Bialy Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 This person is unstable and has a new, strange man living in a home with your daughter. STEP IN and get your daughter out of this awful environment. 3
PegNosePete Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 I hope to goodness that your child never reads this. It must be devastating to hear that your father wishes you were aborted. 8
Author shy_actor Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 Really? and your ex must not be that crazy if she's wiling to take care of the child full time and you're not. and she put you on child support so she's being somewhat responsible there as some men will stop paying. But if you're not willing to take your daughter full time and you live ten hours away, you have very little to complain about. You had a kid with a crazy woman, she probably thinks you're crazy as well. Perhaps you are both a bit crazy. That's not what happened. She disappeared with my daughter for nearly 3 months. Since she is the mother, the police told me it's not kidnapping unless I filed for emergency custody with the courts. If I did that, because she had a pending felony domestic violence charge, the court would have probably PERMANENTLY taken away any custody rights that she had. I talked it over with my parents and they thought it best for the child for us to wait until she calmed down, which she did. But since, she has been living with mom for over a year now, it would be very difficult for me to get back custody. I NEVER SAID I was unwilling to take care of the child full time. It's just a very major life decision I need to make. Go ahead and crucify me... I'm just thinking through the process and you're all being judgmental a$$es having never been in this situation...
Author shy_actor Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 This person is unstable and has a new, strange man living in a home with your daughter. STEP IN and get your daughter out of this awful environment. How exactly. She hasn't broken any laws and he isn't automatically a danger to her. I may want to do that but the courts won't automatically side with me just because I say she's crazy...
JewelD Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 That's not what happened. She disappeared with my daughter for nearly 3 months. Since she is the mother, the police told me it's not kidnapping unless I filed for emergency custody with the courts. If I did that, because she had a pending felony domestic violence charge, the court would have probably PERMANENTLY taken away any custody rights that she had. I talked it over with my parents and they thought it best for the child for us to wait until she calmed down, which she did. But since, she has been living with mom for over a year now, it would be very difficult for me to get back custody. I NEVER SAID I was unwilling to take care of the child full time. It's just a very major life decision I need to make. Go ahead and crucify me... I'm just thinking through the process and you're all being judgmental a$$es having never been in this situation... It shouldn't be that difficult if she is as crazy as you claim she is. and why would it matter if they took away custody from her permanently?? If she's violent, isn't that what SHOULD happen? You didn't want to have a baby with her so wouldn't the best option be for you to have custody? It might be hard, but have you actually tried to file for custody? It's your choice to make, but when you're trying to crucify the mother of your child and make her sound like a demonic woman out sucking the souls of poor innocent men, it's only natural to wonder why you were with her and are allowing her to retain full custody without any type of legal action on your part. Conclusion, sounds like she's probably not that bad, you're just upset that you had a baby with the wrong person. She possibly feels the same way. As do many many many other people. But it happened, so you deal with it, and you certainly don't concern yourself with what she is doing with another man. If she wants to have 30 kids, as long as they're taken care of, that's her business. 2
Author shy_actor Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 It shouldn't be that difficult if she is as crazy as you claim she is. and why would it matter if they took away custody from her permanently?? If she's violent, isn't that what SHOULD happen? You didn't want to have a baby with her so wouldn't the best option be for you to have custody? It might be hard, but have you actually tried to file for custody? It's your choice to make, but when you're trying to crucify the mother of your child and make her sound like a demonic woman out sucking the souls of poor innocent men, it's only natural to wonder why you were with her and are allowing her to retain full custody without any type of legal action on your part. Conclusion, sounds like she's probably not that bad, you're just upset that you had a baby with the wrong person. She possibly feels the same way. As do many many many other people. But it happened, so you deal with it, and you certainly don't concern yourself with what she is doing with another man. If she wants to have 30 kids, as long as they're taken care of, that's her business. I never called her crazy. It's you and toodaloo who keep on using that word over and over. She is bipolar and it can get pretty terrible. She's a good mom. She cannot control her emotions when it comes to men. I've heard stories about her previous BFs, certainly lived through it myself, and I'm sure this new relationship is headed in the same exact direction. I did not crucify her. You're the ones who concluded that she was a demonic woman and then after that I'm selfish because I haven't already claimed 100% custody. I merely stated facts to provide context. The only thing in my original post that was judgmental was that I expressed concern that she's guilting another guy into a bad decision and that angers me... My parents don't think I should seek full custody. They think it is best for me to split custody and try to maintain some relationship with mom. If she continues to be impossible, we'll need to involve the courts to settle the child support matter. FWIW I did speak to an family lawyer. Her advice was the same as the private investor and police officer I spoke to. She's crazy. Take 100% custody or walk away. Continued contact with her will just lead to misery. So far they've been right...
smackie9 Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 If you hate wearing condoms and refuse to use them, then you have to accept the consequences and not say you got roped into a pregnancy. the other poster is right. The morning after pill IS NOT a form of birth control. It for emergency use, like when other means of birth control ( broken condom) fails. You both were play Russian roulette (irresponsible). 2
Eighty_nine Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 I hope to goodness that your child never reads this. It must be devastating to hear that your father wishes you were aborted. I thought the same thing... it's very sad to read.
