Scottyd Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Girlfriend and I were having some problems. Frequent fights. She would get drunk often and pass out, or do some outrageous/embarrassing thing while intoxicated. I was frustrated, and one night, after having a few too many myself, I reached out to an ex. Big mistake. The girlfriend finds out a few weeks later and kicks me out of the apartment. I do the usual chump thing of calling/texting too many times, sending flowers, going by her house and trying to talk to her etc. Finally, she calls me and says that she is going to the police and will ask for a restraining order. This freaked me out, but I kind of had the feeling that she was bluffing. I tried calling her back and found that my number had been blocked. At this point, I basically gave up. No woman (or man) is worth going to jail, losing one's job, etc. Late that same night (Sunday), she calls me. Says "I left the door unlocked for you. I need you to come over." So I go over there. She's in bed. I get into the bed and put my arms around her. She starts calling me names, telling me that I am the biggest ******* she has ever met, she can't stand me, etc. I put my hands down the front of her panties while she was insulting me and she was VERY aroused. I don't want to be graphic on this forum, so I will just say that I started touching her and one thing led to another. We had sex twice -- once that night, once the next morning. In the morning, she is still insulting me. "I hate you." "It was just sex. It didn't feel the same." "I don't love you any more." But every time that I would turn away from her or move to the other side of the bed, she would scoot up next to me and put her head on my chest. She ended up giving me a ride home. I asked her what she wanted to do. She said "I don't know yet" and "do you think you can leave me alone for awhile?" She also asked me not to tell anyone what had happened the night before. I go about my day....that night I get a text from a friend who says that he just saw my girfriend and my ex talking to each other about me at a local bar. So.....if the girlfriend is done with me and hates me as much as she claims to, why the hell would she meet with my ex to talk about me? My plan right now is to leave her alone until maybe Friday, then call and ask if she would like to go to dinner or meet up for a drink.
thefooloftheyear Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 The stuff I read on this site is sometimes almost impossible to fathom.... Woman seeks RO and calls a guy a bunch of demeaning names.....So he proceeds to bang her....and she complies?? I have no clue bro....I am sure some other members will offer some well thought out and psychologically sound reasons, and what to do from here, but quite frankly, I am lost... Good luck... TFY
Gloria25 Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 (edited) Your gf is trying to sort herself out when it comes to her feelings about you. I'm going through that right now with dude. I have moments where I am upset, and moments when I just wanna wrap my arms around him. Like one time we met up after a spat and I just melted. I told him that with that face I just can't stay angry with him. And yes, the sex we had after the spat was a bit intense. I said some things and literally kissed his feet. Umm, makes me think of that Kiara song, "Que Bello" (how beautiful). And to sum up a translation of the lyrics she's like after they have sex she's like ready to go, but he serves her a tea, she looks and says 'You're so beautiful and sensual that I don't know if I should leave now or "after" (well, after they have sex again)'...and yeah, in the song she has sex with him again and says how she likes how he does this/that, the jealousy... About reaching out to your ex? Women are wierd. We wanna know all the gory details of what you did with 'her', why 'her'...to the point that we may even temporarily form an alliance with 'her' to get the jucy details. I've never tried to befriend the woman a guy wants besides me....I do a lot of Fakebook stalking and asking people about 'her'. But dude, it's over. I've been there and done that. You go back and try to make it work, but once the trust is broken it's like you can't move past what he did to you. You may get a few steamy sexual encounters with your gf, but she's hurt and after she sorts herself out, it'll be officially over. So, don't meet up and sex anymore, just walk away from all of this and next time be more careful of someone's heart. Edited August 9, 2016 by Gloria25
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