Kasey008 Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 Hi, i have a question, or situation i hope you can help me with. I know this girl who i am in college with, we have been part of the same study group for a half a year now and have talked regularly. We had a paper to hand in, and the night before we both sat up all night to finish it - so we texted a lot that night. She then says that if she passes, then she is gonna buy me a beer - so i thought that was my excuse to ask her out or see her at some time out of college. At the start of the summer break, i asked if she was going out one night, and she said she wasn't. I then said "Good, me neither. Then i don't have to feel bad about us not getting that beer together", she then replied "I am looking forward to that beer by the way". Then i asked her out two days later, for a cup of coffee or something like that, just if she wanted to hang out. I asked if she was free thursday or sunday - She couldn't that week because a situation had happened in her family. I thought it was just a bad excuse, but something had happened. But i still tried to forget about it. I asked her out on a monday. Then the next week, on friday night, she asks me if i am going out tonigt (To our local pubs or clubs), i replied something like this "Sure, if we can get that beer we owe each other" - she replied the day after but talked about something else. My question is this: I can't figure out if she is interested enough, so i can still text her and try to see if she wanna meet up sometime. I think she is a little bit interested, not completely cold. I just don't wanna be the guy that don't know when to back off.. She is a beautiful girl, so i admit, i have a crush on her and shes a girl i would feel bad about knowing i didn't do my all to try and get a date with her. Or at least get a beer with at some time. Thanks in advance - and sorry in advance, this is probably a common question here..
smudge21 Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 Seems like you've asked enough now, and despite her words it does appear that that's all they are, words. Actions are what you need to focus on. Stuff along the lines of saying we should go out or we should get a beer, are very open ended. It's like what you may say to a work colleague or someone you haven't seen in a long time, when you really aren't feeling it. That's not to say she may not be a bit interested, but I reckon you should leave it to her now. Maybe next time you're talking just drop a "well let me know the next time you're free and we'll hang out" or something similar that leaves the ball in her court. At that point you need to decide how interested you are - if you want more than just a friend, then walk away and don't continue to stay in contact. Doing so only suggests that you're happy to be her buddy and not really bothered about anything more.
Author Kasey008 Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 Thanks for the response! I don't know if i can't let it go, without asking her one more time - i feel like it is something that i will regret for a long time.. But i completely agree, the ball should be on her court, i know that... I like your quote by the way.
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