Wordguy Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 I met this girl on the street near my work. I had actually seen her the day before shopping and thought she was hot. I walked up to her and said 'hi'. She sounded happily surprised. I introduced myself and so did she. We shook hands. I said, "I've seen you around here before, do you work around here?". "Yeah, I work at such and such." "Oh yeah? I work here too." "I used to work at this bank." "I don't think I'll be working in financial services though." "God,I wish I could dress like you today." She said, " Well,I guess we could change clothes, but we'ed both look pretty silly. But yeah, it's been pretty hot lately." I saw she was holding a shopping bag and asked her: " Out to do some shopping?" "Yep, and I'm on my way to the bank. Are you out to enjoy the weather?" "Yep, just enjoying the sun on my lunch hour." We approached her bank, and I was feeling a little apprehensive.I thought I'd give her my card and number, I said: "Just a sec,I'd like to give you my card if you want to call me...." And of course, I reach into my wallet and therer's no card. "I don't know if you have a boyfriend...." And before I could finish, she reached out her hand and said, "Well, it was really nice to meet you. A week goes by and I'm leaving my office and see her shopping again. I walk up to her thinking...this is perfect. I call out her name and she says hi with a big smile. "How's it going?" "Good." I then look her up and down, notice what she's wearing and her shopping bags and ask her: "Are you still working here?" Yeah, I just left early to do some shopping. Spending my pay cheque." "Yeah, I just got off work early too. Look, I never got a chance to give you my number when I saw you last. And, I wanted to ask you out. Are you seeing anyone?" "She replied, "Yes, I am unfortunately." "oh, too bad." Then, here's the kicker...she says:" I WISH I WASN'T ONCE I MEET A MAN LIKE YOU". She's kind of blushing at this point. And, after hearing this rather overt expression of interest, I say: "Well, if you change your mind, or if...." She finishes my sentence, "...It doesn't work out?" "Yeah, why don't you call me?" I reach in my shirt pocket and pull out a card, scribble my number and email on the back, and hand it to her. "Thanks." "We'll probably see eachother around, I work right here. " At this point, when I'm talking, she looks me up and down-CHECKING ME OUT. A big smile as she peers into my eyes." Well, have a great weekend." Now my question is, does this sound like interest on her part? We've only spoken twice and she is seeing someone. So, my expectations aren't too high. But still, she seems like she is interested in messing around or at least dating in the future if things don't work out. She has my number and email and hasn't tried to contact me yet, by the way. It's been a week. Any other ideas on next steps too?
Marshbear Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 She knows who you are and I'm sure she likes you. I would just play it cool,don't be to forward but when you see her compliment her and remind her that you would really like to see her if she is willing. Don't just become her friend while you are waiting. Keep your encounters short and to the point. Make her want to see more of you. Keep up the interest and she will find a way to contact you.
phidelt127 Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 First of all, let me congratulate you on your apparent steel box you have for a memory. That's quite an accomplishment to remember what seems to be an entire 10 minute conversation verbatim. Second of all, I would advise you to wait until her current relationship comes to a close before dating her, because one of these days, HE'S going to be the one meeting you outside your office instead of her. Also, if you do end up daing her, be careful. Who says that she won't do the same thing to you at some point? It has been my experience to avoid overtly forward women because of this exact situation. No one can tell you what to do, because like all of us guys, if we're given a chance, we'll do it. All I have to say though is proceed with caution.
orta Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 If your story is accurate, then it seems that this woman may be interested in you. I think you should ask yourself some questions, though: Do you want to get involved with a woman like this? A woman who is in a relationship, yet expresses such profound interest in other men? Do you want to become involved with a woman who leaves one man for you? Don't you think she would repeat this behavior?
Curt Posted July 3, 2005 Moderators Posted July 3, 2005 I think I would only add my caution to you as well. Even though the lady is probably interested, even in a passing way, it is not good form (nor wise) to try and wrestle her from another guy's affections. Believe me, there is nothing but frustration and pointlessness in the equation for you if you try. Hey. like has already been said, even if you could sway her to you, you will never know if she might do the same thing and leave you at some point in the future. Don't take it any further than you have. Curt
Marshbear Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 I got to thinking that you are also the guy who posted about the girl in the bikini store. She also had a b/f. This isn't the same girl is it? You met her outside of your work and there seems to be similarities in this post. It might be better as the other posters have stated above to find someone who does not have a current b/f. It is up to you...
Nomad Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 I say go for it. Her bf isn't your problem, let her make the call. She's into you it sounds like. If her bf comes looking for you, so be it. She's a hot chick & that'd be enough for me. Just my opinion, though.
VirginiaBob Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Put yourself out there, but don't push it. If she is interested, she'll bite. Don't pursue.
Sal Paradise Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 I love how people on here encourage you to go after someone in a relationship. Don't do it. It will bite you in the ass eventually. And not only that, what if you were in a relationship with her and some guy was actively trying to get your girl from you? Wouldn't you feel disrespected? Also if she is willing to throw someone away to be with you she is also willing to throw you away to be with someone else. Think about it. Be a real man and walk away.
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