Girlfriend BEATEN & SPAT :/

[AdamantyumKrystal]

Long time no see,folks!

 

I have a friend which has been with this girl for like 7-8 months more or less, the PROBLEM is that he dumped her by kicking her and spitting her in the face in front of her bestfriend and perhaps some people which saw that too..

 

The girl is 15 years old and she grew up without a dad coz he left her and her mom when she was 1 month, so imagine how "easy" was for this girl to grow up and be with a single mom without a man in her life to show her how one must behave, long story short she doesn't really know much about life or men so for now i think she hates men even more than in the past coz of what my friend did to her..

 

HIS REASON?!.. uhm this is the fun part , the biggest problem is that he DOESN't HAVE a valid reason except that : she told him that there was a festival in some nearby town and she won't go so they will spend the time togheder, a few days later she told him she will go in that town coz her friend convinced her to go there (her friend is a girl also), they talked on the phone and he told her not to go ,but she said that she will go either way,if she lets her or not,obviously he doesn't know how indecisive women are in general especially young girls, so he asked her where she is , she told him and he went there and in front of her friend & other ppl, he kicked her and spit her in the face .

 

As a supporting friend he sees me, he came to me and confessed his "attempt to be a man" to me with a grin on his face,him expecting me to CONGRATULATE HIM for beating her?!? (GOOD JOB bro, great move in hitting the girl you love for an incredibly stupid idiotic reason like that) , Needless to say, my reaction was the opposite of his expectance and i told him instantly to go ask for forgiveness and tell her he is sorry, needless again...

 

He said that he told her : she is the one that must ask for forgiveness in front of him and he may consider forgiving her only if she lets him spank her 20 times in the face ?! daheck?!?!? i told him to immediately go and repent for what he did, ofc he didn't wanted to .

 

This stage of his "un-repentnance" lasted for like 2 weeks, time in which he thought she will came back to him crawling and begging to be with him, needless to say ,IT WASN'T the case, coz the girl proved some signs of intelligence above her age and didn't gave him the honour of hitting her again.

 

 

After that time of loneliness,regret in tears and perhaps fear, he came to me and asked me to pray for him l to GOD, so he can bring her back to him, ofc he tried apologising and all sort of stuff after his manipulative tehniques proved to be utter **** , but she didn't cracked.

 

 

I do believe in God and i know more than average ppl on spirituality matters but this got me annoyed,i am convinced that demons can posses a person and influence us to do evil things, but we are the ONES to blame if we choose to listen to them and do HARM, my not so smart friend considered that she would understand him after he told her i quote " PLEASE UNDERSTAND ME ,MY DEAR, I WAS CONTROLLED BY DEMONS WHEN I HIT YOU AND I COULDN'T RESIST THE POSSESION" ,

 

For real... this is what he said to her :/ shifting blame on the supernatural, great, pretty freaking easy thing to do when u don't wanna admit you're guilty over your freaking head, -_-

 

After numerous prayers in which he asked GOD to return her to him coz he himself failed to do that, guess what? GOD did not listen to him, he promised GOD he would quit smoking,swearing etc other bad vices he has if GOD brings her back, of course after GOD "failed" to fullfill his demands , he started smoking again and to bad choices. He even told her once that he will return to his old ways of life (ploughing whores,drinking ,partying ) , IIIF she doesn;t return to him .

 

There was still a moment of closeness on her side once and she hugged him for a time and cried on his shoulder telling him that she misses him but cannout ever be with him again after what he has done to her, he tried to calm her down and tell her everything will be fine but she backed away from him with teary eyes, in fear, confessing him that she cannot trust him anymore coz she thinks he will HIT her again ...

 

Of course after hearing the "demon-possesed " sermon of his , she told everyone that he has gone bat-pee nuts and everyone told her not to give him another CHANCE ever again , girl seems to be good and more mature than him emotionally so she listens to her mom and other ppl and won't ever agree to meet him again or avoid him on the street coz she hates him and is afraid also.

 

HE GOT MAD at her for calling him crazy, aaand what did he thought? it would be better if he would take revenge at her by convincing one of his underlings to text her and laugh at her about her sexual experiences with him (he took her virginity, even if many many times i told him NOT to have premarital sex coz it would ruin their relation ship but oh well.. the monster didn't listen) , thru his friend he kept harassing her sexually on SmS texts,

 

Well.. after i was mad enough when he told me he kicked and dumped her but now after the poor girl gave him even her most precious gift to his sorry-ass craving cock, he starts BLAMING her and making fun of her intimate parts in front of everyone? of their most intimate times? i think even her mom found out they had sex by now and i cannot even comprehend how low&sad&betrayed the poor gurl feels right now.

