Is he interested or not??

[wickedgirlx]

Earlier this year I got out of a long relationship and the breakup practically destroyed me. I have managed to come out of the other side now though and am beginning to meet new people.

 

There was one guy I met through friends when I was going through the worst of it, he liked me but at the time I couldn't deal with it so my friend told him my situation and he was ok with it as he didn't want to get involved with me when everything was so raw. Fast forward a couple of months when I was beginning to feel myself again and like I was ready to move on, we started messaging on facebook. We were getting along great and the conversation was flirty and funny.

 

We then met on a night out with the mutual friends and he just seemed to be acting weird. I had got a new outfit and made myself up to look really nice but it was like he didn't even notice me! Before we went out (before he arrived as well), we were all sat round my friend's flat talking - everybody was making comments about the 2 of us in a jokey way so it was clear that everyone thought something would happen. Only a small group of us went out.*He didn't say hi or tell me I looked nice, but he did seem to notice little things that I said. When we got to the club, he began acting very strange and I was just getting frustrated that he wouldn't say anything to me after we'd been talking online before! Everybody we were out with could tell and tried to play match-maker. We eventually started talking, and then kissing, but I still felt weird about him because he was still behaving in this strange way. We walked back to the flat together, talking about loads of things, holding hands, arms around each other, and then went to sleep on the floor together (student flats!). We hooked up in the morning and then were talking for ages about everything and it seemed like he really wanted to get to know me - as in not just a one night thing! When I left he kissed me and waved me off.

 

We talked again on facebook for a few days after, and I decided to take control and ask if he wanted to go for a drink, which he completely ignored! He must know its there because how could he have missed it! I felt a little rejected but didn't let it bother me too much as I figured he must just think of me as a one night thing, although he didn't act that way! This was a couple of weeks ago and since then I have kept my facebook active and done fun things for myself, none of which he has "liked" when he used to like everything. I feel like I already know the answer and that he just isn't interested, either in me or in a relationship in general, but it is totally contradictory to his behaviour and I can't stop thinking about him!

 

I could tell from how he acts that he's not had a proper relationship before and he's about to start uni so probably wants to take advantage of being single then. So if I were to date him, I don't think it would happen for a couple of months yet. Is there any point trying to speak to him again? Or should I wait until I see him again (it's our mutual friend's birthday soon)?

 

I am kind of speaking to other people and keeping my options open as well. I'm not just gonna sit around waiting for him, but I don't want to completely pass him off yet.

[flordagirl]

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We talked again on facebook for a few days after, and I decided to take control and ask if he wanted to go for a drink, which he completely ignored! .

 

Sorry babe; He's Just Not That Into You.

[Robert]

The thread starter never returned after posting so we'll close this up.

 

~6