Let's rank OLD

[TigerCub]

Hi Everyone,

 

In an attempt to meet someone I tried OLD...again.

I would so much prefer to meet someone in person but since I'd rather not date someone that works where I work, that limits things - and a bunch of different guys I met in real (without OLD) turned out to not really be single!

 

So, I tried Tinder for about a month - and no luck.

I was hesitant to do Tinder because I thought it was a hookup site, but heard of people having success with it in relationships so I tried.

I closed my account today.

 

What is a good site?

I know they all suck for the most part, but could you rank your Top 3 please a give a quick reason why, and that will hopefully help me choose the next one.

 

Thanks

[ff12343]

Clover is good. You can get a premium membership which has good features for free for a week.

 

Just make sure to cancel before it is up.

[TigerCub]

Clover is good. You can get a premium membership which has good features for free for a week.

 

Just make sure to cancel before it is up.

 

Thanks!

I never even heard of Clover before - I'll look it up

Did you find success with it? (at least a few good possibilities)

[Shanex]

1. Match.com :paid sites and many people looking for long term/relationship

2 POF : Free site and seeing as you're a Canadian which is a Canadian site by the way you'll find a lot of people near by.

3 OKcupid: Supposedly more 'serious' than POF but also free. I've had negative experience with OKC, not enough people in my area and got no dates.

[ff12343]

With premium, you can message people first without actually matching. That's I like it. So go "ham" for a week while it's free lol. But otherwise it's OLD. What do you expect?

[TXGuy]

I'm not sure how helpful the list would be since the quality/popularity seems to vary a lot based on location.

 

Also, I recall a similar thread that got closed a few years back for breaking some LS TOS. I forgot which, advertising or something.

[TigerCub]

1. Match.com :paid sites and many people looking for long term/relationship

2 POF : Free site and seeing as you're a Canadian which is a Canadian site by the way you'll find a lot of people near by.

3 OKcupid: Supposedly more 'serious' than POF but also free. I've had negative experience with OKC, not enough people in my area and got no dates.

 

Thanks

I don't think I've tried Match. I did eHarmony and OKcupid, but not this one.

POF - I didn't even know that one was a Canadian site - huh, learn somethin' new every day

[TigerCub]

With premium, you can message people first without actually matching. That's I like it. So go "ham" for a week while it's free lol. But otherwise it's OLD. What do you expect?

 

True words my friend!

I need to meet people in the real world that aren't shady

[TigerCub]

I'm not sure how helpful the list would be since the quality/popularity seems to vary a lot based on location.

 

Also, I recall a similar thread that got closed a few years back for breaking some LS TOS. I forgot which, advertising or something.

 

Oopsie, I had no idea

[joseb]

1. Match.com :paid sites and many people looking for long term/relationship

2 POF : Free site and seeing as you're a Canadian which is a Canadian site by the way you'll find a lot of people near by.

3 OKcupid: Supposedly more 'serious' than POF but also free. I've had negative experience with OKC, not enough people in my area and got no dates.

 

I'm guessing its very location dependant.

I tried Match once and lost interest in a week.

 

I've used OKC and it was beyond useless.

People diss Tinder but I found it 100x better, whatever you were looking for.

[ff12343]

I'm guessing its very location dependant.

I tried Match once and lost interest in a week.

I've used OKC and it was beyond useless.

Absolutely pathetic.

People diss Tinder but I found it 100x better, whatever you were looking for.

 

Not sure how the scene is out by you but try my suggestion.

[Shanex]

I'm guessing its very location dependant.

I tried Match once and lost interest in a week.

 

I've used OKC and it was beyond useless.

People diss Tinder but I found it 100x better, whatever you were looking for.

 

Yep. It's entirely location dependant. There were basically 3 women within 20 miles of me and none I found attractive. But I live rural (speaking of OKC)

 

POF has a huge membership, a enormous number of scammers and fakes, but if you are cautious about these profiles and have experience with online dating you can find both a Good match and a LTR. Not everybody on POF want a quick hookup.

 

About Match.com, the only downside is its a paid sites, but therefore has more serious profiles and people and no scammers and fakes.

 

I can't use tinder because I deleted my FB account three years ago (life has never been so good since)

 

Just my 2 cents.

