leogirl876 Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 So this guy I met on OLD that I gave my number to last Sunday, texted me on Monday evening asking me if I'd like to get coffee on Friday. I said yes. He said how about 4:30 pm and I said yes, and asked him where. He said he'd let me know. Well that was Monday and I haven't heard anything from him since. Obviously, I'm making other plans because I refuse to wait around for a guy, especially a first meeting from OLD but wondering what everyone else thinks is a reasonable amount of time to let someone know? I said to myself if I didn't hear from him by Thursday evening (the night before) then he's waited too long. And please don't start telling me I could've reached out to him, I think since he asked me, and told me he'd let me know, that it's up to him. My question is, how long of a notice do you need? At least the night before? A couple days? Thank you!
Lois_Griffin Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 Any lame-ass whose too damned lazy to pick up the phone and ask you out isn't worth wasting your time on. Texting you to ask you out on a first date? Seriously? Don't waste your time with lazy cowards who can't be bothered to interact with you on a human level. 1
bighearted Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 Any lame-ass whose too damned lazy to pick up the phone and ask you out isn't worth wasting your time on. Texting you to ask you out on a first date? Seriously? Don't waste your time with lazy cowards who can't be bothered to interact with you on a human level. Sadly, that's the world we live in now and how society has made us. I'm 28. I could meet 20 millenial women in person, get their number for a date, and if I called every one, maybe one might answer their phone. The rest would look at it and go "omg he's actually CALLING me?! weirdo." Seriously, they wouldn't answer. But send a text, bam, immediate answer. Children.
Redhead14 Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 So this guy I met on OLD that I gave my number to last Sunday, texted me on Monday evening asking me if I'd like to get coffee on Friday. I said yes. He said how about 4:30 pm and I said yes, and asked him where. He said he'd let me know. Well that was Monday and I haven't heard anything from him since. Obviously, I'm making other plans because I refuse to wait around for a guy, especially a first meeting from OLD but wondering what everyone else thinks is a reasonable amount of time to let someone know? I said to myself if I didn't hear from him by Thursday evening (the night before) then he's waited too long. And please don't start telling me I could've reached out to him, I think since he asked me, and told me he'd let me know, that it's up to him. My question is, how long of a notice do you need? At least the night before? A couple days? Thank you! Well, if the guy asks to meet you but doesn't have a place in mind, there isn't anything wrong with making a suggestion as a mutual sign of interest. You don't have to leave it hanging. But, since it has been left to him and he hasn't firmed things up by now for sure, you should keep moving. I think most people would want/expect confirmation by the day before at least. Beyond all this, if you truly don't have other plans and are available and were interested enough to start with and he calls you today, what's the big deal if you go an meet him for a drink? If he asks you out again, make sure specifics are in place and observe whether he's a last minute guy or not.
smackie9 Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 If a guy asked me out, my expectations are: He already has a place, date and time firmly planned. Call the day before, and an hour or two before to confirm our date. I want a guy to show me he is willing to make an effort. When I asked guys out I did the same.
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