MrItpro Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 My ex girlfriend (f26) broke up with me (m30) 3 months ago we were together for 5 years and have a 3 year old daughter. She cheated on me with her ex a year after we had her i shouldn't of but i cheated on her back for revenge. i was going to break it off but she begged for me to stay i did for our family and i told that i had cheated to so there were no lies. For the next year and a half things were going well she was doing everything for me and i completely trusted her again. So two months before we breakup she started being distant again she said she was stressed about work and the sex pretty much stopped she said she was upset that she couldn't give me what i wanted. I accused her of talking with her ex again but she denied it. Then one day we got into an argument and i told her just to break up with me then so she did. i begged for about a day then just acted cool about it. I then found out she was talking with her ex and confronted her she said yes i have feelings for him. He started ignoring her i guess a week after we breakup and she tries to comeback to me shes already moved out by this point. I kinda give in and we would hang out a couple times a week staying at each others places we didn't talk about getting back together just hanging out. She goes out one night and i find out the next morning she talked to another guy her friend set her up with this is about a month after our breakup. i find out she had sex with him a week after they met. I guess he pretty much fell in love with her after being the nice guy treating her like a queen. She did at one point tell him to stop and he was moving to fast. This guy is total opposite of me. I usually don't talk bad about people but he is 30 years old has a crappy job and lives at home and smokes which she hates. Hes also a sex offender i guess he sent nude pics to a 16 year old but she said she was 19 her parents found out. I have my own house nice car good job and doing really well. We have argued about him seeing my daughter and that i just don't feel comfortable with it from what hes done and how he is. But she says he wont see her unless things get serious i know i cant change her mind so no reason to argue but i said i wanted to meet him first. I know i don't want her back after all shes done but for some reason i cant seem to shake it i think i just want her to want me. As of now she has been talking to him for about 2 months. Up until about a week ago she would flirt with me still when she would drop our daughter off and sometimes it would lead to sex but then she would end up going to stay with him the nights i had our daughter. I should have seen the signs and cut her off but its so hard seeing her everyday. Whenever shes here i act like i'm happy and i'm over it but deep down its killing me. Up until about a week ago she doesn't flirt with me anymore or really text me something tells me there actually dating now but she says there not. We have always been on good terms for our daughter i don't act needy or pushy when she is here. I don't know what to do it hurts seeing her everyday even though i know i don't want her back atleast i think i don't. Do you think she is in a rebound ? I deep down honestly don't see them working out cause there so different especially him meeting her family. She hasn't even posted pictures of them or anything on social media. I have met one girl and we have had sex a couple times but in the end i regret it and want my ex even more.
Captivating Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 Your ego got hurt this is why you want her to want you. However, you don't really want her back, right? Well, you guys have a daughter so be friendly and supportive towards each other as parents for your daughter, it's everyone's best interest. Most people want the one they can't have. So if you DO WANT HER, try giving her the cold shoulder Don't engage in her flirt....be friendly but a little stern and distant. NO SEX please;), no touching, no hugging. All business regarding your daughter....your ex will be confused and curious. She will ask whether you started to date or not. "Yes, I have been on some dates".....nothing more. Be mysterious. Have a nice short haircut , always be well groomed, every inch of your body/ clothes sparkling clean (women love that ) when she sees you..... I know this all sounds silly. Sometimes boredom kills a relationship, people tend to take the other granted, so if she sees you in whole different light, that you are not weak, you are not begging her, you are not caving by having sex with her (whenever she wants), you are having self-respect and even willing to move on with someone new....she might panic. Let us know how things are, take care! 1
Chi townD Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 Dude, Sorry to say, but it's done. You need to start focusing on you and being the best father you can be. You need to start doing a modified No Contact (NC) with her. Let phonecalls go to voicemail. Listen to them and if they have to deal with your daughter then text back (do not call). If it's anything else? Ignore it. You are co-parenting with her and that's it. If this guy bothers you so much then see a lawyer. Have a lawyer submit a restraining order on this guy stating that he can't be around your kid. A judge doesn't give a damn about you or your Ex, what a judge will care about is safety and well being of a child. If this guy is a registered sex offender towards a minor, any judge would sign that RO off.
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