Eastbounddown Posted August 11, 2016 Posted August 11, 2016 I've recently, over the past few weeks been texting/skyping a girl I met through my online work. We've flirted, been suggestive, got to know each other and even a arranged to meet up in a couple of weeks. However despite all the positive signals and the fact that I'm 95% sure she's into me, she drops the word 'friends' into the mix at the weirdest of times. Some examples: After a bunch of flirting she laughed and said 'this is why we're going to be good good friends'. I mentioned bringing something to when we meet up, she said 'thats what friends do right'. I know what it sounds like but its all amidst flirting and showing that shes still interested, so its confusing D: Dont think I'm in the friend zone at all but... maybe I'm on the way if I dont be careful Thanks for any help
Larryville Posted August 11, 2016 Posted August 11, 2016 'this is why we're going to be good good friends'. Oh EBD dude I get a lot of this, In another thread I mentioned that if you want to know the type of women who will at some point ghost (out of the blue) they throw this phrase out EARLY you just have to be aware enough to catch it. Not saying to dump her, just don’t throw all of your energy at her and be seeing others until things “truly” develop. Oh PS it is NOT about you! Not about something you did or said or how much she is into you. Also why you MUST pay close attention (assuming you met online) to how long her typical relationships last. Women who are perpetually single (lots of short semi-relationships), never married ect... yes people their are exceptions but generally... 2
xUnknown Posted August 11, 2016 Posted August 11, 2016 just roll with it. See how things go when you meet her. If you aren't getting that flirty vibe anymore then assume she's just looking for friends. I think maybe she is saying that "friends" stuff to justify meeting up with a stranger. You're "friends"...friends meet up, its what they do....to make it sound less awkward or something. 4
CarrieT Posted August 11, 2016 Posted August 11, 2016 I've recently, over the past few weeks been texting/skyping a girl I met through my online work. We've flirted, been suggestive, got to know each other and even a arranged to meet up in a couple of weeks. Here's the thing. You haven't met yet so you are projecting way more regarding a potential relationship that isn't even a reality yet. Take a big, giant chill pill and stop flirting and being suggestive with someone you don't really know. Leave the flirting and innuendo to an IN PERSON encounter. You will get far more out of it and know if it is receptive or not. 1
Author Eastbounddown Posted August 12, 2016 Author Posted August 12, 2016 Thanks for the wise responses. All made a lot of sense. I should hold off until we meet and see if there's actually anything in this and not be invested in the mean time. However, she frequents my online work place (full time streamer) and the cycle continues. Playful chat/flirting then a confusing F bomb Latest entry: https://gyazo.com/7c3ab8b17df8b6916a4322cc700ec104 I suck with women, it's pretty tragic Thanks for the help.
Sunkissedpatio Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 You're doing fine, flirting is good, she says friends but she also flirts. Don't worry about the "F bomb" she might be testing you and feeling just as insecure and wondering what you want out of it too. If you are really into her or not which is why she doesn't want to jump the gun and say something more than friends. Meet her and then see. 3
summertitparadise Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 She's trying to friend zone you. Maybe because she feels it's not the right time for her to start a relationship yet. But she must be interested in you that's why she spent her time flirting with you. Meet her and talk to her.
CarrieT Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 But she must be interested in you that's why she spent her time flirting with you. Totally disagree. OP, for all you know, she is having this same type of conversation with five or six other guys. It might be the way she operates to get attention. Until you know her IN REAL LIFE, you have no idea what her intentions are! Online and out of the real world, it is just a game to be played...
Art_Critic Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 If you don't think you are in the friend zone then all she was doing was putting your penis back in your pants for you... Keeping you in check as it were so you don't get the wrong idea... Plow right along...
BikerAccnt Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 ..I thought this was going to be about the other "F bomb" word..nevermind 3
Tribble Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 ..I thought this was going to be about the other "F bomb" word..nevermind I thought it was about farting hahahaha 2
leogirl876 Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 She's trying to friend zone you. Maybe because she feels it's not the right time for her to start a relationship yet. But she must be interested in you that's why she spent her time flirting with you. Meet her and talk to her. See I don't know about this, this could just be her way of flirting, like "oh, we'll make great friends wink wink" is how I'm taking it. But then again, I don't consider myself to be like "most women" so who knows what I know at this point in life. I'd say just see what happens, maybe you'll get a FWB out of her.
bachdude Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 Don't worry about the F bomb at this point. There are many possible reasons to use the dreaded "F" word. Sometimes it means, I want to get to know you first before we get physical. Other times it means, I may not like you when we meet in person so don't get your hopes up too high. Just wait and see how it goes. 1
MGX Posted August 14, 2016 Posted August 14, 2016 ..I thought this was going to be about the other "F bomb" word..nevermind LOL! I thought this was going to be about someone swearing like a trucker.
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