 

I am a calm person by nature but when i see him acting like a total jerk with a girl who loved him so much and he cared so little for her and now do this to her... i dunno man but it angers me and when i'm angry i turn into a total opposite of my so nice side and if he doesn't repent faster for his sins against GOD and her i will feel obliged to intervene and man i don't wanna hurt him coz we're friends since 1-4 but man.. when i see stuff like this, it's very hard not to be resentful especially when he ignores all of my advices and attempts to turn him into a better person and accept his fault in all of this , i grew up hating those men that hit defenseless innocent girls and God forgive me but i'm so sorry for this young girl and it really breaks my heart to see him treating her like this.. (coz i pretty much remember how my ex treated me and it rended my heart in pieces at that time, so i can pretty much emphasise with this gurl)

 

 

THeir relationship was on and off as they had many fights and he couldn't stop his damn sex drive and kept pushing her, at least he addmited his controlling&manipulative behaviour but this is not ENOUGH IF HE KEEPS FREAKING DOING IT. am i right?!?!

Edited August 14, 2016 by AdamantyumKrystal

[AdamantyumKrystal]

He may hate me for this but.. after what he did to her i cannot see any possibily for this girl to forgive and be with him again, and i totally agree with her.what do u say,is there any chance she will take him back ?

Edited August 14, 2016 by AdamantyumKrystal

[LD1990]

Wow, demons and underlings, that was quite the story.

 

You seem to know quite a bit about the details of your "friend's" interactions with his ex, and seriously, you're wondering if this girl will take her abusive ex back?

 

Not if she has any sense. A guy that acts that way needs some sense beaten into him.

[ExpatInItaly]

If this poor girl has any sense, she will stay the hell away from this "friend" of yours. Forever.

 

He is an abusive and very dangerous individual.

 

Why are you friends with such a horrible person?

[spiderowl]

We grow up with friends and think they will be there forever but sometimes they take a different path and become people we can't call friends any more. Sounds like your 'friend' is not worthy of the name. You have a much better sense of right and wrong than he does.

[Zapbasket]

How old are you? How old is this underwear skid mark of a friend of yours? Because if she's 15, and he slept with her, and he is 18 or older, that's statutory rape, and...I think jail is the most appropriate place for a jerk like this.

 

I'd distance yourself from someone who treats another human being this way. Sure, we all have shady friends, but sometimes what people do is so awful and so inexcusable that we can't entertain it as a "quirk" anymore.

[Captivating]

Your "friend" is an *******. Poor girl.

You should have a long talk with him about proper, improper behavior and CONSCIENCE that he is not familiar with....he might have been abused growing up, but regardless his behavior is unacceptable and was uncalled for.

He has serious self-esteem problems......beating her then trying to ruin her reputation,

then making fun of her ??

 

Who does that ?? What he did was evil and cowardly.

He needs to seek professional help before he hurts others, possibly ending up in jail.

Also, he should own up and take responsibility for all of this.

 

NO, I hope this girl will never see him again !

She deserves way better than this coward prick.

I hope she reports him to the police.

 

You need to get away from your "friend" as well....in case your story is true

and you are not the one who actually beat her.

Karma is a b....

[Chi townD]

He may hate me for this but.. after what he did to her i cannot see any possibily for this girl to forgive and be with him again, and i totally agree with her.what do u say,is there any chance she will take him back ?

 

If she's smart she won't. No one deserves to be hit in anger in a relationship. Man or woman. People have deal breakers in relationships. Everyone has them. For me it's cheating and hitting. A girl expects me not to hit her in a relationship. Well, I expect the same thing from her. Far too may times we see guys get hit by there girls and society thinks nothing of it. It's normalized because they believe that a girl isn't strong enough to do any real damage. Sorry, I don't see it that way. Hit me once and I'm out the door. No turning back for me.

[dreamingoftigers]

So not only is this guy totally terrible boyfriend material, it sounds like he's also assaulting and harassing her.

 

I hope she not only doesn't take him back, but reports him as well.

 

As for your involvement, I honestly think the best way violent and chauvinistic behaviour is combatted is when MEN speak to other MEN about it and say "hey. This is so frigging wrong that you knock this crap off, respect your girl (or your ex) or don't bother talking to me at all. Because what your are doing right now is showing me you have no respect and I don't associate with anyone like that."

 

Or you could just punch him when he acts like that.

I'm not actually recommending it, but it seems guys like to sort stuff more physically sometimes. IDK, I don't understand it.

