Michellinda Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 I have come on here many times this past year about my relationship and I can finally say after yesterday I am done. He smacked me and punched my head and legs and I just let him have it. I was no longer scared I told him I knew everything… him being on a swinger dating website, his constant trolling of escort ads. I have been completely broken by him and I allowed it because I don't feel good about myself. What little self esteem I had he chipped away by constantly and insulting me and telling me he is just teasing me. I allowed this man to disrespect me and hit me. He just texted I am sorry about my behavior last night. THe sickest part is there is this part of me that loves him and wants to go running back. Please give me strength and tell me that I will be happy soon and not feel this incredible aching sadness. I hate having to be single again I hate knowing I am going to have to go out there and search again and for what to get hurt again? What's the point of it all?
Author Michellinda Posted August 12, 2016 Author Posted August 12, 2016 Anyone out there been with someone who hit them?
Redhead14 Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 Anyone out there been with someone who hit them? I am happy to say, I've never been physically abused, but I can say without a doubt that if it happened once, I'd be gone and never look back EVER. I've moved on from men who were verbally abusive one time. Draw a line for yourself right here and now. If he hits you once, you don't stick around to find out if he will do it again. You can't possibly know if he will so it's best to assume he will. Safety first. If you do this for yourself, it will be one of the first building blocks to gaining self-esteem . . .
preraph Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 I'm so sorry, Michellinda, but I'm so proud of you for finally standing up to him and having enough of it! You do have some self-esteem and you put it to good use. Be proud of yourself. Now don't allow yourself any weakness. Block him totally out of your life and move on. I grew up with some fighting and it was miserable. Nothing worse you can do to a child but have one with an abusive partner. They do NOT get better. In fact, they get worse with age. Some of them literally feel they can't control it. Others control it just fine except around women. Either way, you can't stay. Take your stuff and go someplace and don't tell him where. If you have trouble getting out because he goes off, contact police and get a restraining order. If it becomes a real task to get away from him, do contact a women's shelter for advice or a DV hotline online. Again, you did good! Now follow through.
Author Michellinda Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 Thank you both for replying. I am so depressed and my head still hurts. I keep wondering what he is doing and if he feels remorse for his actions. I am completely heartbroken.
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