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Had a 3rd date with this girl Friday night.'

 

She has told me she likes me but wants to get to know each other a bit more before we jump into anything.

 

My last relationship was dreadful. was together 2 years and i found out she ahd cheated on me with 3 different guys. She told me the last few months of the relationship she wasn't interested in me but kept me around for attention and dates

 

Anyway its been over a year and this is the first girl I have fallen for and im being very cautious

 

At our 3rd date i asked a few questions about "us"

 

Im worried it came off as clingy and needy

 

Should i ask her or talk to her about it

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Should i ask her or talk to her about it

 

No need to discuss it.

 

Just concentrate on having a nice time when you're together.

 

 

Take care.

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Need to check yourself if you are falling for someone by 3rd date.

Start talking to other women so you have options and don't seem so desperate.

 

usually the "us" talk doesn't happen until you've slept with a woman and it's usually the woman who brings it up.

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what did you ask her?

 

 

"what are your expectations"

 

"did you miss me"

 

she asked if ive been seeing anyone and i said no which is true then i asked if she had been

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I think your first question is legitimate --- there's nothing wrong with getting an idea of someone's expectations after a few dates.

 

The question about "Do you miss me?" --- you should never have to ask that, IMO.

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"what are your expectations"

 

"did you miss me"

 

she asked if ive been seeing anyone and i said no which is true then i asked if she had been

 

Doesn't sound too bad. When you asked if she missed you, were you trying to flirt or were you legit wanting to know if she had?

 

Reagardless, I don't think what you asked is so bad that you'd need to address it with her. Just move forward.

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Doesn't sound too bad. When you asked if she missed you, were you trying to flirt or were you legit wanting to know if she had?

 

Reagardless, I don't think what you asked is so bad that you'd need to address it with her. Just move forward.

 

 

was flirting to be honest

 

anyway i asked

 

i said"hey did it seem like i asked too many questions about "us" last night? You seemed a bit put off"

 

she said "No.Not at all"

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Had a 3rd date with this girl Friday night.'

 

She has told me she likes me but wants to get to know each other a bit more before we jump into anything.

 

My last relationship was dreadful. was together 2 years and i found out she ahd cheated on me with 3 different guys. She told me the last few months of the relationship she wasn't interested in me but kept me around for attention and dates

 

Anyway its been over a year and this is the first girl I have fallen for and im being very cautious

 

At our 3rd date i asked a few questions about "us"

 

Im worried it came off as clingy and needy

 

Should i ask her or talk to her about it

 

Date #3 = WAY too soon for these questions. A confident female will likely run for the hills if this comes up this early (at least, I would...)

 

...Unless of course she's equally as head over heels googly-eyed over you. For most people though it's hard to be able to say this after only 3 dates.

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