[TigerCub]

Yep. It's entirely location dependant. There were basically 3 women within 20 miles of me and none I found attractive. But I live rural (speaking of OKC)

 

POF has a huge membership, a enormous number of scammers and fakes, but if you are cautious about these profiles and have experience with online dating you can find both a Good match and a LTR. Not everybody on POF want a quick hookup.

 

About Match.com, the only downside is its a paid sites, but therefore has more serious profiles and people and no scammers and fakes.

 

I can't use tinder because I deleted my FB account three years ago (life has never been so good since)

 

Just my 2 cents.

 

It's true that it's location dependent and so my odds are gonna suck no matter what

 

I always thought that the paid sites are more for people looking for a serious relationship (proven by the $ investment) - I just didn't have much luck at the time. We'll see this time. I guess it's between Match and Clover now.

 

Oh and the FB thing - I get ya, I never had facebook and had to create a profile to do Tinder

 

Thanks!

[ff12343]

I can't use tinder because I deleted my FB account three years ago (life has never been so good since)

 

Just my 2 cents.

 

 

So make a blank FB profile for apps that use FB to register. You upload the pics manually anyway. Life is easy once again.

[ff12343]

It's true that it's location dependent and so my odds are gonna suck no matter what

 

Are you by Toronto?

[TigerCub]

Are you by Toronto?

 

No, Ottawa.

I hear the dating pool is MUCH better in Toronto, but I don't want to date someone 4 hrs away.

Who knows, I might end up having to do just that...

Oh botha!

 

haha

[Shanex]

So make a blank FB profile for apps that use FB to register. You upload the pics manually anyway. Life is easy once again.

 

Thanks for the tip!

[Larryville]

As it has as it has been stated multiple times here, the site that you use for online dating is absolutely irrelevant.

The type of online site, the cost of the site where the site is does not matter. An online dating site is a tool, first how you use that tool and whether or not you are someone worth obtaining is the issue.

 

Are you someone reasonably photogenic? Are you someone who can string a couple of meaningful paragraphs together? Are you open and honest?

Do you have the ability to communicate? Are you burden by something or someone in your past?

Do you actually want to be with anyone? If you do find someone willing to even introduce themselves to you are you even capable of being in a adult mature relationship?

 

Are you reasonably intelligent? Do you have do you have a bunch of mental or emotional baggage?

 

My point being all of this mental torture about which site you should use is frankly silly. Before you start torturing yourself about which site you should sell yourself on take a good long look in the mirror. Before blaming the site you are using, or deciding which site to use do some self-analysis first.

[Philosopher]

I have tried quite a few dating sites over the years, like you I had no luck with Tinder. I would get quite a few matches, however I was never able to convert those matches to dates.

 

My top three are:

1) OkCupid. Overall I would say this is the best of the dating sites I have tried. Large user base, at least where I live, reasonably easy to set up dates and those dates overall go fairly well. The only downside is that there are quite a few women using it whom seem to have no intention of meeting up.

 

2) Match. I found getting dates was fairly easy on Match, but most of those dates do not end up going anywhere. I get the impression both sexes want to get their money's worth, making it is easy to get dates but meaning many on Match resort to multi dating, hence more competition. I have also found there are quite a few scammers on the site.

 

3) Eharmony. I got a few dates from Eharmony however I found it was easier to get dates from OkCupid and Match. The dates were better than on Match, but not any better than OkCupid, despite the matching system. The guided communication process I found very cumbersome, often it could take a month from starting communication to meeting up. Finally it is very hard to tell on Eharmony whether that person you messaging has subscribed or not.

[LookAtThisPOst]

Hi Everyone,

 

In an attempt to meet someone I tried OLD...again.

I would so much prefer to meet someone in person but since I'd rather not date someone that works where I work, that limits things - and a bunch of different guys I met in real (without OLD) turned out to not really be single!

 

So, I tried Tinder for about a month - and no luck.

I was hesitant to do Tinder because I thought it was a hookup site, but heard of people having success with it in relationships so I tried.

I closed my account today.

 

What is a good site?

I know they all suck for the most part, but could you rank your Top 3 please a give a quick reason why, and that will hopefully help me choose the next one.