[lonewalker]

just get away from this "friend" of yours. distance yourself from him. by the way he will be arrested for underage sex.

[AdamantyumKrystal]

How old are you? How old is this underwear skid mark of a friend of yours? Because if she's 15, and he slept with her, and he is 18 or older, that's statutory rape, and...I think jail is the most appropriate place for a jerk like this.

 

I'd distance yourself from someone who treats another human being this way. Sure, we all have shady friends, but sometimes what people do is so awful and so inexcusable that we can't entertain it as a "quirk" anymore.

 

He is 22 and has been with her for 8 months total

[AdamantyumKrystal]

If this poor girl has any sense, she will stay the hell away from this "friend" of yours. Forever.

 

He is an abusive and very dangerous individual.

 

Why are you friends with such a horrible person?

 

I may be right i may be wrong but i am definetely not going to give up on him since i still see good parts deep inside of him and as i have changed in the course of the last 2 years and i dropped many of my bad vices i too believe i can help him do the same and become better than what he is now, coz if i give up on him and he goes down on the pathway to hell again.... well i don't even want to think about dat.

[AdamantyumKrystal]

Wow, demons and underlings, that was quite the story.

 

You seem to know quite a bit about the details of your "friend's" interactions with his ex, and seriously, you're wondering if this girl will take her abusive ex back?

 

Not if she has any sense. A guy that acts that way needs some sense beaten into him.

 

 

I DO KNOW a lot Let's say i'm his personal "psychologist" . this is not bragging but after i started learning and studying psychology 2 years ago, i kinda "evolved" as a person and matured a lot ( still maturing ) and now i'm like this "guru" for my group and people frequently ask me all kind of questions about life death etc and if i can give my advice to them and especially when they're in need for an emotional friend since i have developed my emotional empathy pretty well ^^ it just feels good being helpful and actually seeing people getting better after following your advices, it's awesome being useful to GoD and people also !

 

now about those details, u see, he is kinda alone at this compartiment of "feelings sharing" while all of his friends do not give a particular" suck" about him i am there for him almost everytime he needs something from me even though when he was in a relation with this gurl he kinda "forgot" about me but i knew that once he is broken with her he will come crawling back to me and start visiting me again , i was right, he did come crawling back and he did thanked me for listening to him and being there for him, i emphasized again the speech about "premarital sex will ruin your relation-ship as it did with others and as it did with stupidly me in the past", after 1 month of sobbing and sadness he finally admited that i was right, just as other friends who used premarital sex before marriage,

 

so yeah i know pretty much about him coz i am "counseling" him

[AdamantyumKrystal]

We grow up with friends and think they will be there forever but sometimes they take a different path and become people we can't call friends any more. Sounds like your 'friend' is not worthy of the name. You have a much better sense of right and wrong than he does.

 

 

Thanks you ^^ , truth is.. he fits all the criteria's for a sociopath except the intelligence one, but i really saw true signs of remorse in him, i deeply hope i was not wrong , coz if i was then he is really a monster o.O

 

Even though i'm not sure yet why did he felt all that remorse and asked for forgiveness to her but after he denied him he started resenting her again and i feel like this "duality" of him is very contrasting , one month he forgives the other he is avenger and the next one he is indifferent, huh?

 

Now he's getting me into anger mode again since she has his Video Card which is damaged of course and he wants that video card back since he bought CoD:Ghost and his pc is too low for that stupid game , now she is out of town and hadn't asnwer him in days , he wants to beat her when he sees her for not giving him his *insert gollum here* precious video card , which in my opinion is pretty low-xcuse to hit her again.

[AdamantyumKrystal]

Your "friend" is an *******. Poor girl.

You should have a long talk with him about proper, improper behavior and CONSCIENCE that he is not familiar with....he might have been abused growing up, but regardless his behavior is unacceptable and was uncalled for.

He has serious self-esteem problems......beating her then trying to ruin her reputation,

then making fun of her ??

 

Who does that ?? What he did was evil and cowardly.

He needs to seek professional help before he hurts others, possibly ending up in jail.

Also, he should own up and take responsibility for all of this.

 

NO, I hope this girl will never see him again !

She deserves way better than this coward prick.

I hope she reports him to the police.

 

You need to get away from your "friend" as well....in case your story is true

and you are not the one who actually beat her.

Karma is a b....

