miagator Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 So I was dated this guy for a bit over 4 months. We had many things in common, went to gym together. He was very into me the entire time, we were basically in a bubble all day, texting from early morning till we went to sleep. I had issues with him not always being available for me because of one thing or another. I know for a fact there was no cheating because he was always texting. It was more his family needing him around and keeping him busy. Also he never introduced me to his family, at first he said he wanted to but it never happened. He was interested in meeting mine though. Every time I was upset because of this he accused me of being a drama queen. Fast forward to the breakup, he had been as affectionate as always and I was upset that I had not seen him for days, we got into a fight that escalated to him telling me that we would not last and that the best thing would be to break up. I tried to talk him out of it but he refused. Next day I sent him a text just wanting to talk, not asking to get back together, he did not respond. I decided to back off. 2 days later, I made fake dating app accounts and found him on a couple of dating sites. I feel sick to my stomach. How is it possible to claim to love someone and then treat them like this?
NIGHT1985 Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 Doesn't sound like he was very into you, you were just a distraction while he looks for something better.
Bialy Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 It hurts to say, but it sounds like he was just toying with your feelings. I'm a little confused at why you'd want to meet his parents after only four months of dating with a lot of it predominately texting. It's not a solid reason to want to meet someone's parents.
hew Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 Hey! Im sorry that happened to you, I know it hurts and it sucks. Its hard to tell what is real at first. People always seem to be on their best behaviour at the start of things and will always seem really into you. My boyfriend that I have been broken up with for about a month now was great in the beginning. He was the best and so kind and sweet and I loved him so much. Then we moved in together and it turned terribly abusive. Just by this guy calling you a drama queen for expressing your feelings, makes it sound like he didn't really care to listen or understand you. And thats not fair to you and you already deserve better right there. True colours always show later on and thats when we get to decide if we like them or not. Let this guy go, let him go on dating sites and mess around. You will find a guy who's right for you. Someone who will listen to you and understand you, and be willing to do so. Not just call you a drama queen. I know it hurts, but trust me, it gets better. I still feel sick to my stomach when I think of my ex. But you slowly realize what you deserve and you realize that that person wasn't the one who was going to be able to give it you. Best of luck, keep smiling
Author miagator Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 Ex broke up with me over 2 weeks ago. I'm a bit older than him, his reason was that because of the age he saw no future, plus we argued quite a bit. We talked 4 days later and he was very cold and cruel in the things he said to me and admitted to having lied about a few things but also admitted that he still loved me. I removed him off social media and let him be, did not initiate any contact. We go to the same gym, so if I saw him I ignored him. Yesterday at the gym, I was avoiding once again and he came up to me, wanting to know if we can say hi and have small talk. I said no, because of what was said during our last conversation. He cried 4 separate times during the convo and said these last couple of weeks had been very hard for him and that he could not fathom the idea of getting back together, getting more attached and then suffering more in the future. I said I had no expectations but that he could not live his life afraid of getting hurt, we never know what happens. He hugged me tight and cried, I asked him if he wanted to rethink his decision and he said no. I said there was nothing more to discuss then, but wanted to know if it was true that he loved me and he said "no, I don't love you...why do you want me to say it if it's going to hurt...I don't love you" I walked away and told him I respected his feelings and decision. What makes a man behave like this??
PegNosePete Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Phase of the moon, sunspots, tides?? Who knows? And who cares? You can't control his actions or emotions, only your own. For your own good you need to stop being his shoulder to cry on. 2
Bialy Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Just a thought--- It sounds like he might NOT have any emotional support to get through this breakup. So, he used you as emotional support by walking up to you and grieving the loss... only to realize that it doesn't make any sense (hence why he said "I don't love you").
Sad26 Posted August 10, 2016 Posted August 10, 2016 Ex broke up with me over 2 weeks ago. I'm a bit older than him, his reason was that because of the age he saw no future, plus we argued quite a bit. We talked 4 days later and he was very cold and cruel in the things he said to me and admitted to having lied about a few things but also admitted that he still loved me. I removed him off social media and let him be, did not initiate any contact. We go to the same gym, so if I saw him I ignored him. Yesterday at the gym, I was avoiding once again and he came up to me, wanting to know if we can say hi and have small talk. I said no, because of what was said during our last conversation. He cried 4 separate times during the convo and said these last couple of weeks had been very hard for him and that he could not fathom the idea of getting back together, getting more attached and then suffering more in the future. I said I had no expectations but that he could not live his life afraid of getting hurt, we never know what happens. He hugged me tight and cried, I asked him if he wanted to rethink his decision and he said no. I said there was nothing more to discuss then, but wanted to know if it was true that he loved me and he said "no, I don't love you...why do you want me to say it if it's going to hurt...I don't love you" I walked away and told him I respected his feelings and decision. What makes a man behave like this?? You are a strong person! Though I don't have the specific advice but I admire your strength.
aloneinaz Posted August 10, 2016 Posted August 10, 2016 Just a thought--- It sounds like he might NOT have any emotional support to get through this breakup. So, he used you as emotional support by walking up to you and grieving the loss... only to realize that it doesn't make any sense (hence why he said "I don't love you"). This is on point. At the end of the day, he said he doesn't love you and doesn't want to be w/you anymore. Give him what he wants. VANISH from his life. Find a new gym and avoid other places you could possibly run into him. Block him from contacting you via text, cell or other means. You owe him NOTHING now. Out of sight, out of mind. Focus on getting over it and moving on to someone who will appreciate you and what you bring to a R/S. There's millions of others out there looking for what you want as well. 1
heartfeltlove Posted August 10, 2016 Posted August 10, 2016 Ex broke up with me over 2 weeks ago. I'm a bit older than him, his reason was that because of the age he saw no future, plus we argued quite a bit. We talked 4 days later and he was very cold and cruel in the things he said to me and admitted to having lied about a few things but also admitted that he still loved me. I removed him off social media and let him be, did not initiate any contact. We go to the same gym, so if I saw him I ignored him. Yesterday at the gym, I was avoiding once again and he came up to me, wanting to know if we can say hi and have small talk. I said no, because of what was said during our last conversation. He cried 4 separate times during the convo and said these last couple of weeks had been very hard for him and that he could not fathom the idea of getting back together, getting more attached and then suffering more in the future. I said I had no expectations but that he could not live his life afraid of getting hurt, we never know what happens. He hugged me tight and cried, I asked him if he wanted to rethink his decision and he said no. I said there was nothing more to discuss then, but wanted to know if it was true that he loved me and he said "no, I don't love you...why do you want me to say it if it's going to hurt...I don't love you" I walked away and told him I respected his feelings and decision. What makes a man behave like this?? Could I first ask how old you are/he is?
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