Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 Hi guys/girls and helpless romantics I feel a little bewildered. Sometimes I attract men at the most inconvenient times. They say you attract the right person when you least expect, but much can be said about attracting the wrong people when you least expect too. So here is my issue. I am only a bit away from finishing three hard and long years from a college degree. Blood, sweat, and tears have gone into this degree. It's easy to feel very unmotivated when you're on the home stretch, but I actually have that sense of " do it!" until the last little bit to go. The first start of the year, was the worst time of my life. Sleep deprivation, sickness, and emotional exhaustion. To start dating now when I am almost there and have a goal in sight, would seem pointless, but it's then that I have men asking for my number. The men that ask me aren't necessarily people I want to date, but they ask me and I think " yeah would be good to get out on a Friday evening and do something different for a change". But because I am mentally exhausted and tired, I don't really enjoy the dates and I don't usually enjoy the guys I am dating. Some of them seem very needy, they understand I have a busy schedule, but some have even said I use "business and tiredness" as an excuse. Perhaps there is some truth to that, but uni is very stressful, and I am almost there, why date men I am not interested in when I can put all my attention into my degree and then start dating once it's over? One guy has said he is so happy to be with me. But then, I am not sure if I am with him, in fact I'm rather certain we aren't together but he has attached himself rather quickly after a few dates. What should I do? hold off dating until my degree is over and resume it once it's finished or be open, I guess I'll never know when true love knocks on my door and i want to be open to the opportunity instead of letting it pass me by. Advice? and who themselves has dated and gotten to know guys during something time consuming like a college degree. I'd like to also point out that I am not in my early 20's anymore, I'm a returning student and I guess at my age, I don't want to just "date" any joe blogs. sorry guys lol- this seems heavy!
aries85 Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 I think even if you go on a date with the right guy, if you're not in a good place where you're ready for a relationship, it wouldn't work out either. And it doesn't sound like you are. I would still be open to going on dates and maybe one of those guys will make you comfortable enough to have fun on the dates. But don't force yourself to commit to any of those guys and only seriously date when you're ready.
Els Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 Are you working full-time while doing your college degree? I dunno... most people I know actually had MORE free time in college than they did after they graduated and started working. This goes even for 'high-stress' degrees like medicine, law, engineering, etc. Of course, none of them were working full-time during college - so if you are, none of this applies. I mean, it's up to you obviously, if you don't feel it's the right time for you to date then it isn't the right time. But if you have zero time/energy for dating in college, will you have any when you are working after you graduate? I did date in college, and while I was in my early 20s then, I certainly didn't date any 'joe blogs' either, I only dated guys whom I was strongly attracted to and saw potential in. And I'm very, very glad I did, it was an important part of life experience for me (plus I met my SO there). 1
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