KamaKyzie Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 Hey all. I was going to ask her out and I would rather do that via phone than text. I texted her and said that I would call her if she was free. She replied "In the shower", so I replied "Text me when you're good". I haven't heard back from her since, so I'm mightily pissed off. Let's just say that if she contacts me today she's in for a hostile reception, you just don't treat people like that. What would you recommend I do now? Am I justified in being pissed off? Should I give her the cold shoulder, as I am a very pissed off guy right now?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 We need more details: 1) Who is this girl, exactly? In other words, how did you meet and have you gone out with her before? 2) How long has it been since you invited her to let you know when she's free to speak? 3) Why are you defaulting to hostility? She might have a very legitimate reason for not getting back to you.
gymgirl36 Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 We need more details: 1) Who is this girl, exactly? In other words, how did you meet and have you gone out with her before? 2) How long has it been since you invited her to let you know when she's free to speak? 3) Why are you defaulting to hostility? She might have a very legitimate reason for not getting back to you. All of this. Without knowing those answers, I would say you probably should back off the hostility. She could have gotten busy doing something else after her shower or might have had something come up. Find out what happened before you fly off the handle.
JewelD Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 Depends on how long it has been, but I don't think you should waste your time being hostile with her about it. You don't know what she was doing. She may have gotten tied up with something, she might not like talking on the phone, or maybe she's just not all that interested. You should consider why it makes you so angry though. People do some crappy things in dating, but this seems fairly minor.
Author KamaKyzie Posted August 8, 2016 Author Posted August 8, 2016 Depends on how long it has been, but I don't think you should waste your time being hostile with her about it. You don't know what she was doing. She may have gotten tied up with something, she might not like talking on the phone, or maybe she's just not all that interested. You should consider why it makes you so angry though. People do some crappy things in dating, but this seems fairly minor. 7 oclock last night my time, it's around 11:00am now, so quite a while. That's why I'm pissed off. Just a simple "Too tired to talk tonight" or some kind of explanatory text would have been just fine.
basil67 Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 Life is too short to get caught up in anger at such a relatively small thing. Yes, it's frustrating and disappointing....but NO, you're not justified in getting angry over this. Breathe in, breathe out, let it go. Learning not to sweat the small stuff if one of the best things we can do for ourselves. 4
bachdude Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 I don't see anywhere in your post where she agreed at all to text you back when she was out of the shower. Unless she promised to text you back, this is how much she owes you, Nothing You also sound like you have an anger problem. If you get hostile towards her for not texting you, I can promise that you will have a 0% chance of getting a date with her. 2
JewelD Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 7 oclock last night my time, it's around 11:00am now, so quite a while. That's why I'm pissed off. Just a simple "Too tired to talk tonight" or some kind of explanatory text would have been just fine. In that case, it sounds like you're not very high on her list of priorities. If I knew someone I liked was waiting on my text, I wouldn't wait that long to get back with them. But I wouldn't waste time being angry with her either, just decide (if she gets in touch) whether you want to still ask her on a date or whether you'll just ignore it. If you lash out at her, you're giving her too much power over your feelings.
Ami1uwant Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 7 oclock last night my time, it's around 11:00am now, so quite a while. That's why I'm pissed off. Just a simple "Too tired to talk tonight" or some kind of explanatory text would have been just fine. My gut feeling.....you two haven't met yet or had just one date. Tonight she had plans with friends or with another guy snd forgot about you.
JuanDelToro Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 Hey all. I was going to ask her out and I would rather do that via phone than text. I texted her and said that I would call her if she was free. She replied "In the shower", so I replied "Text me when you're good". I haven't heard back from her since, so I'm mightily pissed off. Let's just say that if she contacts me today she's in for a hostile reception, you just don't treat people like that. What would you recommend I do now? Am I justified in being pissed off? Should I give her the cold shoulder, as I am a very pissed off guy right now? You need to learn to relax and no it's not justified being pissed off for such things. Most of the girls act in similar ways, are you going to spend precious time feeling butt hurt? Not only you are punishing yourself by allowing negative emotions to take over, but it's also a counterproductive and inefficient practice to apply to your dating life. Deal it with humor, indifference, dust it off and move on. Simple.
Redhead14 Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 Hey all. I was going to ask her out and I would rather do that via phone than text. I texted her and said that I would call her if she was free. She replied "In the shower", so I replied "Text me when you're good". I haven't heard back from her since, so I'm mightily pissed off. Let's just say that if she contacts me today she's in for a hostile reception, you just don't treat people like that. What would you recommend I do now? Am I justified in being pissed off? Should I give her the cold shoulder, as I am a very pissed off guy right now? "In the shower", -- I guess she has a waterproof phone . . . but if I were her and she did contact you and was met with hostility, I'd tell you to take a shower yourself so you can get chill . . . Instead of being pissed off . . . I might assume that since she was taking a shower, she may have been preparing to to out somewhere and is busy. You told her to let you know when "she is good". If I'm preparing to go somewhere, I may be in a hurry and not have time to talk to some guy who texted me in the middle of preparations. And, why didn't you just call her to start with?
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