longjohn Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Well a few months back I met another lady as it turns out she's 10 years older than I. I didn't know that at the time and to be honest I was more focused on the fact this lady and I really seemed to click there was a definite spark there and an attraction by both parties. She lives a few hours away so we don't get to see each other quite that much but after a lot of talking and being up front and honest with each other we decided to see where things go. It's actually really refreshing to meet someone that's to the point about what they want no more guessing games for me. My question I suppose is I've never dated anyone this much older than myself before and I know there's the thought in the back of her head that I might leave for another younger woman or I might find her "too old". She has admitted her last couple of relationships ended in her being cheated on. Which is $hit because she's very intelligent and very, very attractive. Age aside we're both in the same stages of our lives, no children, careers are going vertical, little debt, own our own places and so on. I personally don't see age as an issue here but I do sense she does or at least it adds some insecurity which from past experience might well be justified. I plan to not mention the issue of age and focus on the fact we appear to genuinely like each other and enjoy each other's company and go from there.
Gaeta Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Excellent plan ! Enjoy it and with time those insecurities will dissipate. We are humans and all have flaws and insecurities. Seems hers are little ones that just need time. Good luck :-) 1
Ami1uwant Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 It's good you found someone you seemed to click with. What is your Ge and hers? This could be a factor. Do you want to have kids, does she ? Are you both pazt that point in your life? 1
Author longjohn Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 Thanks, it's really weird to click quite so much with someone but I feel 0 of the pressures of ladies in their 20's and 30's age group present. I don't mean to generalise at all but most I've met want to marry, pop out babies and live happily ever after without a second thought as to what I might want. I almost felt like over the years of dating I was on a conveyor belt with some ladies. I don't want children and at this point in my life I'm happy without and so is she so that's off the table. I'm mid 30's she's mid 40's so I think both know what we want out of this.
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