le_reverie Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 I know this girl for almost 2 years, never date, we saw each other a couple of times because of common friend, we exchange numbers with the promise of a drink. Never happened because of our work schedule. A month ago she send me a text (in the past we exchanged few texts once in a while, just to keep connection), we decide do go out, first date we have a great time and she ask me to let her know when I'm free next week. Unfortunately we couldn't manage to meet. We go for a second date the week after, we had great time, pre-dinner and dinner. She suggest me to walk her to the bus stop with one's arms entwined on my arm (something like a good 25 min walk). At the bus stop, I've to be honest. I couldn't find strength to state my interest in date her more seriously, we kiss on the check and good bye. We text a bit when she got home, two days later I text her that I want to see her and to let me know when she'll be free that I'll arrange a date...no answer and since then (almost a week) she's quiet. It seems all good to me, beside my lack in courage and if this was the problem I want to sort it out, because I really like her and I wish to know, at least, if she's interest in me or not... I don't know what to do
spiderowl Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 Have you spoken to her on the phone before? You could always call. However, it might be best to text and tell her what you told us, that you really like her but didn't convey that to her at the time. Let her know you would really like to see her again. If you get no response, you'll know she is not interested.
leogirl876 Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 I know this girl for almost 2 years, never date, we saw each other a couple of times because of common friend, we exchange numbers with the promise of a drink. Never happened because of our work schedule. A month ago she send me a text (in the past we exchanged few texts once in a while, just to keep connection), we decide do go out, first date we have a great time and she ask me to let her know when I'm free next week. Unfortunately we couldn't manage to meet. We go for a second date the week after, we had great time, pre-dinner and dinner. She suggest me to walk her to the bus stop with one's arms entwined on my arm (something like a good 25 min walk). At the bus stop, I've to be honest. I couldn't find strength to state my interest in date her more seriously, we kiss on the check and good bye. We text a bit when she got home, two days later I text her that I want to see her and to let me know when she'll be free that I'll arrange a date...no answer and since then (almost a week) she's quiet. It seems all good to me, beside my lack in courage and if this was the problem I want to sort it out, because I really like her and I wish to know, at least, if she's interest in me or not... I don't know what to do Part of the problem is all this texting! Texting just creates confusion, especially when you barely know someone. It's a turnoff to me when a guy only texts that I first meet and will make me lose interest. Pick up the phone and call her. If she doesn't return your call, then you've lost her interest.
smudge21 Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 Think you missed her time limit and maybe made her feel that you weren't interested. I've looked into this more and more, and it does start to sound true that there's a moment when girls (could be the same for guys too) turn off. It's suggested that within the first few dates, if the guy hasn't made a move, or at least made his intentions clear, then the girl will move on. May still stay in touch, but it won't lead to anything. Obviously there's no way to know this is 100% accurate and I'm sure many on here may argue against it, but it does sound like this is the case here. That said, you can now look at it as nothing to lose. So give her a call and if you get answerphone only, then leave a message. Nothing creepy or begging, no apologising or anything like that. Just polite and asking her to get in touch. If you hear nothing, then let it go and move on. If, however, she does get back and want to see you again, then make it clear you are interested in a relationship. Good luck.
Erik30 Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 (edited) I would wait a little bit longer, (maybe another week) since you did your part and left the ball in her court. Then if you still haven't heard from her, suggest a definite date. If she's interested, she'll say yes (obviously) or will give you some alternatives in case she can't make it. If she ignores you again, or only tells you she has other plans, she's not into you. Edited August 16, 2016 by Erik30
Author le_reverie Posted August 16, 2016 Author Posted August 16, 2016 Thank you for you suggestions. This morning she text me, She say wss sorry for not answering me and that we can meet in the weekend as she's busy in the week...Unfortunately I'm working the weekend and I can't free myself to it. So I proposed for the week after. Waiting for an answer now. I'm not texting her too much. Just after the date when she told me she arrived home. And when we organise anither date. I don't like text too much when I need to know a person, but it make me really ansiouse when ahe read and answer after a week...
JDPT Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 Part of the problem is all this texting! Texting just creates confusion, especially when you barely know someone. It's a turnoff to me when a guy only texts that I first meet and will make me lose interest. Pick up the phone and call her. If she doesn't return your call, then you've lost her interest. very true, I only text girls who i'm half ass interested in, and make a few calls to those are I somewhat like.
JDPT Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 Thank you for you suggestions. This morning she text me, She say wss sorry for not answering me and that we can meet in the weekend as she's busy in the week...Unfortunately I'm working the weekend and I can't free myself to it. So I proposed for the week after. Waiting for an answer now. I'm not texting her too much. Just after the date when she told me she arrived home. And when we organise anither date. I don't like text too much when I need to know a person, but it make me really ansiouse when ahe read and answer after a week... I think this flat lined a long time ago. I also think she's just being nice and wanting to hang out with you and perhaps does enjoy your company but nothing beyond that. I personally would just leave things as is and don't waste your time or hers.
Author le_reverie Posted August 16, 2016 Author Posted August 16, 2016 I'm going to see her (hopefully) and see how's going, I'm going to tell her how I feel, nothing really I can lose about it and I prefer a flat no that a big question mark and resentment because I didn't tell her. Maybe for once in a life time I'm lucky in romantic relationship ahahahah
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