 

Unfortunately my story is pretty true... and i'm so sorry he did this to her , i saw her 2-3 times since their break-up and all the sadness&self-loathing i saw in her.. it's heart-breaking trust me, a girl with no father in her life ,(he left her when 1 month) and now this friend of mine crushing her dreams about love and men in general, i see her like i saw myself when my "so" cheated and left me for this another "good friend " of mine , i was in awe,shock,denial.self-hate,depression,anger,overdose weeping till my eyes wouldn't stop sobbing(that lasted for 3 months kek) , all this negative feelings i see them in her too and i'm starting to feel angry about myself for not warning her about him but to be honest he surprised me a little when he hit her and the MOTIVE behind his decision made me imagine grasping a hold of him and ask her to hit him as hard as she can as many times, i actually told her to do that to him,with all of us in 1 room, he looked funny at me and she told me that she doesn't want me to hold him coz she won't hit him , that seemes like she has more emotional maturity than him.

 

What i really hate about him is that fact he won't learn from mistakes

[AdamantyumKrystal]

So not only is this guy totally terrible boyfriend material, it sounds like he's also assaulting and harassing her.

 

I hope she not only doesn't take him back, but reports him as well.

 

As for your involvement, I honestly think the best way violent and chauvinistic behaviour is combatted is when MEN speak to other MEN about it and say "hey. This is so frigging wrong that you knock this crap off, respect your girl (or your ex) or don't bother talking to me at all. Because what your are doing right now is showing me you have no respect and I don't associate with anyone like that."

 

Or you could just punch him when he acts like that.

I'm not actually recommending it, but it seems guys like to sort stuff more physically sometimes. IDK, I don't understand it.

 

From what i heard from her , she says she won't ever take him back and she hates him for what he did,i bet she fels ashamed also,i pray to God he won't lay a hand on her again coz if he will and i am forced to intervene i think he will resent me and consider me a foe from a friend and think that i am togheder with her since he is the most JEALOUS person i ever met in my entire short liven life :| ,

 

there was this argument once when i first met his gf, they were in the backseat i was driving, coz of his stubbornes and failing to admit when he is wrong i started talking to her in english (very smart gurl for her age) since hi's english is kinda non-existent, so after i left them in town , later that night he accused me of trying to steal his girl, he argued with her and left her,he also argued with me and wanted to beat the **** out of me, he actually intended to grab a 2 feet very thick piece of wood and beat me to death but gladly i was able to stop him before he managed to get that stick (i'm bigger and stronger than him so dat would be it 5,9 > 5,4 ) anyways i was out after a hard labout day of chopping wood and my body was aching like crazy but at one moment he angered me so much i grabbed his chest and lift him in the air looking him dead-in the-eyes and slowly told him "my body is aching like firing brimstone and i am so tired i could fall asleep right now but i u try to him me on more time i will break the rest of your teeth u still have and your arms and legs and feed em to ya " needless to say he lessened immediately and managed to talk to him about it , so yeah dat was pretty much angry me and i;m not proud of it but needless to say i keep the beast under control by now (at least almost all of it) .

 

Now during that masquerade he told me that i'm not his friend and he has other friends instead of me which can support him with cash, emotions and other stuff which in his opinion i do not posses , (dat would mean not being ok with his behaviour and harshly criticize him when he does a mistake in other words , supporting his evil traits) , it hurt a lil bit when he said those but i immediately remembered he lied to me in the past and i told him, where are those friends of yours now? he stuttered. Coz ya know those "friends" of his were in the childhood only coz now they;re behind bars or being surveiled from police from time to time, which again means i was his only true friend at that time and he used my weaknesses and tricks i learnt him from psychology against ME which totally over-angered me and i blocked him for like almost one week on all media and life till he kinda "apologised".

 

So as u see now he is doing the same with her, using her weaknesses to harm the poor gurl..

[AdamantyumKrystal]

If she's smart she won't. No one deserves to be hit in anger in a relationship. Man or woman. People have deal breakers in relationships. Everyone has them. For me it's cheating and hitting. A girl expects me not to hit her in a relationship. Well, I expect the same thing from her. Far too may times we see guys get hit by there girls and society thinks nothing of it. It's normalized because they believe that a girl isn't strong enough to do any real damage. Sorry, I don't see it that way. Hit me once and I'm out the door. No turning back for me.

 

Hello there townie, u see he does not see the world like the rest see it, he is non-empathic most of the time and non-conformist, he hates society like i do and we are alike in many many aspects.

 

But what he does and i don't is that he is using people's weaknesses against them like he wants to do to the girl he supposedly said "I LOVE YOU" .

