spiderowl Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 (edited) Well I have been stood up. Guy was going to phone me and didn't. I know it happens to tons of people but he seemed really genuine and repeated that he was going to call, and when, at the end of our recent online exchange. He said he was looking forward to speaking to me. We've been in touch for a while on and off. He seemed a real gentleman and has behaved well online, polite and decent. He could have left a message on a dating site if there was a problem so the fact that he hasn't says a lot. Just shows how you can get it totally wrong! i suppose he was married or something and just playing online - what a creep! Just felt the need to grumble I guess Edited August 15, 2016 by spiderowl
porta77 Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 Sorry it happened. Move on. If he pops up again, ignore. 2
Author spiderowl Posted August 15, 2016 Author Posted August 15, 2016 Thanks, just annoyed with myself that I didn't see this one coming. He really didn't seem the type.
Author spiderowl Posted August 16, 2016 Author Posted August 16, 2016 I re-read the message he sent me and he said he would ring me 'tomorrow night'. We were chatting online at 1.30am so I assumed that meant later the same day (and just got the feeling it did). I suppose taken literally it could mean the following night, if you see what I mean. I am not trying to make it out to be possible that he will ring tonight instead now, but if you had been chatting to a guy at 1.30am and he said he'd ring 'tomorrow night', would you assume he meant later that same day? If he did ring tonight I don't know how I'd react. Could anyone possibly have thought it meant the next night?
jen1447 Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 It would mean the coming night to me. I know it's tempting to think anyone who does this is a turd but it's also possible he's so insecure he couldn't do it.
Author spiderowl Posted August 16, 2016 Author Posted August 16, 2016 (edited) Thanks Jen, it seems I didn't misunderstand after all. He left a message on skype saying something had happened with his car (turbo) and apologising for not getting to phone me. Not sure how to react but I'm pretty pissed off. As far as I can see, he had a problem with his car not his phone! Is it reasonable to expect that he might at least have given me a quick call to say so at the time? Edited August 16, 2016 by spiderowl
AMJ Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 It's always rude to stand someone up. And yes, there's no reason why he couldn't call or text. I got stood up two weeks ago and just didn't even reply when he tried to apologize. He was supposed to go surfing in the morning and meet me for brunch at 11. Then around 1 he sends this text- oh I'm so sorry I got a late start surfing. So yeah, apparently surfing was more important than meeting me. Oh and then once I got stood up on Valentine's Day. That one was really upsetting. He sends me an email- yes, EMAIL- like an hour before we're supposed to be at this fancy restaurant letting me know that he can't meet me because he had sex with some other woman the night before. That one stung. So...yeah I have zero patience for that BS now. No second chances, nope. Not ever. 2
jen1447 Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 Is it reasonable to expect that he might at least have given me a quick call to say so at the time? yep. Last time I checked, having car trouble didn't render phones inoperable. 1
mortensorchid Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 I'm sorry. That happened to me tonight. I was supposed to meet someone for an internet date, went to the place that we arranged to meet via text, and he never showed. No phone call or text. Nothing. Move on, I will as well.
leogirl876 Posted August 16, 2016 Posted August 16, 2016 There seems to be a consistent flake when it comes to OLD, like many people seem to forget there's a real person behind that IM message. SMH!!! Next him!!! 1
Author spiderowl Posted August 16, 2016 Author Posted August 16, 2016 yep. Last time I checked, having car trouble didn't render phones inoperable. Lol, yes I'm not a technician but I don't think they were connected somehow.
Author spiderowl Posted August 16, 2016 Author Posted August 16, 2016 I'm sorry. That happened to me tonight. I was supposed to meet someone for an internet date, went to the place that we arranged to meet via text, and he never showed. No phone call or text. Nothing. Move on, I will as well. Sorry mortensorchid, it is a really crap way to treat someone. Makes you wonder what goes on in their minds, obviously not life as we know it.
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