Why does a guy cheat even if he has a pretty girlfriend?

[Redhead14]

Yes....I agree.

 

OP, you're forgetting she wasnt the only one who was fooled by him...you were too....you were the one he was hiding from everyone....at least his family and friends probably knew all about her

 

You were a dirty little secret he had hidden...like a stiff sock under his bed...while she sprawled out ontop of it....you have no reason to be proud/cocky

 

She has retracted and is hurting. She acknowledged that the other girl was played as well. She did do a little bit of deflecting as part of denial which is to be expected.

[Dis]

She has retracted and is hurting. She acknowledged that the other girl was played as well. She did do a little bit of deflecting as part of denial which is to be expected.

 

I'm sure she is hurting. I know what its like to lash out when we're hurt by someone...I needed to let the OP know that she had the wrong attitude about this woman who was probably more hurt than her

 

I know the woman my ex just cheated on me with is hurting too...he played her like he did me

 

I never thought poorly of that woman....never resented her...we as women need to be kind to each other in these situtations as the men who cheat clearly dont give a f*ck about either woman

[lily999]

Yes....I agree.

 

OP, you're forgetting she wasnt the only one who was fooled by him...you were too....you were the one he was hiding from everyone....at least his family and friends probably knew all about her

 

You were a dirty little secret he had hidden...like a stiff sock under his bed...while she sprawled out ontop of it....you have no reason to be proud/cocky

 

Thanks for reminding me, but I had realized this long time ago.

I don't understand why you could read it as I am"proud, cocky". You are funny

I am very modest and know where I had been standing

[elaine567]

The Infidelity Megafecta - infidelity is not just about sex.

[Art_Critic]

The hot crazy matrix has some real truth in it....

 

The girl that brought me here to LS many many years ago was a 9-9.5 and was easily not the nicest person I've ever met, she was rude, a drunk and was very shallow, it took me 5 months to figure it all out before I dumped her and then the crazy matrix clicked in...

[lily999]

You always need proof. I kept proof on my now ex wife (wife at the time) just so I could prove without any doubt to the other woman that her husband was cheating on her with my then wife. As expected she denied it but later admitted to me she knew he was up to something.

 

Who knows your text alone might have been enough to cast doubt in her mind and get her putting 2 and 2 together. I really believe some people can't help but cheat and lie. Many believing their own lies! Some of these people I've no doubt go on to become politicians

 

Yeah cheaters are so good at lying! If not the lies wouldn't sound so real otherwise who would believe it

 

I didn't want to break them up and they are probably not happy in their relationship already. Today the girl even said "you don't know where we stand in our relationship". Since the guy started to cheat on her, they haven't posted any intimate pics, last year they posted lots

[Dis]

Number 1 is usually the answer. A lot of times, those pretty girls are nice to look at, but aren't as good in the bedroom. Meanwhile, a more average looking girl works much harder to please a guy.

 

This is ridiculous

 

I dont rest on my looks when I'm in the bedroom...or anywhere else

 

I'm nice to look at AND nice to...you know what

 

Lets stop bashing pretty women

[KatZee]

My ex cheated on me by our 4th month together. He cheated on me with his ex.

 

I know it wasn't because of the sex, he had made numerous comments about how boring she had been in bed.

 

I know it wasn't because of lack of attention, our entire first year was such a honeymoon with him I thought things were so great and we spent all our time together.

 

I know it wasn't because of variety because he didn't cheat with someone new, but someone he had been with for years.

 

In my case, he cheated on me because he had 6 years worth of history, memories, and connection to his ex. I was a new girl, 4 months in, and he started waxing nostalgic for his old relationship, and he was having doubts about having broken up with her.

 

He never wound up going back to her. We spent another 2 years together after that (I wasn't aware he had cheated).

 

He confessed after being together about 2.5 years. I stupidly stayed, and he wound up cheating AGAIN, this time I'm not sure whether it was emotional, physical, or both, but the reason I believe he cheated on me this time was because the trust was gone, and he knew this. I was very suspicious of him all of the time, always questioning things, riding that roller coaster that all cheatees ride on, anger, sadness, depression. He didn't know how to deal with the consequences of his cheating, so he cheated again, and used that as an excuse to dump me, and move directly to her.

