actually likes me, but just afraid to proceed, because he's been hurt. But on the other hand, I want to hear the outside perspective on this. What do you guys think? Should I just move on?

 

Sorry this is long. Thank you!!

[sk1977]

Thanks Redhead14 for your take on things!

[sk1977]

preraph,

 

Thanks for commenting. I'm not talking about sexting here. And I'm not talking about heavy texting, as I don't have time for that either. But usually guys give off more signals that they like you. He also said he liked public display of affection, but his actions tell me a different story.

[preraph]

All that stuff with you texting about cuddling just seems too silly for a grown man to feel comfortable going on about in writing....

[Ami1uwant]

He isn't that ino you.

 

 

Unsure if you could be doing something wrong in your behavior sending mixed signals to him.

 

Don't assume you are the only one he is dating.

 

What may have happened is the dates went well but slow. He dated someone else and they went faster but flamed out so he goes back to you.

[Sunkissedpatio]

Oh brother...all this talk about texting is for kids...hey those of us in our 40's still text after dates it's not like we are sitting at home on our typewriters typing out letters to be delivered by our carrier pigeons

 

Men in all age groups that have cell phones still very much text and send in-between texts after a date when they are interested. It is not about acting like teeny boppers, everyone texts, and when you date you text in between to share pleasant thoughts, sexy thoughts, to flirt, and to encourage more dates. So you are right to take note of that.

 

Judging by everything you said this guy is either lukewarm about you or dating others and keeping his options open, or just isn't ready for any sort of relationship and lured you in for romance but is only really interested in a companion to share odd free times with.

 

I'd keep my options open if I were you. Welcome to the wonderful world of dating in 2016

[Grisho]

It seems so obvious - banish the texting lark and call him directly. Use text messages only in an emergency. You cannot interpret anything from text messages. You are needlessly navel gazing.

[Sunkissedpatio]

She said she already feels like it's one sided and she's doing all the work, call him for what!?!

 

By the way texting is not for "emergencies" for a lot of people, it is probably the main form of communication and secondary are phone calls when you can and feel like having a long convo.

[TXGuy]

She said she already feels like it's one sided and she's doing all the work, call him for what!?!

 

By the way texting is not for "emergencies" for a lot of people, it is probably the main form of communication and secondary are phone calls when you can and feel like having a long convo.

 

I'd like to know what 'work' she is doing. There might be some, but I didn't see much in her post. It is mostly her secretly wishing he would do more or move faster. I'd be interested to know what she is doing to initiate dates or affection. They are 4ish dates into things at this point. If she hasn't asked him out on one of those, I'd say she is the one that is disinterested.

 

The suggestion that she should 'fade' on him as a productive dating strategy doesn't make sense to me.

[Larryville]

dating scene after ending 16 year marriage

 

He is sending mixed signals

 

We met online. Had 2 dates

 

not texting me much between the dates

 

Is he not interested, and I just refuse to admit it for myself?

 

Today the whole day passed and he hasn't texted me yet

 

again

no touching, no kissing

the whole time we hiked. I'm usually a very affectionate person, but because he's been so reserved, I didn't want to initiate. When we got back, he invited me to stay at his house for dinner. After dinner we set on the couch, and I was the first one to touch his hand. We ended up making out and rolling around on the couch. It was hot, at least in my opinion. We didn't have sex. Just ended up cuddling and I went home later. He took my face in his hands and gave me a nice kiss and a hug before I left.

 

You are typical of so many people particularly if they have come out of a marriage, unsure of yourself, maybe a fragile ego and sense of self and trying to adjust to the “horrific” world… LOL! of online dating.

 

Don’t overthink every action, hug, kiss... but DON'T dedicate too much mental and emotional energy on one single individual.

 

If dude is confused or slow, that is his problem, not yours!

 

Navigate the field and learn to understand what you want and what you are looking for. This particular dude is not that into you (or confused), but so what?

 

Meet lots of other guys, but what is important is learn communication skills and get a better read on the people you meet.

 

Last don’t waste time…

 

I can't figure out if he is just really guarded or maybe just not that into me.

 

Women post countless threads and say this and frankly I don’t get it. If a guy is “into you” you should... WILL know, this is not rocket science unless you are really poor at reading people, body language OR you lack self-esteem… called EI/EQ

 

Emotional Intelligence, or EI, describes an ability or capacity to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one’s self, and of others.

 

Get a better read and understanding of yourself and you will not be confused whether or not someone is “into you”

 

Good Luck

[stillafool]

He isn't that ino you.

 

 

Unsure if you could be doing something wrong in your behavior sending mixed signals to him.

