thebiglimp Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 i met this girl on tinder for dates. on second date we hooked up and right before sex as we were talking i said that i wanted a 'sexual relationship'. but we were both very drunk and rambling at the time. the next morning she is very affectionate with me- holding hands on the street, sweet messages after we part, ect. and i play along because i'm someone who always has trouble saying no. and i'm always extra nice to girls to begin with so she probably thought it was a genuine thing i was seeking.... but obviously i do not want a relationship... how do i handle this and what can i learn from this if there were any mistakes?
PinkPampies Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 Be upfront land clear about it BEFORE sex, if that is truly what you want. For this girl, be honest with her the next time you speak. 1
summertitparadise Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 Be honest. Tell her you do not want a relationship.
dpass Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 You need to straight out tell her that you do not want a relationship, that you were just looking for sex. She IS going to be upset, and that is both of your wrong doings. This should always be discussed before sex, and not when you are drunk. That is a whole other issue, do not have sex with women when they are drunk. That is how you land yourself in jail, my friend.
AMJ Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 Lessons learned: 1. Be honest before you have sex about your intentions. 2. You can even save yourself some effort and just spell out your intentions on your Tinder profile "Not looking for a relationship" usually does the trick. 3. Don't get sloppy drunk on dates.
Author thebiglimp Posted August 16, 2016 Author Posted August 16, 2016 ok i think ill have to man up and do that.. but can i still do it over text tho?
AMJ Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 Look I'd agree you owe her no explanation but the fact you feel so guilty means that you led her on. If that's the case I think it wouldn't kill you to give her a quick phone call, say your peace and then wish her best of luck. That's the noble thing to do, in my opinion.
leogirl876 Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 The girl met you on Tinder and hooked up on the 2nd date. You owe her nothing. It would be decent of you to let her know yet again where you stand, but aside from that, all is good. If she wanted something more than a drunken hookup, she should have ascertained your intentions before she got drunk and hooked up with you, a guy she barely knew. That's bullcrap!!! You can at least tell her and be upfront. This ghosting era has got to stop!!! These are real people with real feelings. Be a man and fricking tell her instead of disappearing on her leaving her wondering what she did wrong. So tired of people that do this crap to other people!
Miss Clavel Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 i met this girl on tinder for dates. first mistake.
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