smile95 Posted July 1, 2005 Posted July 1, 2005 Aside from your SO, what makes you happy. If you lived oyur life never getting married or having children, could you be happy having other things in your life? Everyone I talk to says they wish they never got married or will never do it again....those I know that are not married, all theywant is to get married,. including myself. Is is possible to lead a fulfilling life alone? What types of things, activities, hobbies, make you all happy? Is it me-or does society revolve the world around couples?
d'Arthez Posted July 1, 2005 Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 Is it me-or does society revolve the world around couples? You will think that, when you are single. And probably hold the opposite belief when you are part of a couple. As how to live a fulfilling life without marriage or children? Take a few good hobbies, that involve you wholly. Do something artistic for example, appreciate the time you can spend in nature. Walk, and enjoy the spring rains, the autumn leafs et cetera. It is not hard to be happy - it comes from relatively small things, which most people easily overlook and neglect.
Author smile95 Posted July 1, 2005 Author Posted July 1, 2005 THe only thing that really has always made me smile and be truly happy are children. I have always loved them. I really want my own, but was thinking about volunteering at my church or gym day care on the weekends. Just to get out and stop thinking about the jerk in my life and start to do things that I enjoy and make me happy.
d'Arthez Posted July 1, 2005 Posted July 1, 2005 These sound like good ideas, as they divert your mind from the jerk. But there are many things to consider. Walking would probably be not the best suggestion, as it will tend to get you in somewhat reflective moods - and that is something you don't need right now. And you will get to spend some time with children in the meanwhile. That in itself can be a very great experience for you. You will learn a bit too, as an added freebie. So I would make work of the ideas you have!
moimeme Posted July 1, 2005 Posted July 1, 2005 Walking would probably be not the best suggestion, as it will tend to get you in somewhat reflective moods - and that is something you don't need right now. Actually, any exercise is good for depression. It would be worse if she sat home and moped.
alphamale Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 the "desire" to get married and have children is a predominantly female one...it is societies expectation of them.
moimeme Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 the "desire" to get married and have children is a predominantly female one...it is societies expectation of them Here we go again. Proof, please.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale the "desire" to get married and have children is a predominantly female one...it is societies expectation of them. It may predominantly female, But males also desire to get married and have children otherwise there wouldn't be any weddings and pregnant women
alphamale Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Here we go again. Proof, please. of what? my opinion?
Marshbear Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 I wouldn't let the jerk spoil your dreams of children or marriage. I, like you, have many friends who say they will never get married again and are happy to be divorced. I guess unless you have been there you can't understand the pain your partner can inflict or how they can change your views so drastically. I think you can be happy being single but you don't sound like a person who wants this lifestyle. I would keep yourself busy as you suggested but also don't close your heart to the possibility of a relationship and marriage. Make yourself happy and others will be happy with you. Happiness comes from within and not from someone else. Find that happiness and your life will be complete no matter the outcome... Peace...
alphamale Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear Happiness comes from within and not from someone else. at least someone around here is talking sense...
Marshbear Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale at least someone around here is talking sense... Thanks, Alpha. I have my moments....
crazy_grl Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale at least someone around here is talking sense... Yeah, cause alpha sure isn't...
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