sparklesparkle Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Have any of you ever dated someone, where you went on a date with them everyday or every night? Or do you think that is too much?
sugarpuss Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Personally, that would be too much for me...1-2 dates per week would be more like it! Otherwise I think you risk getting burnt out or too attached too quickly. 1
TunaCat Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Whoa, this is WAY too much. Even when I was with my ex, I never saw him every single day. It depends on the individuals involved. Some like lots of time together to decide if they're good together, some are a lot more cautious about spending their time with someone else. 1
Els Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 When I was dating, 4-5 dates a week was common - and we were college students with quite a lot of spare time. For adults working full-time I'd say 2-3 dates a week is okay. Every day sounds a bit much. 2
gorf Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 You mean a "date" or just spending time together in some way? A date like dinner and a move, or just hanging out watching tv at home, or a walk in a park. Define date first, cause if it is a planned out in-advance sort of event, where money is put out, and clothing is picked out... a date.... then I would say every night or every other night is wayyyy way too much. Thats overkill insane. Anyone is going to get burned out and the date will quickly loose its meaning. Now if you mean more of "spending time together" and not a date, then I say it depends of the couple. Some people need lots of space, some people are cuddly and need that contact time, ya know, everyone is different. For dates, maybe once a week, once every other week. Mind you, we spend a lot of time together in-between. 1
Otter2569 Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 I don't think I want to see anybody every day or night! Way too much!!
todreaminblue Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 when i have gotten into dating it is always pretty intense...actually would like it to be more relaxed......1 or 2 times a week to start..i liek to be informed of visits.by anyone really...i liek to have adecent house and fro em to look decent........and it makes me a little anxious when dates just decide to come around and stay.....all day.....half the night.....it turns into not really a date...but me entertaining...fro a long time...adn it drains me..i like a quick phone call and an ask....i think and feel its respectful...i wouldnt just show up at their house.....so why should they to me.... so yes 1 to 2 times a week..and a bit of respect in the asking thing..and that would be sweet.....deb...
BikerAccnt Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Haven't seen anyone that often since...probably my late teens or early 20's. As an adult, we just don't seem to have that kind of free time anymore. I manage to see the woman I'm dating 1-3 times a week. Most often 2. It's just the way our schedules work out. Sure, we could pop over to see each other more often but, it wouldn't be quality time. After a 1/2 hour drive on a work night to get to each other , we'd have what? An hour or two together before one of had to drive back to get up for work? Weekend sleepovers add some extra time, but even those can be rare with kids/dogs/activities scheduled in.
Toodaloo Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 If I am with them all the time then how am I supposed to have time to go to my Yoga classes and dance classes? How am I supposed to have time to go and do the volunteering I do? I didn't spend every night with a significant other even when I was living with them... I have my life and interests and I want them to have theirs and enjoy theirs too. Twice a week is more than plenty for me thanks. More so in the early stages.
MissBee Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 (edited) That is too much for me personally. In the early stages between 1 and 3 times a week was fine. As we got more serious and became a couple then of course there were more sleepovers or full weekends together or seeing each other every other day or so...sometimes...in some weeks it was like that and others it wasn't. I do think it's healthy to give yourself some breathing room as things can get cloudy when it's too much too fast in my experience. You don't need to erect strict artificial boundaries, but give them a chance to miss you, give yourself time to see your own friends, take care of your own stuff, live your own life. I think that's healthiest, as I know and back in college was guilty of basically having a relationship take over my life, and I know some women who disappear into a cave with a guy when they start dating and then if it doesn't work out, 7 months have passed where you've abandoned your friends or made your whole social life about this person and now find it even more difficult to move forward. Even every other day seems reasonable to me. But make sure you're actually carving out time to be your own person and do things without them and live your own life too. Edited August 9, 2016 by MissBee
Redhead14 Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Have any of you ever dated someone, where you went on a date with them everyday or every night? Or do you think that is too much? Sparkles, is this about the same guy from your other thread? If so, everyday in the six weeks you two have been dating is too much. It will smother the relationship. A budding relationship, especially, needs to breathe. Twice a week at this point should be enough. You two need to keep your own lives and not cutting out every other aspect.
preraph Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 If someone has a job, that's usually going to be too often. People need some time to do their chores and have some down time. If you're not doing anything, then I don't see how you're affording to go on dates every night.
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