thebiglimp Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 I had this happen twice now within a year, almost same scenario, both very frustrating. This is the recent one. The other girl previous to it was way more flirty, with skinship, but rest are about the same. Met this girl for a drink and there was a solid connection. She seemed like a down to earth girl so i didnt try anything physical but at the end she did initiate hugging, and right after we parted she messeges me that she's had wonderful time, would love to get together again. So the next day we text back and forth setting up the next date, and at the end after i ask if the next weekend is ok, there is no reply. Almost 24 hrs later still no reply. I know not to be clingly, could be other factors blah blah, but these days and age, especially for people my city? Its already abnormal to not check the phone every 30 freakin min. So, is it A) did she play me to see how willing i was to see her again? B) did i make her back off because i was too aggressive with setting up the date?
sugarpuss Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 I'm sure you're fine. Maybe she didn't want to commit to the weekend yet. Maybe she had to check her schedule and forgot to text you back. I wouldn't let it deter you. Text her casually and ask again.
TXGuy Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Did you just ask if 'next weekend is ok'? Or did you ask her to do something specific next weekend? Some people are put off by an invitation that has no thought put into it (no plan made). I'm not one of those people, so I'm not beating you up here. I'm just passing along advice based on hard earned experience. I'm sure you felt that you just want to spend some time with her to get to know her better, the actual activity is not particularly important. That is typical guy thinking (I did/do it too). However, some women take offense to that and only respond to a more specific invitation that is explicit as to what day, what time, and what activity.
Ami1uwant Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 If you set up another date don't worry about it. Some prefer not to talk much between dates waiting to talk face to face.
Zippy2000 Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 "Almost 24 hours". Its just coming up for one day. Stop being so clingy and let people come to you. They may be busy at work, family or other commitments.
Author thebiglimp Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 the whole day we exchanged messages setting up the date and the last thing i asked was 'when', which is where she went cold. and cold she went. i know the pattern of these exchanges. my last message is being deliberately ignored. of course it's a best scenario if she's really that busy, but this is also the most unlikely scenario so i'd like to be consulted on the most likely scenario- she has gone cold.
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