NJ123 Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 (edited) So I've been chatting with a woman through text for about a week now. We did talk about meeting up in the middle of last week but I screwed that up due to inexperience where I couldn't come up with plans right away than she suspected I was inexperienced which I told her the truth that that was the case. It doesn't seem to bother her though. Anyways, than she went on some weekend trip this past weekend. Than earlier today she texted me first asking how my weekend was. I haven't heard from her in a few hours now though but I'm just wondering if that's a sign of still being interested. I just keep hesitating to ask her out again due to inexperience as well as me screwing it up the first time we tried making plans. But she still has my number & didn't delete it off her phone obviously since she texted me first today. I'm basically just wondering if I'm likely just in the friendzone now to her completely. Edited August 9, 2016 by NJ123
phineas Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Just ask her out. What is the problem? You want her to lose interest for good? Just keep doing what you are doing. 1
Author NJ123 Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 Just ask her out. What is the problem? You want her to lose interest for good? Just keep doing what you are doing. I just keep hesitating to after screwing it up the first time. I'm nervous as hell to do it again. I'll force myself to do it tomorrow if I don't get a response from my last text to her tonight.
smudge21 Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 Do you want her as a text mate or as a date? Decide what it is you do and don't want and stick to it. If it's just someone to text, even just a friend, then carry on as you are. If you want to date her and only date her, no friendzone thing, then make it clear. Ask when she's free and then suggest a place to go, make it clear you're seeing it as a date. If she's cold to the idea or makes excuses as to why she can't, then simply end with "okay, well give me a shout when you're free and we'll make a date" and then walk away. No more chatting about the weekend or anything. Once you open that door to constant texting, it's hard to close it.
longjohn Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 You just need to get back on the horse and try again, more so if we like the person. We all slip up from time to time ladies do it too. Just ask her out then your question of whether your in the friendzone will be answered. Don't allow yourself to linger in the friendzone if you do end up there. I know guys that ended up there and I've met ladies that have kept guys there. I hate being the new guy that comes along spots the other guy in the friendzone and immediately has her ditch him.
Toodaloo Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 I am going to give you a tip. It doesn't matter if you mess things up a bit or make bit of a fudge about it. What matters is that you know what you want and go for what you want. So just ask the girl out. One of three things will happen 1. She says yes - Yippieee! 2. She says no - ho hum but at least you know 3. She hums and has about it - in which case do the slow fade trick as this is what she will be doing anyway. So up you get, on the phone and just ask her out!
kendahke Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 I just keep hesitating to after screwing it up the first time. I'm nervous as hell to do it again. then don't expect her to do what you're afraid to do. Being turned down is a part of dating. Always has been; always will be.
preraph Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 If this is the same one who sent you sexy photos without you asking, she doesn't care if you're shy or not as long as you have money.
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