NTV Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 Here's the situation. I have had the truth...I have phone tracking results, emails, FB messages. She has 'fessed up and I sent her away to her folks so I could deal with this. She wants to make this work. She is in IC to dig up why this happened, I am in IC to process this and work on the evil, vindictive streak that manifests itself in me when things like this happen. I appreciate all the advice and comments, but ultimately, I have spent seven years with her, married for three and the girl who did this, is not the girl I married. She needs to explore what led her down this path and, in reality, these last three months are a small fragment of the time we have spent together and an even smaller fragment of the rest of our lives. The POS will get nothing out of this. I refuse to let this subhuman take anything of my life. If I can find a (legal) way to completely destroy his life...then he will get what will be coming. We are also in couples counselling to work through this. I am under no illusion that this will be a long, sometimes difficult time ahead, but I'm not giving up on this. If it ever happens again, well.... you can all say 'we told you so'...... What's really screwed with my hate for the AP's my ww was entertaining is that they could have literally been anyone. Just random dicks off Ashley Madison. Could have been anyone. So do I hate that website? heck yeah. it may not be evil incarnate, but it does put evil incarnate into a bag and pass it through the drive-through window. I may have considered driving my truck through the front doors of the building if I could ever find it. Then anonymous came and did it for me in a way I couldn't even have imagined. good job, I'd say to them if I could. In kind of a twisted way, the internet can be a place filled with hateful trolls trying to enrage people on news stories, scam artists seeking to con folks out of money, pornography by the terabyte, and a million other horrible things--including hackers. To think that even hackers don't want that kind of website around... well that feels really good to me. Sorry... kinda got off topic. What I meant to say is that it's okay to feel and desire and even fantasize about revenge. Heck, it would be weird not to. So if you need to vent here man, then do it all you need to. No one is judging you. And you really truthfully do need a safe place to let all the rage and pain and sadness out in a healthy way. Or at least a non-destructive way--mental health being debatable and all that. So... I hear ya. That dude deserves ever horrible thing he's done to come back seven fold. But you man, owe it to yourself to take care of you first. Revenge can be served cold. Letting something like this take hold and twist you up in a pretzel... well revenge won't really mean all too much if that happens, right?
BluesPower Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 OP Keep posting about how you feel and how you are doing. It will help to keep talking. And no one is judging you for trying to reconcile. From your description, she really is remorseful and that is a really good start. I you knew what I have done with my situation, you might have a different opinion. Keep yourself together. And as cliché as it sounds, On day at a time. Peace...
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