[JewelD]

I messaged her today but she didn't really believe what I said.

She asked me to give her proof but I had deleted all his emails and texts(he used texts applications to text me), then she said I was bull****ting.

 

She wasn't so smart and so insensitive, that was why he could cheat on her so many times

 

You can't insult her without insulting yourself. We could say you're not very smart either since you dated him for a year and didn't figure out he had a whole entire girlfriend until now.

 

Truth is, cheaters will cheat so long as there are people willing to put up with it. And outside of the pro cheaters who have been married for years and having affairs, most men who do it aren't that slick or smart about it. They don't have to be because some women are so dickmatized, they ignore all the red flags anyway. The text messages at 3am from his 'mom', the fact that they've never met his family or friends, the fact that they are nonexistent on his social media, etc.

[lily999]

You can't insult her without insulting yourself. We could say you're not very smart either since you dated him for a year and didn't figure out he had a whole entire girlfriend until now.

 

Truth is, cheaters will cheat so long as there are people willing to put up with it. And outside of the pro cheaters who have been married for years and having affairs, most men who do it aren't that slick or smart about it. They don't have to be because some women are so dickmatized, they ignore all the red flags anyway. The text messages at 3am from his 'mom', the fact that they've never met his family or friends, the fact that they are nonexistent on his social media, etc.

 

You seem like you are the only one who is trying to insult other people

Whether or not I am smart, I don't need you here to point out my intelligence, and I said it at the beginning of this post, that I was stupid. Your words just look like your pic, btw

[ChickiePops]

You seem like you are the only one who is trying to insult other people

Whether or not I am smart, I don't need you here to point out my intelligence, and I said it at the beginning of this post, that I was stupid. Your words just look like your pic, btw

 

So then why did you have to mention her intelligence level if not to call attention to your own?

[lily999]

So then why did you have to mention her intelligence level if not to call attention to your own?

 

I was just feeling sad when I told her the truth she chose not to believe me and wanted to protect her boyfriend

[ChickiePops]

I was just feeling sad when I told her the truth she chose not to believe me and wanted to protect her boyfriend

 

Let her have the loser. Walk away.

[basil67]

I was just feeling sad when I told her the truth she chose not to believe me and wanted to protect her boyfriend

 

What other outcome would you have expected?

[Aniela]

Pretty isn't everything. Is the girl funny? Intelligent? A good companion? Fun to be with? Is she shallow? Is she mean?

 

Need more info here. Pretty can only get you so far..you still have to have substance.

 

Or he's just a selfish douche who wants doesn't give a crap about anyone but himself.

 

Yep. It's usually the last thing.

[Aniela]

This is ridiculous

 

I dont rest on my looks when I'm in the bedroom...or anywhere else

 

I'm nice to look at AND nice to...you know what

 

Lets stop bashing pretty women

 

It wasn't exactly complimentary to those of us who aren't stunning, either. But someone cheating usually isn't caring about how either woman feels.

[lily999]

Let her have the loser. Walk away.

 

Hmm, even when I told the girl which days I met his boyfriend, she still didn't believe it. She said that I was his boyfriend's ex gf, she said I was following her on Instagram so I know which days she was on vacation...

When I said another date she just said her boyfriend was with her the entire time in her farm

 

Not only this, she just kept arguing for her boyfriend being not cheating on her with me. Their relationship isn't good this year but they are still together

[ChickiePops]

I know your hurting hun....but what you said to Jewel...what you implied...was extremely insulting....dont back peddle now

 

Hmm, even when I told the girl which days I met his boyfriend, she still didn't believe it. She said that I was his boyfriend's ex gf, she said I was following her on Instagram so I know which days she was on vacation...

When I said another date she just said her boyfriend was with her the entire time in her farm

 

Not only this, she just kept arguing for her boyfriend being not cheating on her with me. Their relationship isn't good this year but they are still together

 

So what? Who cares what she believes or doesn't believe? Stop caring about her and worry about you. Why are YOU willing to lower yourself to this? You're not a person he gives a damn about, you're not even important enough to this guy to dump his girlfriend for, you're just a secondary hole for him to stick his penis into.

