William Posted August 17, 2016 Posted August 17, 2016 Thread is again open for comment after a little clean up. As always lets keep our posts respectful and helpful in nature. There are a couple quotes above with a notation from me as they may appear a little out of context but I felt still contributed to the conversation ~T
Author Dis Posted August 18, 2016 Author Posted August 18, 2016 I'm just curious...did he ever try to make contact with you to try to explain? I broke up with my exbf for cheating with a married coworker and secretly hoped he would try to get me back, but instead he blocked me and became besties with HER. I would have loved to tell her husband and even over a year later I still think about doing that. I know they are still friends and it still burns me up to this day even though I don't want that jerk back and don't think about him very much anymore. It just angers me that he chose her over me. I'm sorry that happened to you hun I know its a very hurtful thing to go through. Try really hard to let go of that anger. I was really angry with this guy. But I had to let that anger go because of some complicated witchy stuff. If I didnt let my anger go...something would happen to him that I could never forgive myself for. Anger is very powerful...it can destroy people To answer your question...no he has not reached out to me. I'm pretty sure...because I the magic I did on him....he's alittle scared of me at this point. Plus he's not the type of guy to reach out once something is over. I dont want to hear from him. I know what I did to him. I know what he's going through. What I did to him was far worse than what he did to me. I'm letting it go now
Author Dis Posted September 6, 2016 Author Posted September 6, 2016 He texted me tonight (I cant block texts...only calls) He said, "Hey (my name). I know you hate me but I never apologised for how I treated you and I wanted to say I'm sorry." I said, "It's ok. Honestly I dont care enough to hate you. I'm sorry for what I did to you too." (He has absolutely no spiritual awareness otherwise he wouldve known for sure that I practiced unethical magic on him. He probably thinks he's just run into some bad luck...most people that have black magic done on them have no idea) He said, "You didnt do anything wrong" (I'm thinking....oh yes I did) Then he said, "How have you been?" Lol dude...if you only knew Plus I dont think I'm interested in chatting with a guy that cheated on me...so that one text I sent will be the last. Tbh...I just wanted to get his mind going alittle...maybe he'll connnect the dots some day
h0000 Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 He texted me tonight (I cant block texts...only calls) He said, "Hey (my name). I know you hate me but I never apologised for how I treated you and I wanted to say I'm sorry." I said, "It's ok. Honestly I dont care enough to hate you. I'm sorry for what I did to you too." (He has absolutely no spiritual awareness otherwise he wouldve known for sure that I practiced unethical magic on him. He probably thinks he's just run into some bad luck...most people that have black magic done on them have no idea) He said, "You didnt do anything wrong" (I'm thinking....oh yes I did) Then he said, "How have you been?" Lol dude...if you only knew Plus I dont think I'm interested in chatting with a guy that cheated on me...so that one text I sent will be the last. Tbh...I just wanted to get his mind going alittle...maybe he'll connnect the dots some day This guy cheated on you so you did some black magic on him? hmm..okayyy...
katiegrl Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 (edited) He texted me tonight (I cant block texts...only calls) He said, "Hey (my name). I know you hate me but I never apologised for how I treated you and I wanted to say I'm sorry." I said, "It's ok. Honestly I dont care enough to hate you. I'm sorry for what I did to you too." (He has absolutely no spiritual awareness otherwise he wouldve known for sure that I practiced unethical magic on him. He probably thinks he's just run into some bad luck...most people that have black magic done on them have no idea) He said, "You didnt do anything wrong" (I'm thinking....oh yes I did) Then he said, "How have you been?" Lol dude...if you only knew Plus I dont think I'm interested in chatting with a guy that cheated on me...so that one text I sent will be the last. Tbh...I just wanted to get his mind going alittle...maybe he'll connnect the dots some day How do you know if he even had any bad luck though? Or if your black magic *worked*? What was your response to "how have you been"? Wonder what he really wanted. Probably in a dry spell, hoping for a late night booty call perhaps? Glad you are done with him!!! Edited September 6, 2016 by katiegrl 1
