Devoted Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 (edited) Me and my ex started dating when we were 14, and we became high school sweethearts. It was the kind of love that time stopped for, and people strove to find love like ours by our example. We broke up after 4.5 years of everything. And I was the one who broke up with him. I knew it was a mistake as soon as I saw his face. About a week after he went nuts. He was so broken. He started sleeping with anything that walked, but it was more crazed. It was like he was doing it to get me out of his mind. It's been some time, and I saw him dating someone else. I kinda went nuts, because I'm still just not over him. I can't go on dates with other people, I constantly compare them to him. I still cry over him. And I want him back. The girl he is with now is unstable. And I know that she will hurt him somehow, because it's all she knows. So my current philosophy is to wait, and to be friends. I love him so much that I'd take him in any way I can, be that friends or lovers. And I'll be there when she breaks his heart. My question is, what do I do? I know this isn't "healthy", but I can't just give up on something like what we had. Edited August 14, 2016 by Devoted 1
LD1990 Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 My question is, what do I do? I know this isn't "healthy", but I can't just give up on something like what we had. But you already did give up on what you had when you broke up with him. You should go NC and move on with your life. Waiting around for him to break up with this girl is a huge waste of time. This guy was your first love, but you two are both young, and there's a big world out there. You're clinging to the past right now but you can't get it back. It's time to cut the cord and stop being his "friend." 2
Author Devoted Posted August 14, 2016 Author Posted August 14, 2016 I did NC. For months. And it hadn't worked at all, nothing has changed for me. And it's pathetic, and awful. Im so lost, and I don't have any answers. 1
Satu Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 I did NC. For months. And it hadn't worked at all, nothing has changed for me. And it's pathetic, and awful. Im so lost, and I don't have any answers. You haven't been doing NC, because if you had, you wouldn't know what he's been doing. How do you know what he's been doing? That *knowing* isn't doing anything good for you. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means he might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete him from all social media. *No monitoring of him on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying. Eventually, you will realise that you have to let go, and you will let go. You're just not there yet. Take care.
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