Lilyann Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 My LDR with my SO has been going great. We used to communicate a lot, but things have changed lately. He is working more hours, taking summer night classes (back to back all summer), and on a league. Our talking has not been as often, but we do talk a 2 - 4 times a week. I have asked him if his feelings have chaged, but he has stated time and time again that they have not, that he still loves me and is still interested. My question to you is am I just pushing to hard and need to give him a little time? He has been working more over the past few weeks and not feeling good. I just wonder if it is getting to him. I just feel like a "burden" (which I know I am not and he hates when I say this) because I want to talk to him. Please share your opinions. Thanks for your help!
smile95 Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 Wow-I have been there. I kinda am still there! I also felt like a buden and when I would call and he would not answer I would get mad. I am sure his feelings have not changed. With me, he just got really busy w/ work and some personal stuff too. We have been LD for 3 yrs. I am sure he feels the same. SOmetimes I think guys and girls view things a lot differently when it comes to the amount of time tey spend or talk to their girl ya know? Hang in there. It is tough I know, but if his feelings have changed he would tell you. Now if he were going out and partying, i would be mad, but he is just working so that is a normal thing to happen.
Ms_Sweetness Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 Yeah Lilyann, don't get too worked up about it. I have been there before and usually guys get irritated when their gf constantly questions his feelings for her so don't become a nag, just be there for him as someone that he can talk to in order to escape his hectic days.
MsBlink Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 I totally understand your worries! I think you're having a bit of a shock, what with how real life is, and the things we do away from our SO in order to not wallow in how much we miss ya...it had to be kinda weird for you to not hear from him as often, after it "always" being that way. Change is good, even if it's seriously scary/capable of making you paranoid. Maintain the great communication you raved about when you two DO talk. And don't let that be the only way you stay close...snail mail is still romantic. Or email him just to let him know he's still the awesome guy you fell for...the guy you're going the distance for. Give it some time to adjust to...re-introduce yourself to your hobbies/friends/etc. and appreciate the distance. It'll make the time together even better! Best of luck, ~MsBlink
RecordProducer Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 I am in an LDR and sometimes I get tired of the chats online, because I crave to be with him in person, not in yahoo. I don't think it's bad to diminish the frequency of talking from time to time. He is busy and it's normal for him to talk to you less as it is normal for you to have your worries. Try to not be there when he is available for you and you'll see that he will miss you and look for you!
Author Lilyann Posted July 4, 2005 Author Posted July 4, 2005 After reading all of your responses, I felt better about the situation. I had talked to some of my friends about the situation, but none of them have ever been in a LDR. Thank you very much for the reponses and understanding. I talked to my SO about how I felt. We are going to try to talk a little more often, but just have shorter conversations.
Kat Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 is there a plan fpr the LDR to become a short distance relationship?
Author Lilyann Posted July 4, 2005 Author Posted July 4, 2005 yes, after he finishes at university. A LDR is our only choice till then, since I am already in my career.
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