Author Dis Posted September 6, 2016 Author Posted September 6, 2016 So......what DID you do to him, anyway? How do you know if he even had any bad luck though? Or if your black magic *worked*? What was your response to "how have you been"? Wonder what he really wanted. Probably in a dry spell, hoping for a late night booty call perhaps? Glad you are done with him!!! What did I do to him? I aligned my will, desire, and belief and projected the force upon my target (him), with a clear and tangible magical link (pics of him, a piece of his shirt stuffed into a doll I made to represent him...the doll and him were spiritually linked by me...they were one being) Whatever I did to the doll...I did to him. I also used graveyard dirt to put inside the doll...very potent stuff. It attached spirits to him who aided me in my work How do I know it worked? I've been practicing for 12 years. Once you get the concepts and techniques down and are able to see results....its easy peasey from there on out. Plus...anger is an incredibly potent emotion to work with in witchcraft...its very easy to manifest and direct. I also have a divination device I use to let me know how my magic is manifesting....it gave me clear answers as to what was happening to him. It also said he'd contact me in September....so I wasnt too surprised when he did I took apart the doll after 4 days...seperating him from the doll and banishing the energy I created as it no longer had a target (the doll/him)...I also sent the spirits on their way and thanked them. I wasnt happy with myself for crossing ethical lines and just wanted to be done with it...doing magic on him was preventing me from healing and moving on I didnt respond to him after I sent that one initial text....the last thing I want to do is have a convo with a guy that cheated on me...I was even debating on sending that one text...I'm not going to send another. I'm more than happy to shut the door now And ya Katie, his other options probably dried up so he's running back to me. I think its strange that he would actually think I'd start something back up with him considering what he did. I respect myself too much to do that...or to send him one more text. I have all the closure I need now....not that I was dwelling over it but I def feel like this chapter is over 2
slider1985 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 (The bold print) How was I supposed to prevent him from cheating on me??? How is him cheating on me my fault??? Come on Grisho....dont blame his infidetly on me I agree....we were never meant to be together. I never had strong feelings for him. I dont feel a sense of loss. When I walked in on him I didnt lose anything. I dont want him back. I dont regret the fact it didnt work out I dont care what happens between him and this girl now. Its not my business. What I'm angry about is the fact that he asked me to be exclusive and cheated on me. What I'm angry about is him going behind my back with someone else when we were together. That pic on fb was taken when we were together. Thats why I was angry when I saw it I have every right to be angry that someone claimed their loyalty to me only to stab me in the back. You can tell me not to be angry...but I'm human. Every person that gets cheated on feels betrayed and angry...its human nature I dont care that it didnt work out. Like you said, we were incompatible...I didnt have strong feelings for him. But what I do care about is that someone stabbed me in the back and thought they would never have to suffer any consquences. What I care about is someone asking me to be in a relationship only for them to step outside of it later. What is the point in that??? And I do want to make it clear that had I not walked in on him he wouldve kept stringing me along...he wouldve kept up his acts of betrayl....he did it before (I did not realize that until I walked in on him...so no I did not know about it until I walked in on him)...he wouldve kept doing it. He wouldve kept hurting me...and I wouldve had no idea...I'm taking my power back I totally undestand and can relate to what you're feeling. I also experienced a similar situation. She asked me to be her boyfriend and behind my back she was seeing someone else and would string me along until i found out. We were incompatible but it was the betrayal that hurt me most. So I totally get where you're coming from. We're all humans and we all heal at our own pace. 1
Author Dis Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 He texted me again today saying, "Hey! How are you?" Tell me why I would want to have a convo with a dude that cheated on me????? I honestly have no idea whats going on in his head....is he just really dumb or desperate???? Really though....what would possess a woman to actually start another relationship with a man who cheated on her??? Does he honestly think I would do that??? Come on! I have some gfs who have continued relationships with men that cheated on them...but I gave him a pretty clear picture of who I was....and that is NOT a woman who respects herself so little she'd take a guy back after he betrayed her...I may be a fool at times but I'm far from a door mat. Since he knows this, why would he even try to reach out??? I really dont care about this too much at all....I just needed to rant. However I am curious as to whether he's just that dumb or that horny etc etc Anyway...I never replied of course
jen1447 Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Eh, testing the waters. In his mind it can't hurt. 1
OnlyHonesty Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 This is very interesting to read. I am glad you wrote this. Because I have been reading about this topic lately in some books I have been lent... They're very illuminating. Karma is indeed a process, apparently, that is non-judgemental or decisive. From what I understand, it means action, and can be good or bad and we all do it, and the only karma we can affect is our own. Indeed, it seems the OP does not understand karma. Then there were others talking about how a woman that slashed tyres in revenge had her own karma. But then they said to make sure any revenge was not illegal which was completely missing the point. That all reminded me of this quote. “Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore.” – Albert Einstein Easier said, than done but I think that quote highlights an important point.
