Author kailah Posted August 17, 2016 Author Posted August 17, 2016 Mistake huh. You accidentally tripped up and fell on another guy's penis? I doubt it. It was not a mistake, but a choice. Do you know what the definition of a mistake is? An action or judgment that is misguided or wrong. Mistakes and accidents are not the same thing. For the record, my ex was happy to rid the stuff. He is moving back in with his parents for a while. I (with his permission) went when he wasn't home. He came back before we were done moving stuff out and we sat and talked for a few hours, clearing the air. He said he doesn't love me anymore but doesn't want to hate me forever or avoid me like the plague. We both apologized for things we did wrong. He said something like "maybe in the future if it's meant to be". He told me not to date my babies dad/the guy I cheated with. Wished each other luck in life and went separate ways. No plans to talk to each other again. Given the circumstances, I cried a stupid amount.
DKT3 Posted August 17, 2016 Posted August 17, 2016 I'm pretty confident that this will be one of those life regrets for you in the future. I think you have a good heart, but right now it's being covered in selfishness, short sightedness, and lust. Aka youth. Chasing unicorns. Key is to limit the number of true regrets you accumulate over the course of your life. A start is being planted firmly in reality. Getting pregnant by someone whom you didn't even know his last name was a mistake, trying to force a relationship with said person is compounding the mistake. Chasing unicorns... 1
Author kailah Posted August 17, 2016 Author Posted August 17, 2016 I'm pretty confident that this will be one of those life regrets for you in the future. I think you have a good heart, but right now it's being covered in selfishness, short sightedness, and lust. Aka youth. Chasing unicorns. Key is to limit the number of true regrets you accumulate over the course of your life. A start is being planted firmly in reality. Getting pregnant by someone whom you didn't even know his last name was a mistake, trying to force a relationship with said person is compounding the mistake. Chasing unicorns... Probably. I already regret it. If I could go back, even if I still cheated, I don't know if I would have played it out the same. I think I'd tell myself not to get attached and have an early abortion. If not, I'd leave the guy out of it. But that's the thing with life, there are no do overs. I am just starting to show and look pregnant instead of fat/bloated. The dad said there is nothing attractive about pregnant women and it's alien-like and gross. Haven't talked for a few days before of it. Meanwhile my ex pointed at my stomach and said "you look good". That's what I traded a good guy for, to be told I look like an alien.
dpass Posted August 17, 2016 Posted August 17, 2016 Probably. I already regret it. If I could go back, even if I still cheated, I don't know if I would have played it out the same. I think I'd tell myself not to get attached and have an early abortion. If not, I'd leave the guy out of it. But that's the thing with life, there are no do overs. I am just starting to show and look pregnant instead of fat/bloated. The dad said there is nothing attractive about pregnant women and it's alien-like and gross. Haven't talked for a few days before of it. Meanwhile my ex pointed at my stomach and said "you look good". That's what I traded a good guy for, to be told I look like an alien. It's not to late to reverse it. Abortion is still an option and you can walk out of your baby daddies life and continue with yours. 1
Kkristine Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Do NOT try and contact him personally. I am on the receiving end of this story. My ex cheated on me, is still with this person, and I have a ton of items that are in his basement that I completely forgot about. While I don't know if he knows this or not, I don't ever see myself getting these things back. If he were to contact me, I think it would definitely bring up old wounds. Even though I know his intention is nothing more than giving me back my things, it would still hurt very much to hear from him. We've been in NC for more than 2 months, so I'm sure contacting him would do more harm than good. Does your friend have his phone number? Mine does, but I've decided that the items that are there aren't worth the hassle. Too hard.
Author kailah Posted August 18, 2016 Author Posted August 18, 2016 (edited) It's not to late to reverse it. Abortion is still an option and you can walk out of your baby daddies life and continue with yours. Legally, perhaps. Morally, it is too late. I am talking to an adoption counselor later today to see if that is a better choice for me. Edited August 18, 2016 by kailah 1
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