 

Thanks

 

I'm not sure why you think co-workers are your only option when you could get out there to public events, i.e. Meetup...and meet them face-to-face.

[Jejangles]

I suggest signing up to a few at a time (as many as you have energy for) and seeing what works for you.

 

I'm also in Canada, and I probably tried them all at one time or another: Okcupid, Tinder, POF, Match, Eharmony, Hinge, Coffee meets bagel... I would recommend in order:

 

1) Okcupid - nice interface, easy to use, has a full profile but also an easy quickmatch option and has a good number of Canadians on it

 

2) Tinder - easy to set up, fun / easy to use - I met my boyfriend on Tinder. We were actually both on Okcupid as well but I don't know if we would have matched through there. Sometimes knowing less information is good, it's easy to dismiss someone when there is a lot of information. My boyfriend is wonderful and commitment minded. Tinder is not all about hookups, especially if you are a little older (we are in our 30s).

 

3) POF - has a lot of Canadians, but is kind of an ugly website and there's a fair number of annoying people on there

 

Most guys I dated were on more than one website. I would start with those listed and see how they work out for you.

[TigerCub]

As it has as it has been stated multiple times here, the site that you use for online dating is absolutely irrelevant.

The type of online site, the cost of the site where the site is does not matter. An online dating site is a tool, first how you use that tool and whether or not you are someone worth obtaining is the issue.

 

Are you someone reasonably photogenic? Are you someone who can string a couple of meaningful paragraphs together? Are you open and honest?

Do you have the ability to communicate? Are you burden by something or someone in your past?

Do you actually want to be with anyone? If you do find someone willing to even introduce themselves to you are you even capable of being in a adult mature relationship?

 

Are you reasonably intelligent? Do you have do you have a bunch of mental or emotional baggage?

 

My point being all of this mental torture about which site you should use is frankly silly. Before you start torturing yourself about which site you should sell yourself on take a good long look in the mirror. Before blaming the site you are using, or deciding which site to use do some self-analysis first.

 

Mental Torture? Wow, that's pretty dramatic. I just asked a question. It's not like I'm losing sleep over it.

 

But you do have some good questions at the top of the post. Self evaluation is definitely a good thing.

[TigerCub]

I suggest signing up to a few at a time (as many as you have energy for) and seeing what works for you.

 

I'm also in Canada, and I probably tried them all at one time or another: Okcupid, Tinder, POF, Match, Eharmony, Hinge, Coffee meets bagel... I would recommend in order:

 

1) Okcupid - nice interface, easy to use, has a full profile but also an easy quickmatch option and has a good number of Canadians on it

 

2) Tinder - easy to set up, fun / easy to use - I met my boyfriend on Tinder. We were actually both on Okcupid as well but I don't know if we would have matched through there. Sometimes knowing less information is good, it's easy to dismiss someone when there is a lot of information. My boyfriend is wonderful and commitment minded. Tinder is not all about hookups, especially if you are a little older (we are in our 30s).

 

3) POF - has a lot of Canadians, but is kind of an ugly website and there's a fair number of annoying people on there

 

Most guys I dated were on more than one website. I would start with those listed and see how they work out for you.

 

Thank you so much for breaking it down.

It's true what you said about knowing less increases the chance of dating. The last guy I dated turned out to be short - like my height when I'm not in heels and I didn't know that and when I met him, I realized how that doesn't matter if he's nice and I like him.

 

he was nice and I liked him for 2 dates then it all went to ****, but that's another story

[TigerCub]

I'm not sure why you think co-workers are your only option when you could get out there to public events, i.e. Meetup...and meet them face-to-face.

 

Good point.

I've only done 1 meetup a long time ago, but that is a good idea, I should try for meetups for things I like and hopefully there will be eligible men there.

 

Thanks

[Gr8fuln2020]

Toss between POF and OKC. I have had luck with EH, but less with Match. No luck with Zoosk. It's funny, but there are times when I get nothing on either POF or OKC and feel like shutting it down and then WHAMMO, I get interest...can't figure it out.

 

Either way, I am starting to see more and more porn pics up. Fake profiles or some really frustrated ladies who don't give a darn!