katiegrl Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 (edited) Indeed, it seems the OP does not understand karma. Then there were others talking about how a woman that slashed tyres in revenge had her own karma. But then they said to make sure any revenge was not illegal which was completely missing the point. That all reminded me of this quote. ------- “Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore.” – Albert Einstein So essentially the best thing to do is forgive (but never forget!).... and ignore! Fabulous....glad to hear I have been doing it right! Lol The best revenge is NO revenge! Edited September 18, 2016 by katiegrl
Aniela Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 They always seem to come back, if you just quietly disappear. That happened to me, too. I wish I'd stayed quiet, and not responded at all. The best revenge really is not missing them at all. I don't believe that the strong always forgive, but not being that bothered in the first place, can really get to some men. Mum got rid of a man she'd been engaged to, who cheated on her with a number of women (and he was a real sociopath, it turned out), by acting as though she'd forgiven him, and was engaged to a new man. She was lying through her teeth, but she realized that he would just keep returning if he thought that he had any kind of emotional hold over her. He suddenly started apologizing for everything he'd put her through - trying to get a little emotional connection again, and she said something along the lines of, "That's fine, no worries." She never heard from him again. 1
Author Dis Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 They always seem to come back, if you just quietly disappear. That happened to me, too. I wish I'd stayed quiet, and not responded at all. The best revenge really is not missing them at all. I don't believe that the strong always forgive, but not being that bothered in the first place, can really get to some men. Mum got rid of a man she'd been engaged to, who cheated on her with a number of women (and he was a real sociopath, it turned out), by acting as though she'd forgiven him, and was engaged to a new man. She was lying through her teeth, but she realized that he would just keep returning if he thought that he had any kind of emotional hold over her. He suddenly started apologizing for everything he'd put her through - trying to get a little emotional connection again, and she said something along the lines of, "That's fine, no worries." She never heard from him again. Thanks for your reply! I dont miss him at all...I put it behind me fairly quickly. I do think men come circling back if you just ignore them and act unaffected by their actions...there was nothing special between us...I was more hurt that he had hid who he was more than anything else I'm really glad I stayed quiet....He cant have me in any way shape or form now despite his desires. Win win
Author Dis Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 (edited) Indeed, it seems the OP does not understand karma. Then there were others talking about how a woman that slashed tyres in revenge had her own karma. But then they said to make sure any revenge was not illegal which was completely missing the point. That all reminded me of this quote. “Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore.” – Albert Einstein Easier said, than done but I think that quote highlights an important point. I understand the standard conventional concept of karma....what I did to him had nothing to do with karma My religion views karma differently than what your describing...we also have different views on dealing with people who wrong us....we all have our own beliefs....live and let live my friend and lets stick to the topic at hand Edited September 18, 2016 by Disillusionment373
Author Dis Posted September 24, 2016 Author Posted September 24, 2016 (edited) He texted me again saying... "Hey, i dont think im going be able to meet up tmrw its a 40 minute ride there n back and i need to study for my exam on monday. if it was any other night it would be fine but i cant waste a minute" Funny thing is.....I sent him this same text months ago except this is exact text I sent... "Hey, I don't think I'm gonna be able to meet up tomorrow, its a 40 minute ride there and back and I need to study for my exam on Monday. If it was any other night it would be fine but I can't waste a minute." I'm not dwelling over this...truth is I've spent the entire day studying and I need a distraction from the books. So what he doing??? Playing mind games???? Baiting me??? Edited September 24, 2016 by Disillusionment373
Zahara Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 He texted me again saying... "Hey, i dont think im going be able to meet up tmrw its a 40 minute ride there n back and i need to study for my exam on monday. if it was any other night it would be fine but i cant waste a minute" Funny thing is.....I sent him this same text months ago except this is exact text I sent... "Hey, I don't think I'm gonna be able to meet up tomorrow, its a 40 minute ride there and back and I need to study for my exam on Monday. If it was any other night it would be fine but I can't waste a minute." I'm not dwelling over this...truth is I've spent the entire day studying and I need a distraction from the books. So what he doing??? Playing mind games???? Baiting me??? Yes, baiting you. Probably bored and reaching out to women and seeing who will bite. You should block this guy from having access to you. My ex did a similar thing. They're hoping you'll respond -- any response is a response, any attention is attention. 3
