GTR King Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 What should I be doing here?? Ok so last Thursday when I got back from Thopre Park (Theme park) with some friends... A girl who I went on a date with earlier in the year message me (we didn't work out). She asked me if her friend could have my number I asked for pic and said yes... Her friend 21 is way above what I would normally go for. She is tall blond/brown hair slim & very good looking (her body looks like Margot Robbie). I have been speak to her since then, good convos (Sometimes she don't banter much neither do I no good at it) She told me, she likes my pictures wanna take things slow & get to know me, hopefully as dating... She has never dated before & is very shy etc... What do I need to be doing to make sure I keep Her interested & not screw things up.
JewelD Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 wtf. Why is some girl you already went on a date with trying to hook you up with her friend? Are you sure this girl isn't catfishing you? I just don't see why a good looking woman, or any woman for that matter, would want to date someone her friend had already dated. And to ask that same friend to get your number for her? Very very odd. 1
Author GTR King Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 (edited) I know but we only went on 1 date... We both didn't feel a connection, so decided to be friends This girl I am talking to looks really nice & seen her Facebook.. I like her pictures & we both love the same football team & have season tickets. She is shy & inexperienced at dating... So what do I need to be doing to keep her interested?? I have never had a really good looking girl say she interesting in me and potentially wanna date me... Most of the girl that are interested in me average or worse. I am average looking with light/medium brown hair & I go swimming once a week sometimes more. I don't wanna screw this up. I try to banter with her but I am rubbish at it & I think she is as well. Edited August 13, 2016 by GTR King
basil67 Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 I'm glad you're not phased about having another girl you dated once introduce you. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest either. Now, first things first, banter or dating a girl does not change if she's good looking or not. Thing is, she's just a girl. Now getting to know a girl is like getting to know anyone new. What you've got to do is be able to chat about anything and BS a little. Before you tell me that you can't do it, try this experiment. Think of a topic for each letter from A - Z. You don't have to be an expert - just be able to have an opinion, thought, memory...whatever. This is about finding out just how many discussions you can actually have. Let conversations lead naturally from one topic to another and be brave enough to chat about it. If you know nothing about the topic and she knows a lot, it's fine to say "wow, I don't know anything about that and ask questions". Or "how did you get into that?" I'll start with ideas straight from the top of my head A: America (huge topic: food, travel, politics, movies, etc) B: Beach C: Cats D: Dinner E: Eating out Your turn.
Author GTR King Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 Thanks for your advice I am not fussed about that Stacey is helping me out as s friend & setting me up with Catherine Here are mine F: Football G: Gaming H: Hiking I: Ice Skating We are still talking, getting to know each other She quite busy today so won't hear from her much... I not gonna rush anything as those who wait will get the reward in the end... She seems lovely, and wants the same things as me e.g few dates then relationship (if it's the right man) But I am gonna see how things go
smudge21 Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 "her body looks like Margot Robbie"... my only advice following this is simply, don't screw this up! You're already on good ground with the fact this girl sort of chased you, so just be yourself and although you should never rush things, you should also never take things too slowly. As much as people always want to please their partners, they should also feel confident to please themselves. By that I mean, don't just do what you think she would like, but do also what you like too. No ass kissing or becoming a love sick puppy, despite the Margot similarities. Oh and don't ask her to dress up like Harley Quinn, at least not on the first few dates. 1
Author GTR King Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 She is the one who wanted my number & wanted to talk to me.... I hope I don't screw this up... I would never do anything to upset her or try push her to do things she don't want to do.. I don't want to be too slow but also don't want to rush things as she is quite shy, I wouldn't make her dress up etc She texts quite a lot when she is free, (Usally replies in 30 Mins) but when she is busy she won't for ages (She will tell me when she is busy) so I respect that