 

Why don't you think you're worth more than that?

 

Stop worrying about his girlfriend and worry about why you're willing to be a walking vagina to some stupid douche.

[dreamingoftigers]

You were trying to make yourself innocent here. At the beginning you used the word "dickmatized" trying to insult and stereotype people who were fooled by guys who are in a relationship already. I believe people who have class would not use such word. And I am a fool yes wasting my time here arguing with you. You comments didn't help at all. Don't be like you know everything and other people is all dumb and in the meantime you try to criticize people.

 

Whether or not your have been a side chick isn't my concern because I only mind my own business. I could say you were saving your face too by arguing you have never been a side chick, your explanation is naïve and lame. I am here asking for help not need someone to judge and I know people like you want to fight and love to attack other people telling them how wrong they did blah blah, to make themselves look better or something. These people are usually the ones who have low self esteem.

 

It looks like you know everything about what I think and how our relationship went. For a person like this is very suspicious, self centered and ignorant. I don't have to give you all the details about our relationship, and I don't care of being called a "side chick" on the internet since no one knows me in real life, so how could I possibly try to "save face"? You are so "immature" here and ridiculous as well.

 

"I've never been one but I don't live under a rock so I know full well what it is and when a man is trying to make you one. " hahaha sounds like guys just wanted to make you as a side chick, that was why you are so angry? OMG I just learned from you, that I assumed too much? And, I don't have any preference on your pic, thanks

 

Okay, so you are insulting AND picking fights and backpedaling on what YOU yourself suggested.

 

Re-read your thread and see if you can see where your logic comes apart.

 

That's my only advice to you. That and see a counselor, you have a HUGE blameshifting problem. It's rare to see someone quite so defensive and rude at the same time here on LS.

[Lois_Griffin]

The entire time, he was lying to me and leading me on.. He made me fall in love with him so hard. If he was honest with me and told me he is in a relationship already I wouldn't have wasted so much time and emotions on him...Stupid me

And that's exactly WHY the lying sleazy POS lied to you.

 

Please don't be like some of the women who've posted that they actually stayed with these lying douche bags after they found out how they'd been conned, because they 'fell in loooooove with him.'

 

Don't disrespect yourself like that.

 

The only unfinished business you have with this festering pile of lying crap is telling his girlfriend what a pig he REALLY is and treating him to an all expense paid trip to the curb courtesy of your right foot.

[Lois_Griffin]

Looking back over the last few pages, I see you DID tell his girlfriend and she wanted to be foolish and keep her head buried in the sand, but they've now broken up.

 

Apparently, the lying scumbag needs another 'mommy' to take her place so he's tried to suggest that YOU move in with his lying, cheating worthless ass in June.

 

Why are you even TALKING to him at this point?

 

Stop disrespecting yourself.

[lily999]

Looking back over the last few pages, I see you DID tell his girlfriend and she wanted to be foolish and keep her head buried in the sand, but they've now broken up.

 

Apparently, the lying scumbag needs another 'mommy' to take her place so he's tried to suggest that YOU move in with his lying, cheating worthless ass in June.

 

Why are you even TALKING to him at this point?

 

Stop disrespecting yourself.

 

No I no longer talking to him. And I wont talk to him again. He was planning to move out and move to my city. He was trying to build something with me, but my instincts told me that he wasn't single so I always pushed me away. I am not 100% sure if they have broken up but at least they don't seem well in the relationship

[lily999]

My business is here for help and I am thankful to people here who trying to help me. Not these ones judging me and implying me what kind of person, and told me the things I had realized long time ago. I don't need you here to tell me what I did wrong for these unnecessary fight. If you were not here trying to help someone to fight, I could only say that your logic and hers/theirs is the same

Edited August 16, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Robert]

thread closed, hopefully the thread starter got what they needed from this thread. It seems some posters just cannot pull a punch and the thread degraded into insults at that point.

 

Thanks all who participated.