OutdoorGirl23 Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 Back Story: My best friend's brother asked me out on the 4th of July when he was in town, he lives in California. He made plans to fly back here a couple of weeks later, but work issues kept him from coming, and then my schedule got crazy. He had bought tickets for a baseball game and sent them to me. (Great Seats) He also sent me flowers the week he was supposed to be in town. Fast forward to this past weekend; He came to visit me. I had to work the night he arrived, but we went to dinner beforehand. We really hit it off, great conversation, and made plans for the next day. He texted me several times while I was at work that night. We met for breakfast the next day, and ended up spending the entire day together walking, talking, shopping, and eventually drinking a fair amount of beer and wine. Well we ended up having sex, more than once, watching a movie, and then I decided to go home. I just didn't want to seem pushy or overstay my welcome. The next morning he texted me, and we went over to his sisters house (my friend). We had a great time, but for some reason I was feeling kind of nervous. I'm not sure why, but I think it's because I think this may really turn into something. I drove him back to his hotel, and he asked if I'd like to have a nightcap. We went to the hotel bar, sat on the balcony and drank wine. He asked me about my schedule over the next few weeks so he could visit again, and he said he wanted me to come out and visit him. We made plans for him to come back around Labor Day. We parted ways because he had to fly to Denver the next morning. I kind of expected us to sleep together again. Am I overthinking this? I've known the guy for years, but this is the first time we've ever spent anytime together. I hope I didn't blow it.
gorf Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 (edited) I wouldn't say you have blown anything at this point. Although I notice a few things from what you said, and would take note that the distance he lives from you is substantial. I would follow that up by asking you what sort of contact you had with him prior to this sorta date-day with him? Was this the first time you two have had sex? Edited August 16, 2016 by gorf
mortensorchid Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 I am in a similar situation as you. Back in June, I went to a BBQ hosted by a guy I had known for a bit, casually. As it turned out, he lived near me (as in walking distance) and I didn't know it. But, I went to the BBQ, and we ended up doing IT. And he went away to NYC and he'll be there until October. We had sex another time after that, the two times I saw him before he left we didn't. I told him I realize we will be far apart, I did not / do not know him, but if it was just that weekend that's fine on my part. And what he did while he was away was his business. He called me the other week, we've kept up through Facebook posts. I am really not that excited about him, we have not much in common but you sound like you like him. Relax and wait until he contacts you. If it's been more than a week, it's done. Sorry, but that's life.
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