 

Don't assume you are the only one he is dating.

 

What may have happened is the dates went well but slow. He dated someone else and they went faster but flamed out so he goes back to you.

 

I agree with this. He isn't just dating you but others too and is rather lukewarm about you at this point. Pull back on the texting and see if he pursues you. If he doesn't it's because he's involved with others.

[sk1977]

Thank you for everyone who responded.

 

To answer the question about what "work" I have done to move relationship forward. I initiated the third date. And since we only see each other once/twice every 2 weeks, I send him texts asking him how his day way and flirting with him. I also invited him to go to the wedding with me as a date, and he declined. During the 4th date, I was the one who initiated touching. Again I send him texts telling me I like him a lot along with other comments. He responded to the comments, but completely ignored " i really like you" part.

 

I didn't text the whole day yesterday to see if I hear from him. He sent me a text around 9pm, saying he had a busy day and busy night and he needs to pack for the business trip. Short and dry. It felt like he is just sending a text to keep the lines of communication open, but without much effort or interest. At that point I just wished him to enjoy his trip, to witch he responded "Thx".

 

I've been dating other people. Great guys and some of them were very forward about their attraction to me and wanting a relationship with me, but I just don't feel the spark and excitement towards them, like i feel towards this guy. And I would have already given up on this if he wasn't throwing a very few signals into the mix that he indeed might like me.

 

What do I do? Do I suggest another date and see if he is interested or do I wait and see if he initiates something?

 

Thanks, guys!

[Sunkissedpatio]

I'd like to know what 'work' she is doing.

 

After dinner we set on the couch, and I was the first one to touch his hand. We ended up making out

 

He was the first one to text me in the late afternoon the following date, saying he was hoping i enjoyed our day together. I told him I did. I wanted to add some flirting and romance and said I couldn't stop thinking of him kissing me and that he is a really great kisser. He thanked me and said that it takes two. So, we exchanged maybe four text messages that day. The next day I wanted to see if he would text me first, but he didn't. So, I texted him first and asked him how his day was. He said, good, but didn't elaborate. Again, trying to bring some spark into conversation, I told him it was really nice to cuddle with him and that I really liked him. He responded, saying yes, it was nice to cuddle. Then said he was going to bed. Nothing else.

 

I feel like if he liked me, he could at least say something short and sweet, like he is thinking of me, or can't wait to see me again. Considering that he said he was a hopeless romantic, it's strange that he is a complete opposite with me. I'm really attracted to him physically, but also to his personality.

 

 

If she feels she is working too hard for him chances are she is. New to the dating world or not we all know and can tell when we are doing too much and our feelings aren't being quite reciprocated.

 

Furthermore, this right here is something that shouldn't be ignored because on the one hand people are saying this guy is a grown man and shouldn't be expected to text because that is not what grown adults do but yet he isn't adult enough to put his foot down and say "look I don't do recently separated because I've been burned before so it was nice meeting you but this is too close to home." OR keep his mouth shut about his past and date her anyway but take it as a new and clean slate. Can't have it both ways. You either agree to risk being a rebound all things considered or not. This half-assed "I'll see you when it suits but I won't show you much" sounds exactly like what she is suspecting - HE is the one with commitment issues.

 

We exchanged a few texts in those two weeks, and he said while he is enjoying my company, he was feeling a little uneasy about me being freshly separated from my husband, that he doesn't want to be a re-bound. He also mentioned he's been hurt by women before and "tired of the game". At that point I asked him if he'd like to stop seeing me or continue to see me and proceed slowly. He said he wanted to continue slowly and see how it goes. At that point I had a feeling that although he thinks I'm not ready for a relationship, he might be the one who is not ready after having his heart broken a few times. Also, he mentioned he was a hopeless romantic, yet his behavior towards me felt very much platonic.

Edited August 17, 2016 by Sunkissedpatio

[sk1977]

Thank you, Sunkissed. Your response just reinforced what I was suspecting. What do you suggest I do? Should I stop seeking any contact with him and wait until he initiates? Should I even wait for him to be ready for a relationship one day, without even knowing for sure if he even remotely likes me? Or should I cut my loses and move on, before I fall for him even more? Should i openly talk to him about this or is it too early in a relationship and would scare him away?

 

Thank you, again!

[Sunkissedpatio]

Thank you, Sunkissed. Your response just reinforced what I was suspecting. What do you suggest I do? Should I stop seeking any contact with him and wait until he initiates? Should I even wait for him to be ready for a relationship one day, without even knowing for sure if he even remotely likes me? Or should I cut my loses and move on, before I fall for him even more? Should i openly talk to him about this or is it too early in a relationship and would scare him away?

