Blanco Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 The other thread kinda proved that the OP isn't really interested in hearing anything that contrasts with her view on all this, which is to say, she's not interested in hearing anything based in reality. She's a living, breathing example of the archetype bitter men have conjured up: Cold, manipulative, and determined to put her needs above and beyond anyone else's by any means necessary. 3
NopeNah Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 OP... I just read your entire other thread.. Get this: My ex wife did the same thing you did to this guy. She stopped taking birth control to trap me because I was on my way out. I couldn't stand her! She got pregnant, I stayed a year or so, in misery! I took care of my daughter and resented my wife tremendously,but I stayed....That is until my daughter turned 1.5yrs old... I was granted full custody. Moved my daughter across the country, was granted child support,ect... My ex never paid a dime of that child support(somewhere around $45,000US),but I didn't care about the money because it gave me leverage. I never prevented them seeing each other,even paid out of pocket to make it happen on many occasions. My now soon to be 20yr old can't stand her own mother! I have never spoken ill of her in front of my child,but remember vividly the day that I won full custody I told the 'mother',if you can even call her that? She(our daughter) will make her own mind up about what type of person you really are...She has now done that and guess what? She can't stand her. My ex wife has since went on to have 3 other kids now,with 3 other fathers(still trying to trap a man)..ALL the fathers have full custody! If a man wants to leave and will fight for custody,in this day and age it's not really that hard anymore. Don't feel this guy belongs to you because of a kid.
Author Whatdoido225 Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 We have improved recently,he hasn't been as miserable. Still the odd slanging match before our last day out together but that's it. He has been quite content lately playing his X box etc and it hasn't been difficult. He is very hands on,baths,feeds plays with our daughter and is devoted. Yes it does hurt wondering how he truly feels about me,dreading he's next drink. As long as he doesn't bump into her etc it's ok.. It plays on my mind,is he looking at her Facebook etc Il never know for sure. I'm a good mum,I just want us to be a family and we are.
sooshi Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 He's devoted to his daughter. And to his X Box. Where do you see his devotion to you? 1
NopeNah Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 We have improved recently,he hasn't been as miserable. Still the odd slanging match before our last day out together but that's it. He has been quite content lately playing his X box etc and it hasn't been difficult. He is very hands on,baths,feeds plays with our daughter and is devoted. Yes it does hurt wondering how he truly feels about me,dreading he's next drink. As long as he doesn't bump into her etc it's ok.. It plays on my mind,is he looking at her Facebook etc Il never know for sure. I'm a good mum,I just want us to be a family and we are. Are you in therapy?
Blanco Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 Well, put it this way: He doesn't love you and doesn't seem to like you and that's without him even knowing that your accidental pregnancy wasn't an accident at all. You just don't get it. Love isn't about getting what you want regardless of how it's done. He's not there because of you. He's there in spite of you. He's there for his child and your daughter. Him being a good dad has NOTHING to do with how he feels about you as a romantic partner. 1
Author Whatdoido225 Posted August 13, 2016 Author Posted August 13, 2016 It amazes me on here that he gets painted the innocent party when he was cheating on me. He was lying in bed with another woman telling her he loved he whilst I was sat with our daughter. The first 6 months of her life all he did was sit in his bedroom and drink. Pining for her probably ..it's sick and it annoys me how you all think he's innocent.
Blanco Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 He's not innocent, but neither are you. And that's the part you can't seem to process. You wanted him in your life, so you don't see anything wrong with tricking him into impregnating you. It takes two to tango, of course, but clearly he was stupid to take you for your word that you were on the pill. You hear of women doing that and, as a guy, you just hope you never actually cross paths with such a revolting character.
ChickiePops Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 It amazes me on here that he gets painted the innocent party when he was cheating on me. He was lying in bed with another woman telling her he loved he whilst I was sat with our daughter. The first 6 months of her life all he did was sit in his bedroom and drink. Pining for her probably ..it's sick and it annoys me how you all think he's innocent. Can you please point out the posts that say he's innocent? Because I don't recall seeing them. Ever. And yes, he is pining for her. But you are holding him prisoner so he can't be happy.
NopeNah Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 It amazes me on here that he gets painted the innocent party when he was cheating on me. He was lying in bed with another woman telling her he loved he whilst I was sat with our daughter. The first 6 months of her life all he did was sit in his bedroom and drink. Pining for her probably ..it's sick and it annoys me how you all think he's innocent. You tried to trap this guy into staying with you, when he was obviously not into that...AND..you blame us for speaking the truth? Like I said..this EXACT scenario happened to me and the outcome was not what you/she wanted..it never will be, no matter how many guys you try it with.. He's not there for the kids..he's waiting,much like I did, for the perfect time to claim custody of his daughter(hopefully) and be done. So again...are you in therapy? 1
Trinity_84 Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 (edited) I just read the thread. For his sake, I hope he runs fast. And for your sake, I hope you find a therapist that can help. Edited August 15, 2016 by Trinity_84
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