 

I quote him " I know her weaknesses and i will use them to bring her down, to make her suffer and finally kill herself after i will turn everyone against her"

 

I was just " wow, could be please more stupid than that? THIS is the girl u took her virginity away she loved u like lil kids love sweets and you hate her like Lucifer hates God aka WITH NO REAL REASON!!! "

 

Oh and let's not forget his sadistic evil grin on his face while he crumbled to say all of those negative things about her so supposed "love of his life" .

 

Many of u asked me why am i still friend with him. well let's make it clear i am 80% as he is, only that i'm kinda demonic when i want to while he's just evil and not so smart, on the other hand i'm stronger , smarter and know how to handle things differently when i want to manipulate someone and plus my native sign is Scorpio so yeah i can be pretty devilish at times, but that doesn;t happen anymore since i have turned to God and started reading the bible and study it and actually APPLY what is written there, in the best sense God has changed my life and has changed me as a person and i am eternally gratefull for that.

 

My mother is a pure bi-polar like the queen of dem all, she has more sociopathic traits than i saw in anyone in my life while my father it's a walking empathy-barrel so u can imagine what my poor dad went thru all his life , she succumbed under his skin and feeded like a blood-fueled vampire on his poor empathy spring, just like a predator on his prey except she did itfor more than 30 years :/

 

Now that i have grew up and noticed all of these especially after learning psychology and i feel like dexter who has his "dark passenger " allong only it;s just i only used him when i was in complete anger coz back in those days Revenge was my favorite activity ^_^ , I have my father's empathy and i feel very bad after i do something wrong or hurt someone but i also has my mom's deceitfullness which at times i made an overdose of , but not anymore since God has changed me, of course the evil-nature is still somewehere inside and tries to crawl out at times but with prayer fasting and sometimes avoiding this unclean society for ammounts of time, nowdays when someone angers me and i nottice the pattern in which i hurt that person especially emotionally & psychologically usually i leave immediately so i won't go berserk, my entire life i was playing with people's emotions and feelings and i was not even knowing it,

 

My father only noticed this feature in my like my mother's and he accused me of enjoying to hurt others , ofc i was disagreeing with him until i started reading psychology (and noticed i was truly evil) and inviting God in my life to help me keep myself under control, I have apologised to him and to people i hurted in the past and i am trying to do my best not to be that person anymore , i identified alot with Dr. James Fallon and almost finished his book and i agree that one person can move beyond this "mind-dissease" which plagues some of us like stricken evil.

 

Another fact why i disagree with modern psychology is coz they say sociopaths and psycho's have no emotional empathy but since i have emotional empathy like so much i am teaching others how to use it i also have the cognitive one and i can put myself in other peoples shoes very easily and understand when they're feelings are hurt coz i function the same.

 

I thank God everyday for being able to change me and i no longer resent people or keep vengeance as my primary goal , i am changed ,now i do not like the hobby of hurting people and enjoy it anymore and since i embraced Love and JEsus i am happy and peaceful , i am reconciled with myself and people and God , AND I AM 100 % positive i can do the same with my friend and many others, If God had the power to change my evil nature and he teached me how to control my urges and be not so impulsive than i am out of hand sure that THE SAME can be done with other human beings afflicted with this ... *disorder* .

 

That's all folks hope i didn't bore you too much ^_^

Edited August 21, 2016 by AdamantyumKrystal

[AdamantyumKrystal]

And sorry for my poorly written paragraphs and english but i am in a hurry going to church and guess what?! I'M LATE! -_-(stupid darn internet stealing my time again)

[basil67]

My sister's ex husband was abusive. The best day was when she turned his back on him. The second best day was when she turned her back on the guy who'd been his emotional support.

Edited August 21, 2016 by basil67

[preraph]

The next time you hear about him putting hands on someone, you report that little bully to the police! Don't stand by. Report it as soon as it happens. He's a bully abuser. Do it even when she disagrees, which she will. Be sure her Dad or brothers know this has gone on in case they want to handle him the old-fashioned way, and I hope they do!

[Captivating]

From what i heard from her , she says she won't ever take him back and she hates him for what he did,i bet she fels ashamed also,i pray to God he won't lay a hand on her again coz if he will and i am forced to intervene i think he will resent me and consider me a foe from a friend and think that i am togheder with her since he is the most JEALOUS person i ever met in my entire short liven life :| ,

..

 

If I were you I would LOSE this "friend" of yours, since it's a reflection on you whom you associate with. You will get into trouble because of him one day.

WHO CARES WHAT HE THINKS ??? Why do you still care about him ?

 

If you see the girl talk to her, tell her to stay far away from abusive people like him forever. Tell her that most people are not like that guy was, his behavior was unacceptable and outrageous.