 

Thank you, again!

 

Do you feel comfortable enough talking to him about it? If you are just at the dating stage (which is to figure things out) then a talk might feel presumptuous at this stage. Having said that, and I am no advocate for playing dating games, but if you want to know how into you he is you can just pull back and let him initiate.

 

How did you react when he shared his concerns about your recent split? If you are brutally honest and we are just flies on your wall how far along in recovery are you from your split and do you feel you could love again at this point in time?

[sk1977]

I feel like it's probably too early to have a conversation like this. I probably will just pull back and see if he comes after me.

 

As far as my response to his concern about my recent split, I said that my marriage was technically over years ago. We stayed together as roommates for the kids. I went through grieving stages years ago, and now that I'm finally free, I am ready for a relationship. I told him I didn't need a man in my life, but I would like some companionship and someone to share life experiences with.

 

I am ready to love. And I feel like i could fall in love with this guy. I went on multiple dates with other guys who were nice, but i didn't feel the spark. The problem is it might just be one-sided.

[sk1977]

just bumping it to the top so people can see it

 

Please don't be offended, but I think you're operating on high school rules, probably because you've been married so long in between dating. Older people don't usually even have time for a lot of texting and they're not always comfortable saying "cutesy" things. He's fitting dating you in around his already full life. I'm actually liking him better because he isn't sexting you. If you spend too much time texting, what will you have fresh to talk about when you see each other?

 

Obviously, he likes you or he wouldn't be dating you. But I do think you're needy in an immature kind of way and that you need to curb that. Flirt when you're with him and can do something about it!

[Kamille]

Wait and see if he initiates. Definitely. You have doubts and this is the only way to gage his interest levels at this point.

 

Continue dating others. It might help keep your mind off him.

[sunshine2]

I know its hard but you need to stop texting him and saying all those things about liking him and kissing and cuddling etc. He is lukewarm and you are hot and now he knows that he has you if he wants you.

 

I went through this after my divorce too. I had no clue how to date because I was out of the dating world for 20+ years. I had to learn the lingo, FWB, FB, what it meant when a guy asks you to his house for "dinner", etc. I was a mess at first, falling for guys who didn't want a relationship and trying hard to make it work, just a waste of time.

 

What I learned is you have to have a thick skin, keep dating even if you like someone so you don't get wrapped up in one guy. DO NOT text him continuously and expect him to do the same. And the biggest lesson was, if a guy in into you, you WILL KNOW IT! They will want to be with you and ask you out, it won't be hard. They won't say they aren't ready for a relationship or any other BS that just means he will use you until he finds someone better for him.

 

Another thing about this guy is he has been hurt. My last BF was a lot like this guy, he didn't show any affection for a long time and when he finally did, it was very sporadic. I felt like his friend and not his gf. I was miserable. He was also hurt badly from his X wife and had so many walls up I could not reach him no matter what I did. He was also not an affectionate person. I broke up with him after a year, and should of done it sooner. So another lesson, if your needs aren't being met, you need to move on. This guy is already causing you to over think and analyze everything . To me this is a sign that he is NOT the right one for you.

[aries85]

I know its hard but you need to stop texting him and saying all those things about liking him and kissing and cuddling etc. He is lukewarm and you are hot and now he knows that he has you if he wants you.

 

I went through this after my divorce too. I had no clue how to date because I was out of the dating world for 20+ years. I had to learn the lingo, FWB, FB, what it meant when a guy asks you to his house for "dinner", etc. I was a mess at first, falling for guys who didn't want a relationship and trying hard to make it work, just a waste of time.

 

What I learned is you have to have a thick skin, keep dating even if you like someone so you don't get wrapped up in one guy. DO NOT text him continuously and expect him to do the same. And the biggest lesson was, if a guy in into you, you WILL KNOW IT! They will want to be with you and ask you out, it won't be hard. They won't say they aren't ready for a relationship or any other BS that just means he will use you until he finds someone better for him.

 

Another thing about this guy is he has been hurt. My last BF was a lot like this guy, he didn't show any affection for a long time and when he finally did, it was very sporadic. I felt like his friend and not his gf. I was miserable. He was also hurt badly from his X wife and had so many walls up I could not reach him no matter what I did. He was also not an affectionate person. I broke up with him after a year, and should of done it sooner. So another lesson, if your needs aren't being met, you need to move on. This guy is already causing you to over think and analyze everything . To me this is a sign that he is NOT the right one for you.

 

 

Well said.

 

I just wish it was easier to apply it...