JewelD Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 The last 2.5 years of my life have been a living h3ll because of this woman. Do I contact him and warn him that keeping the baby was the biggest mistake of my life? She's very beautiful and seductive and uses it to get away with murder. But Jesus, how many fvking kids is she going to have, and how many guys' lives is she going to ruin... I never called her crazy. It's you and toodaloo who keep on using that word over and over. She is bipolar and it can get pretty terrible. She's a good mom. She cannot control her emotions when it comes to men. I've heard stories about her previous BFs, certainly lived through it myself, and I'm sure this new relationship is headed in the same exact direction. I did not crucify her. You're the ones who concluded that she was a demonic woman and then after that I'm selfish because I haven't already claimed 100% custody. I merely stated facts to provide context. The only thing in my original post that was judgmental was that I expressed concern that she's guilting another guy into a bad decision and that angers me... My parents don't think I should seek full custody. They think it is best for me to split custody and try to maintain some relationship with mom. If she continues to be impossible, we'll need to involve the courts to settle the child support matter. FWIW I did speak to an family lawyer. Her advice was the same as the private investor and police officer I spoke to. She's crazy. Take 100% custody or walk away. Continued contact with her will just lead to misery. So far they've been right... You implied in your original post that she's ruined your life by having your child and that she will do the same to her new bf. You state that she's abusive and uses the child as leverage. Now you're saying that she's a good mom. If she is a good mom, there is even less reason for you to be concerned about her having children with someone else. And yes, it makes you sound incredibly selfish to rag on the mother of your child and make her sound horrible but then turn around and say you don't want full custody because you wouldn't have time for your acting career. It's not a question of whether or not you could get full custody, it appears you don't want it at this point. Point is, there are solutions to this problem, you're just not acting on them. and for someone who hates being in contact with her, you certainly know a lot about her personal life. Why do you care if she's 'guilting' someone into having a baby? You had a baby with her by choice and if this man does, it will be his choice as well. I could see if she was poking holes in condoms or stealing semen, but you gave it to her willingly. Regardless of how you feel about her, she's taking care of your child on a daily basis and probably has sacrificed more than you have in order to do so. You have enough to deal with, better to just stay out of her personal business.
Arieswoman Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 shyactor, My advice is to keep out of this new drama. You need to keep to your financial obligations to your child and that's it. When you choose to breed with a fruitloop this is what you get. Maybe you'll have learned something. 2
introverted1 Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 I never called her crazy. It's you and toodaloo who keep on using that word over and over. She is bipolar and it can get pretty terrible. She's a good mom. She cannot control her emotions when it comes to men. I've heard stories about her previous BFs, certainly lived through it myself, and I'm sure this new relationship is headed in the same exact direction. I did not crucify her. You're the ones who concluded that she was a demonic woman and then after that I'm selfish because I haven't already claimed 100% custody. I merely stated facts to provide context. The only thing in my original post that was judgmental was that I expressed concern that she's guilting another guy into a bad decision and that angers me... My parents don't think I should seek full custody. They think it is best for me to split custody and try to maintain some relationship with mom. If she continues to be impossible, we'll need to involve the courts to settle the child support matter. FWIW I did speak to an family lawyer. Her advice was the same as the private investor and police officer I spoke to. She's crazy. Take 100% custody or walk away. Continued contact with her will just lead to misery. So far they've been right... Actually, yes, you have called her crazy. So either she is a crazy person with a felony record, in which case going for custody is the logical course of action OR she is a good mom with whom you have a sadly typically poor relationship that you need to invest some time into to work out. Whatever course of action you decide on should be based on the best interests of your daughter. Good luck. 1
Author shy_actor Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 Actually, yes, you have called her crazy. So either she is a crazy person with a felony record, in which case going for custody is the logical course of action OR she is a good mom with whom you have a sadly typically poor relationship that you need to invest some time into to work out. Whatever course of action you decide on should be based on the best interests of your daughter. Good luck. Jesus you people cannot read. The cop and the PI called her crazy. Not me. Anyway, I'm not going to contact him. The rest of the advice here is useless...
VeveCakes Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Very very very VERY sad your "acting" career is more important than your child. The entertainment industry is garbage. Been there worked in it for many years. Your child is MUCH more important and raising her should be more fulfilling then seeing yourself on TV. Methinks you need some time to reflect on what's really important in life. Time to grow up. 2
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