mortensorchid Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 A new situation has arose. I know, I had just posted a very lamenting thread this past week saying how I will never love again, but, like everything else, things turn around. If you wish to read it : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/590854-i-ll-never-love-again But that aside, this is what happened ... I had met this guy about a year and a half / two years ago. I fell into a clique of people in my city who make movies and have been a part of them (but that's another thread). We were Facebook friends ever since, but never interacted at all. A few weeks ago he posted on some photos he had taken at a comic con with Michael J Fox. I had a friend who traveled to the same comic con in Philadelphia and got to meet him, as he was wearing the same clothes in the photos I realized it was the same event. Then about two weeks ago he sends me an IM because I had posted some photos of me at a Star Wars day in the city. He said he wished he had done that last weekend rather than something else and had he known about it he would have opted for that. I said it was a good time. We got to chatting here and there about things, seems like an okay guy. Here's a question for the masses... So now it's Sunday night (about 1 am). Earlier during the day on Saturday I asked if he had seen the movie Suicide Squad yet. He said no but he wanted to. I said "So want to tonight?" He said he had other plans (an indie film gathering which I went to last year and members of the group we are in also attend). I said as it was quite a drive for me, I was going to not go tonight and go Lyft driving instead to make money. He said "alright, fair enough". Was I too pushy to ask that of him? Also, for the record, he's younger than me. I'm not sure HOW MUCH younger, except when we were talking about Back to the Future earlier, I said that movie makes me feel old now. I was 11 when the first one came out, and now all the movies are in the past. He said he wasn't born yet. I was like "Oh ..." I'm not sure how much older I am than he is, he doesn't have the year of his birth listed on his Facebook page. I had a thing for someone about two years ago, he was quite a bit younger than me. I was rejected, I felt like an old woman trying to cruise young boys along with being embarrassed by the rejection.
Author mortensorchid Posted August 14, 2016 Author Posted August 14, 2016 Update: Another buddy of mine referred me to an app (unrelated to this situation that he knows) who said I could get a free pass to the movies if I sign up on their app that competes with Fandango. I sent an IM to him today asking if he wanted to cash in on it on Tuesday. He said maybe he would have to think about it, he had a plan that day. I said alright if he already had a plan he didn't have to change it because of me. He said he wanted to do this, he had not done comedy night (he also does comedy) in a long time. He said it would start early around 6 pm. That was this morning ... Nothing since. Good sign? He didn't say no.
ChatroomHero Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 Update: Another buddy of mine referred me to an app (unrelated to this situation that he knows) who said I could get a free pass to the movies if I sign up on their app that competes with Fandango. I sent an IM to him today asking if he wanted to cash in on it on Tuesday. He said maybe he would have to think about it, he had a plan that day. I said alright if he already had a plan he didn't have to change it because of me. He said he wanted to do this, he had not done comedy night (he also does comedy) in a long time. He said it would start early around 6 pm. That was this morning ... Nothing since. Good sign? He didn't say no. I tend to think when you ask someone a simple question where a yes or no is to be expected, anything but Yes is a no. I have to think about it sounds like a polite way of saying no, especially if he did not propose getting together another time. If he was interested I think after asking him out twice, if he didn't propose another time it is pretty telling. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 If a guy really likes you and wants to take you out, nothing will stop him from making it happen. Anything less and he's not interested, not ready, whatever. I don't think it really matters what's holding him back. My feeling is: if he's not excited enough to make sure he sees you, why bother? 1
Author mortensorchid Posted August 15, 2016 Author Posted August 15, 2016 If a guy really likes you and wants to take you out, nothing will stop him from making it happen. Anything less and he's not interested, not ready, whatever. I don't think it really matters what's holding him back. My feeling is: if he's not excited enough to make sure he sees you, why bother? Yes, I agree. Moving on. He'll just be a friend. 1
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