Charmed22 Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 i have been talking to this guy i met on a trip. When we got back from the trip 3 weeks ago he said he was interested but he wants to take things slow cause he hasn't had luck with girls. Since we got back I have seen him only 4 times and one of those times was in a group setting (with my cousin whom he is friends with) we had sex on the trip but we haven't had sex since we got back. He said its he was interested in getting to know me without sex. I haven't seen him a week now but we talk through text everyday. Some days his text are dry and not very responsive while other days he is more talkative. Some days he initiates the texts other days I do but he does have the tendency to stop responsiding mid convo. I have also attempted to invite him out multiple times and he would say no. He has said he likes to do his own thing while dating which is new to me since the last two guys I dated we saw and talked to eachother more. It's been a week since I have seen him and almost 2 weeks since we have been alone the entire time on a date. I'm waiting on him to initiate a date with me but I'm getting the feeling he isn't interested and there should be more with this after 3 weeks. Is this something I should talk to him about?
Shanex Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 Shot answer: he lost interest. Because you have to initiate convos and he barely respond or just stop writing when you text. Doesn't look good. He probably moved on. I won't speculate as to whether he found someone else or not. But you should ask him bluntly if he wants a relationship with you or not.
Author Charmed22 Posted August 15, 2016 Author Posted August 15, 2016 I did talk to him and ask him where he stands with multi dating. I wanted to get some sort of idea where I stand with him and what does he mean and expect by taking things slow so we are on the same page. He said he isn't dating anyone else and has turned down other woman for me. He said he wanted to take things slow cause every relationship he jumps into ends as quick as it begins cause there was never a foundation of friendship before the relationship began. We agreed that we are exclusive and will not date others and if we want to pursue other options we would let the other know. All this saying, he is still hot and cold with the text and Its been a week since I seen him and he hasn't made much of an effort to see me. I can't help but feel like he isn't interested but if thats the case why agree to be exclusive with me and keep me around when we aren't even having sex? Isn't that a little excessive if he isn't interested? Most guys would have ghosted or faded by now.
Redhead14 Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 i have been talking to this guy i met on a trip. When we got back from the trip 3 weeks ago he said he was interested but he wants to take things slow cause he hasn't had luck with girls. Since we got back I have seen him only 4 times and one of those times was in a group setting (with my cousin whom he is friends with) we had sex on the trip but we haven't had sex since we got back. He said its he was interested in getting to know me without sex. I haven't seen him a week now but we talk through text everyday. Some days his text are dry and not very responsive while other days he is more talkative. Some days he initiates the texts other days I do but he does have the tendency to stop responsiding mid convo. I have also attempted to invite him out multiple times and he would say no. He has said he likes to do his own thing while dating which is new to me since the last two guys I dated we saw and talked to eachother more. It's been a week since I have seen him and almost 2 weeks since we have been alone the entire time on a date. I'm waiting on him to initiate a date with me but I'm getting the feeling he isn't interested and there should be more with this after 3 weeks. Is this something I should talk to him about? He has said he likes to do his own thing while dating -- That means he wants to see you on HIS schedule, at his convenience and do whatever else he wants to do in between or he will see you when there's nothing better to do. He's keeping you on a string . . . You invited him a few times and he declined. He doesn't want a serious dating scenario and he's showing you that by every action.
scooby-philly Posted August 17, 2016 Posted August 17, 2016 There's a variety of reasons why he's acting the way he is: 1. He's not recovered from a past hurt 2. he's just a player 3. He's got other issues going on and he doesn't feel like losing you but can't find a way to balance things out 4. He could be seeing other women 5. He could generally be serious and want to see you w/o sex if he's been involved physically one too many times with people he ended up not compatible with or there was drama. 6...... In the end - it doesn't matter. He's drawn a line in the sand and either you need to talk about it and get the detailed truth from him, get that line shifted to a more balanced approach that's fair to your time , or you need to move on.
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