Author Dis Posted September 25, 2016 Author Posted September 25, 2016 Yes, baiting you. Probably bored and reaching out to women and seeing who will bite. You should block this guy from having access to you. My ex did a similar thing. They're hoping you'll respond -- any response is a response, any attention is attention. Thank so much for your reply Zahara! Yup, he's baiting me for sure. Even though I dont want him back...theres a art of me that wants to believe he regrets what he did and knows he lost something amazing when he lost me. Because I know myself and how I operate in relationships I know it was his loss and not mine I would block him but my phone carrier doesnt allow me to block texts...only calls....ugh Oh and I did NOT text him back...he's not getting any attention from me
Zahara Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Thank so much for your reply Zahara! Yup, he's baiting me for sure. Even though I dont want him back...theres a art of me that wants to believe he regrets what he did and knows he lost something amazing when he lost me. Because I know myself and how I operate in relationships I know it was his loss and not mine I would block him but my phone carrier doesnt allow me to block texts...only calls....ugh Oh and I did NOT text him back...he's not getting any attention from me You're very welcome If I recall, this is the guy that you walked in on with another woman -- I wished the same when I caught my ex doing the deed and hoped that one day he'd realize what he had lost but I realized that someone of that mindset may never be able to have introspection that allows them to value a good thing. At this point, he's acting the fool and it's rather pathetic but you, you just keep on being your fabulous self! Stay strong! 2
Author Dis Posted September 25, 2016 Author Posted September 25, 2016 You're very welcome If I recall, this is the guy that you walked in on with another woman -- I wished the same when I caught my ex doing the deed and hoped that one day he'd realize what he had lost but I realized that someone of that mindset may never be able to have introspection that allows them to value a good thing. At this point, he's acting the fool and it's rather pathetic but you, you just keep on being your fabulous self! Stay strong! I think you're right about that....they're not capable of understanding what they lost or what they really did And thank you! I'll keep it up!
jen1447 Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Oh and I did NOT text him back...he's not getting any attention from me Good girl. 1
Author Dis Posted October 4, 2016 Author Posted October 4, 2016 So just an interesting development.... I went and got tested for STD's a week ago...I thought it would be a smart move since he was cheating and we didn't use condoms because I THOUGHT we were monogamous!!!! (I do not have any symptoms but many STDs can be asymptomatic) And ya...I tested positive for chlamydia Thank GOD it was nothing else! Couldve been worse But this does feel like a double slap in the face...I cried before class today...not necasrily because of the diagnosis (I'm well aware of what chlamydia is and how easily its cured, I already picked up my antibiotics so I'll be cured shortly) To tell you the truth I'm not sure why I cried.....maybe someone here can help me understand that. I'm hardly angry at him anymore...but I guess it opened up the wound alittle...I dont know So now....I have to text him to tell him he gave me the STD and to seek treatment. I'm DREADING his reaction. Ohhhhh if he tries to tell me that I gave it to him I'll just be livid....but of course NC, so I wont say a word. I'll probably just send the text then put his number in the spam folder (and hopefully not look in it) Cheating + Chlamydia = F*cking awesome
Gaeta Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Get the STD clinic to contact him and tell him he has had contact with someone testing positive and needs to get tested. Let him wonder which one gave it to him and let him simmer in his own juice. 2
Author Dis Posted October 4, 2016 Author Posted October 4, 2016 Get the STD clinic to contact him and tell him he has had contact with someone testing positive and needs to get tested. Let him wonder which one gave it to him and let him simmer in his own juice. This is a stellar idea Gaeta...I would def do that if I could... but because I go to Planned Parenthood (its alittle low rent) they wont do that for me. The woman that called me with the results actually told me it was up to me to inform him A part of me doesnt even think he deserves to know he gave me chlamydia. Isnt it his job to know what STDs HE has???? But I know I need to do the responsible thing and tell him...even though I dont think he deserves that from me...I just dont want to do it....he gave it to me so its his problem But the nurse in me knows I have to do whats right
No_Go Posted October 4, 2016 Posted October 4, 2016 Yeah, do it for the innocent women that he'll continue contaminating Don't bother reading his response if any - delete upon receivable and move on with your day... This is a stellar idea Gaeta...I would def do that if I could... but because I go to Planned Parenthood (its alittle low rent) they wont do that for me. The woman that called me with the results actually told me it was up to me to inform him A part of me doesnt even think he deserves to know he gave me chlamydia. Isnt it his job to know what STDs HE has???? But I know I need to do the responsible thing and tell him...even though I dont think he deserves that from me...I just dont want to do it....he gave it to me so its his problem But the nurse in me knows I have to do whats right 2
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