mortensorchid Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 About a year ago, my last serious bf came back. We dated from fall 2011-spring 2012 (about six months), and one day he said to me "It's over with, you and me". He'd broken it off, I walked away and went home. I did not throw a tantrum or demand or whatever else. I figured he didn't want to take it to another level. About six months later, he got another gf and would remain with her for the next three years. I won't get into the ups and downs of that relationship, let's just say that it was dramatic and crazy and insane, she abused him in ways I never would, took advantage of him and left him for the guy she was cheating on him with. She alienated him from his family and friends (including me) and he and I did not speak for 3 years. A year ago he came back and asked my forgiveness and I gave it to him. I said "Forgive him Father, he knows not what he does". Some say that I am a weak person for it. The anniversary of his father's death is next week. I told him I will never leave him. Life is complicated, the world's full of lonely people. We have to love one another or we will all end up alone in life despite how hippie nonsense that may sound. Am I wrong to think this?
laka23 Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 About a year ago, my last serious bf came back. We dated from fall 2011-spring 2012 (about six months), and one day he said to me "It's over with, you and me". He'd broken it off, I walked away and went home. I did not throw a tantrum or demand or whatever else. I figured he didn't want to take it to another level. About six months later, he got another gf and would remain with her for the next three years. I won't get into the ups and downs of that relationship, let's just say that it was dramatic and crazy and insane, she abused him in ways I never would, took advantage of him and left him for the guy she was cheating on him with. She alienated him from his family and friends (including me) and he and I did not speak for 3 years. A year ago he came back and asked my forgiveness and I gave it to him. I said "Forgive him Father, he knows not what he does". Some say that I am a weak person for it. The anniversary of his father's death is next week. I told him I will never leave him. Life is complicated, the world's full of lonely people. We have to love one another or we will all end up alone in life despite how hippie nonsense that may sound. Am I wrong to think this? First of all, you don't have to think you will end up alone if you don't date him again, you are a valuable woman and you do not have to 'be' with someone to be happy. You do not have to love him if you are not completely sure. I think it is good for you to forgive him, that means you have a wonderful heart. But, one thing is to forgive him because you do not have a grudge in your heart, and other thing is to love him because you think he is your last opportunity. If you really feel something for him, and think you two as a couple can do something great, that is fine. But do not date him because you just feel lonely. Do you really miss him? Do you really you can have plans together? Were you better off without him? Those are some questions you have to ask yourself!
mrs rubble Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 I wouldn't trust anyone who'd previously trampled on my heart, that's just me though. I'm all for forgiveness. Regaining trust is a whole other issue.
Recommended Posts