Crono69 Posted July 3, 2005 Share Posted July 3, 2005 I always get mad at her when things dont go my way. I planned to do something before she left on summer vacation and she ended up taking her sister saying "Its her birthday" So I just do what I normally do when things dont go my way and look all pissed off at her while she tries to make conversation with me. Im really trying not to be this way. I always confront her about these things and ask her why we cant do things just me and her anymore. She tries to get me to hangout with her friends cause she tells me I need to meet more people, but I just get mad and say no I just want to be with you. So one day she says she finaly gets me and she tells me not to get mad and she tells me Im "needy" but in sort of a happy way and she said she wont get frustrated with me and she grabs my arm and gets close to me. I thought that was weird. So anyways, back to my plans with her. We were going to catch the ferry and they start running because were late. I just walk and theyre telliing me to hurry up. Well they left me and I lost them and I didnt know what ferry to take. So like I always do I think she does this to my on purpose and I confront her over the phone and we talk and she says its not her fault that I didnt run and she says she will talk to me later and hangs up. I call her back and her sister answers and she says that my friend doesnt want to talk to me and I told her the worst thing you could ever say. I told her to tell her that I hope she is happy when Im dead... Yup I threated to kill myself. So she hangs up on me. Then next day she calls and we talk and she tells me her mom and dad dont want her to be friends with me anymore because what I said and I kept telling her I didnt mean it and I just wanted to see if she cared about me but she wouldnt believe me and she said she doesnt know me at all. She also said we need a break from eachother. I call the next day and say Call me back when youre ready to talk to me and I havent called back since and she hasnt called me. That was about a week ago. Next time I will see her is when school starts again but Im afraid she doesnt want to be my friend because when we last talked I told her to dont stop being my friend and she just said she doesnt know. I know I need help but what are some ways I can talk to her again when we see eachother? Is our friendship ruined? Please help! I really did think she liked me more then a friend. The first time we went out she would sit close to me but now she will face away from me. I think its because I get mad at her for stupid reasons. Do you think we could have been together but I ruined it by how I act? Right now I just want her to be my friend though so please help me. Link to post Share on other sites
Privateeye Posted July 3, 2005 Share Posted July 3, 2005 it sounds to me like you need to appologise to her i think what you did was a bit exploitative, and if one of my friends did that to me i wouldnt know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted July 3, 2005 Share Posted July 3, 2005 Stop playing games with her. Your happiness does not depend on another person. It depends on you. Frankly, if threatening suicide is your idea of getting attention, I think you should consider therapy for your issues - which seem angeri-issues, and the fact that you have a hard time dealing with the fact that some people might have other ideas about what to do, what is fun et cetera. At best what you did is emotional blackmail. Focus on yourself, and on your issues. And don't think of the rewards that might deliver to you. Do it for yourself. The sooner the better. Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted July 3, 2005 Share Posted July 3, 2005 I think you blew it and you need to back off and leave her alone for awhile. Of you persist she will just withdraw and avoid you ( also possible stalking charges ). You might have blown the friendship but that was really not what you wanted anyway. You might have to look elsewhere so I would just react to how she treats you. That will tell you where you stand with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crono69 Posted July 4, 2005 Author Share Posted July 4, 2005 I did apologise to her but she doesnt believe me and some times when I say im sorry she will say what are you sorry about you didnt do anything wrong but now she just tells me to stop apologising. I havent called her in a week and I decided I wouldnt call for a while because she will think im a stalker, which im not. But I think I might call her 2 weeks from now because she lives for her trip and I want to tell her to have a nice trip and stuff. Is that ok? If one of your friends said this to you would you do what she is doing to me? I thought friends were suppose to help eachother out? Maybe she is confused over this? I told her so many times I didnt want to kill myself but she just says How do I know that? and that she doesnt know me at all. Link to post Share on other sites
tom9cal Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 Don't talk to her for awhile. When you see her at school, apologize again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crono69 Posted July 7, 2005 Author Share Posted July 7, 2005 She called me yesterday. I decided not to call her immediately to make it look like I was busy so I called her today and I left a message and she hasnt called back. Why would she call me? Do you think she was checking up on me? That would piss me off so much if she was. She should at least call if she wants to talk to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by Crono69 I always get mad at her when things dont go my way. she tells me Im "needy" but in sort of a happy way I think its because I get mad at her for stupid reasons. Do you think we could have been together but I ruined it by how I act?. Originally posted by Crono69 Do you think she was checking up on me? That would piss me off so much if she was. She should at least call if she wants to talk to me. Gosh.. re read what you've said already.. - You get mad at her when things don't go your way - You get mad at her for stupid reasons - You'll be pissed off if she was calling to check up on you There isn't any such thing as "Needy in a Happy way" trust me.. You're very high maintenence.. and seriously that wears people out regardless of the nature of the relationship be it romantic or plutonic. You tried to control her through anger.. when that didn't work then you tried to control her through guilt (telling her you would kill yourself) this isn't okay behaviour.. people should be friends with you because they want to, because they like you, not because they are afraid or feel obligated. The last thing you said was SHE SHOULD at LEAST call IF she wants to talk to you.. again, she doesn't owe you anything, and perhaps she isn't calling you back as she already knows what you stated.. that you're going to be pissed off that she had called to check up on you... If you want something different than what you're getting, then you've got to put something different into it. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crono69 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Share Posted July 8, 2005 But she called me. Why would she call me? She couldnt possibly know I would get mad at her if she was checking up on me because we didnt talk to eachother I just saw on the caller ID that she called me. Besides im not going to get mad at her anymore. Thats if she was accually calling to hear from me and not calling to tell me to call her back so she knows im still alive so she wont feel guilty. I was starting to get over this then she had to call and get me thinking about all the reasons why she would call me. Link to post Share on other sites
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