Mia78 Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 My friend of year prior/bf of 6 months and i had an argument about 6 weeks ago.I am 36 he is 30. I was just feeling scared of the feelings i was catching. I was feeling the love and was scared he wasn’t. Everything up to this point was great. He was the chaser, he gave me keys to his apt quickly, always wanted me around, was making future plans. i did not question his feelings at all. He stresses about work, money and his bodybuilding (he wants to become pro). Very ambitious and goal orientated. I think he had a lot on his mind and his demeanor changed and made me think he wasn’t feeling it (shortly after he admitted this). Plus he was juicing so hear that can change someones moods. So after this argument i gave him distance. we talked less and saw each other less. He finally told me that I’m just not for him. While we were great, he needs someone similar to him, someone to motivate him and help him with his goals. I was confused because I thought, while i didn’t have the same goals to be a bodybuilder, i supported him completely. I was always there. Always accommodated his lifestyle (I am also a fitness junkie just don't want to make a career out of it.) It seemed like a cop-out. So the day after he told me this, I come to find out during our time apart, he met someone, someone he's been FB friends with for a while, who is bodybuilder, who has similar goals and lives in the UK- he publicly professed his happiness with ther stating they have the same goals and dreams and are crazy together ( i did my typical social media stalking). I try to not judge a person by their looks, but she is not what i would have thought his type is, at least so different from anyone else hes dates….FULL of tattoos (irrelevant but gawd..even on her face!!!) and ALL her post consist of is sexual memes, her tattooed face and talking about her anxiety attacks (yes i am a girl and i did my thourough new girlfriend research)...seriously she could be confused with a porn star but i am sure she is a very nice girl and Im just bitter and hating. So he dumped me for not having the same dreams and goals but she does and that makes her perfect. To make it all worse...he got his first tattoo, which I am sure she inspired, of the UK!!!! He stated it was a long story and she is actually coming to visit him tomorrow (makes me sick). So i am crushed. I think our time apart and him meeting her made him realize/think why i wasn’t a fit and she was a better one- grass is greener. i think hes just clouded by love and lust and something new. I regret a lot of things I did and didn't do throughout our relationship. I realized I am not the best of girlfriends. I hold back a lot. Its been a week of no contact. I am a hot mess. Sadly, i can’t stop hoping their relationship fizzles and he comes running back. Can someone slap some sense into me? Give me any hope? Or just make me feel better?? It hurts he's gone. i miss him so much. It sucks he moved on before we were done. And all the regrets just keep playing over and over. I have no intention of contacting him anytime soon. And I am trying to wear a smile and live my life. i know i need to get over it and move on...but i feel like this this was this biggest mistake.
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