JewelD Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 I know but we only went on 1 date... We both didn't feel a connection, so decided to be friends This girl I am talking to looks really nice & seen her Facebook.. I like her pictures & we both love the same football team & have season tickets. She is shy & inexperienced at dating... So what do I need to be doing to keep her interested?? I have never had a really good looking girl say she interesting in me and potentially wanna date me... Most of the girl that are interested in me average or worse. I am average looking with light/medium brown hair & I go swimming once a week sometimes more. I don't wanna screw this up. I try to banter with her but I am rubbish at it & I think she is as well. 1. Super shy hot 21yr old girl who, for whatever reason, has never dated anyone. 2. Despite being shy and never having dated anyone, is experienced enough to ask your friend to hook you up with her and tell you she is prepared for a relationship after a few dates 3. You've never met her. 4. Most girls interested in you are not at this level of hotness. 5. You've never met her. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is. If she's really that hot, why does she need to resort to a man she's never met in person who dated her friend already? Before worrying about losing her, make sure she exists. Like, lay your actual eyeballs upon her physical being. 1
Author GTR King Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 That's very good advice thank you.... Her friend thinks we are a good match... she did say she wanna take things slowly so gonna speak to her for a bit more then arrange a date & see how things go..... but I am sure things will work out but we will see what happens
MissBee Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 (edited) This raises my spidey senses a bit too and seems strange. But in any event, her being good looking has nothing to do with anything really. If she likes you then she likes you. The hard part is over. Dating people is mutual. You're not a pony doing tricks to keep her interest...it should be you both mutually getting to know each other and being interested and building things. If you start to put her on a pedestal and see it as you have to do all this to keep her interest, just because she is pretty, all you will feel is stressed and things won't be equal, as basically what you're showing is you feel you're unworthy of this person simply because they look good. Also, if she is shy and inexperienced then she has nothing much to compare it to so I imagine the bar is not super high in terms of you having to go above and beyond. How old are you all? Have you spoken on the phone? When will you meet in person? If the answer to the latter questions are "no" and "I don't know" or she is so inexperienced she wants to only text for months, I'd second the Catfish suspicion. Edited August 13, 2016 by MissBee 1
Author GTR King Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 (edited) I am 25.... 26 23rd August, she is 21 We will meet soon dunno when yet & haven't spoke on the phone.... She wants to text for a little while e.g week or so maybe longer... Then go on a date I have seen her Facebook & she lives 20 mins from me in a village.. Edited August 13, 2016 by GTR King
longjohn Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 If it's too good to be true it usually is... apart from that one time it isn't too good to be true. You only live once, go for it and tread carefully.It's always a very flattering thing if you had a lady come to you even through a friend or an ex.
Author GTR King Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 I am gonna go for it, chat to her... Get to know her better & see how things go etc. I got nothing to loose
Author GTR King Posted August 14, 2016 Author Posted August 14, 2016 Update: she text me this Look Josh you seem like a really lovely guy, I know we haven't met or anything but I'm just not sure if this is for me, I'm so sorry to let you down like this. I feel really guilty for this. Again from when we've messaged you've been lovely and I can assure you that you've done nothing wrong. I just don't know if I'm ready for this, I'm so, so sorry, I really hope you understand, but I totally get it if not X I replied then she said this It's OK and thank you so much for understanding. I know it doesn't seem like it at times, but you will meet the right person one day whether it's on the Internet or in a bar whatever, it'll happen one day. Again I feel really guilty and ever so sorry for doing this to you, I just wanted to be honest with you rather than go along with it and lie to you. I wish you the best of luck for the future!X o well move on to the next one.... dunno why she wanted my number in the first place tho if she wasn't gonna be interested
JewelD Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 Update: she text me this Look Josh you seem like a really lovely guy, I know we haven't met or anything but I'm just not sure if this is for me, I'm so sorry to let you down like this. I feel really guilty for this. Again from when we've messaged you've been lovely and I can assure you that you've done nothing wrong. I just don't know if I'm ready for this, I'm so, so sorry, I really hope you understand, but I totally get it if not X I replied then she said this It's OK and thank you so much for understanding. I know it doesn't seem like it at times, but you will meet the right person one day whether it's on the Internet or in a bar whatever, it'll happen one day. Again I feel really guilty and ever so sorry for doing this to you, I just wanted to be honest with you rather than go along with it and lie to you. I wish you the best of luck for the future!��X o well move on to the next one.... dunno why she wanted my number in the first place tho if she wasn't gonna be interested Because she's probably not who she says she is. Sounds like your 'friend' was playing a trick on you for whatever reason.
smackie9 Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 It's very possible the reason she has no dating experience is that she suffers from a bad case of social anxiety. Even pretty people have mental issues.
Author GTR King Posted August 14, 2016 Author Posted August 14, 2016 Yeah could be true... but o well it her loss that she not interested
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