The Next Big Thing Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 Im really not that experienced in this, thats why Im asking. Im university student 22 years old, never had a girlfriend. Im really social, the reason why Ive been always single is maybe because I was over-analyzing too much. Maybe even this thread/question is a bit of analyzing but I want to ask anyway because I want to be fair to another people in relationships. So 3 questions: How does a relationship with a girl change after: 1.You tell her you like her in a romantic way/have feelings for her. -scenario 1 - if she doesnt feel the same, will she try to avoid me all the time from then on? -scenario 2 - if she doesnt feel the same way, but we have known each other well/been friends, will she also try to avoid me or will she behave differently? (therefore I wonder if its even good to express the feelings if youre not sure if she feels the same way, to not destroy the relationship you have now) 2.You kiss her. -what is a girl expecting after a kiss? a relationship? -what happens if we kiss, just on one or maybe few occasions but nothing more...and we meet regularly, will the kiss change something between us? 3.You have sex with her. -how do I know if she expects relationship or just sex? -what if she wants relationship but not me or viceversa, so we had sex but nothing further ... how will out relationship change , if we meet regularly?
smudge21 Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 I'll answer all your questions in one: no one knows as everyone is different so instead of just expecting or wanting life to be certain way, jump in there feet first and experience it for yourself. Life is all about experiences, meeting people, making mistakes and learning from them. If you over think everything and start to pigeon hole every person and outcome, then you're not living life, you're playing a game with only a few possible endings. Where's the fun in that. You tell a girl you love her because you do; you kiss a girl because you want and you think she feels the same; you sleep with a girl because everything feels right and you both want to take it further. Sometimes things will go great, others they'll go bad... but that's what makes it fun. Life's a journey not a destination, so go travelling. 3
Author The Next Big Thing Posted August 8, 2016 Author Posted August 8, 2016 I'll answer all your questions in one: no one knows as everyone is different so instead of just expecting or wanting life to be certain way, jump in there feet first and experience it for yourself. Life is all about experiences, meeting people, making mistakes and learning from them. If you over think everything and start to pigeon hole every person and outcome, then you're not living life, you're playing a game with only a few possible endings. Where's the fun in that. You tell a girl you love her because you do; you kiss a girl because you want and you think she feels the same; you sleep with a girl because everything feels right and you both want to take it further. Sometimes things will go great, others they'll go bad... but that's what makes it fun. Life's a journey not a destination, so go travelling. Damn thats a great answer! Thank you, you just made me realize Im analyzing too much again. You are right, I should experience everything by myself. Thanks a lot 1
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