My GF and I decided to be friends. How soon is it for me to pursue others?

[E-Squared]

So recently I had dated someone for 2.5 months, even though we had been talking to each other for a lot longer than that. We have slept together and all that stuff. However, some stuff had come up recently and she said that it would be better if we just be friends, which I am fine with. However, at the moment there is someone who sparked my interests. I am not sure if this is too soon for me to try pursuing this person. What do you think of this?

[CarrieT]

She broke up with you. Date whenever it feels right!

[Otter2569]

2.5 months - I'd have been on line looking as I though things were going south. Answer - what are you waiting for?!

[SammySammy]

I wouldn't consider someone I'd seen 2.5 months a girlfriend. Wouldn't be particularly concerned with what she thought about me dating someone else. Especially after she decided to put you in LJBFs land.

[basil67]

I wouldn't hesitate to move on....no matter who ended it.

 

I hope you're only planning to be casual friends though. Even if the two of you can manage this without getting nutty, it's unlikely that your and her future partners will be OK with you being close to an ex.

[standtall]

3 minutes after the discussion.

[Satu]

There is no rule.

 

Trust your instincts.

[E-Squared]

I wouldn't consider someone I'd seen 2.5 months a girlfriend. Wouldn't be particularly concerned with what she thought about me dating someone else. Especially after she decided to put you in LJBFs land.

 

Then what is the time frame that you would consider someone a BF or GF?

 

We are still on good terms and are friends. However, even prior to her calling it off, I started to get a little friendly with a library assistant who sparked my interests. I had conflicting thoughts about it at first.

[Satu]

There is no timeframe.

 

You are BF and GF when you both agree that you are.

[E-Squared]

There is no timeframe.

 

You are BF and GF when you both agree that you are.

 

Good point.

[oldshirt]

OK let's get a few things straight here.

 

When someone you have dated says that you should be "friends", what that really means is that she no longer sees you as a potential BF and no longer wants to date or have any kind of romantic/sexual relations with you.

 

But she doesn't hate your guts or think that you are any kind of monster either and she doesn't want you to think badly of her for dumping you (and yes, you have been dumped)

 

There for you are under absolutely NO obligations to her other than simply common courtesies that you should extend to every person you encounter as a decent Earth-citizen.

 

Now as far as how long you should wait until you give the next person of interest a call... I think to be decent and courteous, you should wait until your exGF is out of sight and out of earshot before you call up the next girl.

 

This is just me but I think it would be somewhat rude and boarish of you to call the next girl right in front of your xGF.

 

At least wait until she is out of sight and out of earshot. Once she can't see you or hear you do it, then you are good to go. To do it right infront of her would be kind of jerkish IMHO.