Author Dis Posted October 4, 2016 Author Posted October 4, 2016 Yeah, do it for the innocent women that he'll continue contaminating Don't bother reading his response if any - delete upon receivable and move on with your day... Thats exactly what my mom said....and I agree These poor, poor women he's fooling have no idea they're sleeping with a guy who has chlamydia....I didn't!!! So yup, I'll have to tell him tomorrow I was thinking something short and "sweet", "You gave me chlamydia, go get treatment" Sound ok? 1
Gaeta Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 so he is not using protection with these women? or with you? 1
Author Dis Posted October 4, 2016 Author Posted October 4, 2016 (edited) so he is not using protection with these women? or with you? I have no idea if he's using protection with other women We didnt use protection, because of that little "exclusive relationship" talk we had where I was told by him that he wasnt seeing anyone else, only wanted to see me....only for me to walk in on him having sex with another woman 3 months later Wow....he full of s*ht meter is off the charts!!! God, I wish I wouldve made him use a condom....instead I was my normal trusting self....which has always served me well Edited October 4, 2016 by Disillusionment373
Gaeta Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 I have no idea if he's using protection with other women We didnt use protection, because of that little "exclusive relationship" talk we had where I was told by him that he wasnt seeing anyone else, only wanted to see me....only for me to walk in on him having sex with another woman 3 months later Wow....he full of s*ht meter is off the charts!!! God, I wish I wouldve made him use a condom....instead I was my normal trusting self....which has always served me well I don't want to be all motherly on you but.... When you decide to be exclusive with someone and abandon protection you just don't take their word for it. You both get tested together. Then drop the condoms. 1
Gaeta Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 I don't want to be all motherly on you but.... When you decide to be exclusive with someone and abandon protection you just don't take their word for it. You both get tested together. Then drop the condoms. Said the girl living with hsv-2 so like I said, don't want to hit on you while you are down. We all got taken for a fool at some point (obviously me too) 2
Author Dis Posted October 4, 2016 Author Posted October 4, 2016 I don't want to be all motherly on you but.... When you decide to be exclusive with someone and abandon protection you just don't take their word for it. You both get tested together. Then drop the condoms. Said the girl living with hsv-2 so like I said, don't want to hit on you while you are down. We all got taken for a fool at some point (obviously me too) Oh girl I totally get you and you're right.... part of this IS on me Until I actually SAW his test results I never shouldve allowed him to enter condom free I'm actually really disappointed in myself for this...my mom is an APRN, I'm in nursing school....you would think I'd know better I guess I should just count my lucky stars that it wasnt something worse and from here on out....I will.... never...ever.....ever...have sex with a guy without a condom unless I've seen his test results (and of course we're in an exclusive relationship) I need to be responsible for my own sexual health...and after this...I will be
No_Go Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Eh testing wouldn't have helped - he continued sleeping around so who knows at what point of their relationship he got the chlamydia... I don't want to be all motherly on you but.... When you decide to be exclusive with someone and abandon protection you just don't take their word for it. You both get tested together. Then drop the condoms. 1
No_Go Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Sounds perfect!! Thats exactly what my mom said....and I agree These poor, poor women he's fooling have no idea they're sleeping with a guy who has chlamydia....I didn't!!! So yup, I'll have to tell him tomorrow I was thinking something short and "sweet", "You gave me chlamydia, go get treatment" Sound ok?
jen1447 Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Aw, poor thing. Yeah your short line + dead air sounds perfectly fine. (Or if you really want I'll be your surrogate. ) 1
Author Dis Posted October 4, 2016 Author Posted October 4, 2016 Aw, poor thing. Yeah your short line + dead air sounds perfectly fine. (Or if you really want I'll be your surrogate. ) Hi boo!!! The bold print sounds awesome!!!! Honestly I would love it if someone else could tell him and not me...I havent sent the text yet because I dont want him to turn this around on me I'm dreading this....can't bring myself to do it yet
jen1447 Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Hi boo!!! The bold print sounds awesome!!!! Honestly I would love it if someone else could tell him and not me...I havent sent the text yet because I dont want him to turn this around on me I'm dreading this....can't bring myself to do it yet PM me baby girl.
lana-banana Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 If you really want to do it anonymously, you can use a free app like Burner that will (legally) generate a fake number for you. That's probably simpler and safer than getting someone else's real phone number involved. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Like you said, thank your lucky stars it wasn't something worse. You may also want to request a blood test for HSV2, since 95% of STD clinics do not test for it unless you specifically request it. However, you need to wait 6-8 weeks after exposure for accurate results. Take care of yourself and good luck. 1
Scarlett.O'hara Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 I havent sent the text yet because I dont want him to turn this around on me I'm dreading this....can't bring myself to do it yet What a horrible situation. I don't blame you for wanting to avoid it. There is another alternative, create a generic email address and send him an email stating that someone he has been with has been infected and that he needs to get tested, signed anonymous. That way you have done your part and kept your name out of it. The rest is up to him if he takes it seriously. I would ignore him after that. Also, I know you were confused about why this upset you, but I think it is completely understandable. It possibly triggered emotions linked to a previous betrayal. It is strange how the mind works sometimes. Good luck.
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