Frazzle Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 I have a coworker who is constantly playfully giving me a hard time. When we first met, she was already teasing me. It made me kind of uncomfortable because I had barely met her. She said I'm really nice and a "total sweetheart." One time she asked me if her eyeliner was still on because she was afraid it had smeared. I thought that was weird to ask a coworker. I gradually warmed up to her and we have a pretty good relationship. She still gives me a hard time and teases me all the time. Before she left for an extended leave, she asked me to take care of an item on her desk because of our fellow coworker. It was an inside joke but she seems to be particularly drawn to me. When she found out I was from another state, she said she would be mad if I left (jokingly). I am going to be leaving for another position soon and when she came back, she was really shocked. She jokingly said "I didn't agree to it." I can tell she was bummed out because even our supervisor said so. My supervisor said she asked why she didn't stop me from leaving. We have a pretty good relationship. I wouldn't call it flirting but we would tease each other. She would say things like "you're so mean to me" or "I just like to give you a hard time." Now I'm 30 and she's in her late 30's so maybe she sees me as her little brother. Or is it more? Thanks.
luna97 Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 I have a coworker who is constantly playfully giving me a hard time. When we first met, she was already teasing me. It made me kind of uncomfortable because I had barely met her. She said I'm really nice and a "total sweetheart." One time she asked me if her eyeliner was still on because she was afraid it had smeared. I thought that was weird to ask a coworker. I gradually warmed up to her and we have a pretty good relationship. She still gives me a hard time and teases me all the time. Before she left for an extended leave, she asked me to take care of an item on her desk because of our fellow coworker. It was an inside joke but she seems to be particularly drawn to me. When she found out I was from another state, she said she would be mad if I left (jokingly). I am going to be leaving for another position soon and when she came back, she was really shocked. She jokingly said "I didn't agree to it." I can tell she was bummed out because even our supervisor said so. My supervisor said she asked why she didn't stop me from leaving. We have a pretty good relationship. I wouldn't call it flirting but we would tease each other. She would say things like "you're so mean to me" or "I just like to give you a hard time." Now I'm 30 and she's in her late 30's so maybe she sees me as her little brother. Or is it more? Thanks. I can't speak for your situation, but that is exactly how my boyfriend (who is also my coworker) acted before confessing his feelings to me. How he made it progress was by texting me for work related things, then eventually texting for personal reasons. We have always had, and still have, a relationship based on teasing and giving each other a hard time. Good luck to you.
bu2002 Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 Those are signs she likes you I think you are interested in her otherwise you wouldn't be making a post on a message board. If you don't already have her number, then pull her aside one day and ask her to meet up for drinks one evening.
Author Frazzle Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 Those are signs she likes you I think you are interested in her otherwise you wouldn't be making a post on a message board. If you don't already have her number, then pull her aside one day and ask her to meet up for drinks one evening. I do kinda like her but I don't want to pursue anything since I'll be moving to another state soon. I did tell her to let me know if she's ever in the area.
jawswashington Posted August 10, 2016 Posted August 10, 2016 I think she's making it very obvious that she likes you. Now the question is if you like her. If you do, go for it. You have nothing to lose.
Ami1uwant Posted August 10, 2016 Posted August 10, 2016 I do agree she is interested in you. Just a slightly different perspective....sometimes people act to they know there isn't any hope of a relationship. I can see that in myself. If I wasn't even looking to date her...that it was off my radar because either one of us was already clearly married/ serious relationship.
Author Frazzle Posted August 10, 2016 Author Posted August 10, 2016 I do agree she is interested in you. Just a slightly different perspective....sometimes people act to they know there isn't any hope of a relationship. I can see that in myself. If I wasn't even looking to date her...that it was off my radar because either one of us was already clearly married/ serious relationship. Yea it's pretty hard to start any kind of relationship when I'm moving away soon. And plus the age difference makes me hesitant.
jawswashington Posted August 10, 2016 Posted August 10, 2016 Yea it's pretty hard to start any kind of relationship when I'm moving away soon. And plus the age difference makes me hesitant. Age is just a number.
Author Frazzle Posted August 11, 2016 Author Posted August 11, 2016 I told her to let me know if she's ever in the area. I'm not thinking of pursuing anything serious with her but if the spark is there, why not see where it leads? Was this the right move for me?
jawswashington Posted August 11, 2016 Posted August 11, 2016 I told her to let me know if she's ever in the area. I'm not thinking of pursuing anything serious with her but if the spark is there, why not see where it leads? Was this the right move for me? I'm assuming you want to be friends with benefits with her. There is nothing wrong with that. You extended the invitation and if she's up for it, she'll let you know.
Author Frazzle Posted August 12, 2016 Author Posted August 12, 2016 I'm assuming you want to be friends with benefits with her. There is nothing wrong with that. You extended the invitation and if she's up for it, she'll let you know. Well I'm not sure if that's what I want. I do enjoy spending time with her though.
deep_night Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 i think she likes you that's how id flirt with someone at work at least :3
jawswashington Posted August 13, 2016 Posted August 13, 2016 It's kind of problematic to get involved with your coworkers but if you're going to leave, there's nothing stopping you. Go for it!
Author Frazzle Posted September 10, 2016 Author Posted September 10, 2016 Just wanted to update you guys on this situation. On my last day at work, my coworker gave me her number and said "if I ever needed anything, just give her a call." She offered to round up some friends to help me move. I gave her my number in return and told her to let me know if she was ever in the area. She even came out to a farewell dinner I had with some other coworkers. I think this is a clearly indication that she is at least attracted to me in some way and would like to keep in touch correct?
jawswashington Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 Sounds like she's into you. Good luck.
utterer of lies Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 Don't be such a wuss and invite her out on a date already. Poor girl, sending you all these signals and you ignore them, revelling in insecurity.
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